Now whenever we talk about players,
I kinda get into that older brother protective mode
for all you sexy single ladies
because I just know how some of these guys can really be.
I mean, I know who I was back in my early 20s
and I would tell all of you
to avoid that man like the plague.
Now I wouldn't categorize myself as like a player back then
because I was always very honest
and upfront about my intentions
when I wasn't at a point my relationship,
whereas a player is going to almost do anything he can
to manipulate you into having consistent sex with him.
And the worst thing is these guys will string you along
every single step of the way, giving you false promises
and even lies in order to keep you on the hook.
So fear not you sexy single ladies,
because in this video I'm going to be giving you,
seven red flags that a guy is a player
so that you can avoid these men like the plague
and find the right man for you.
Keep watching.
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Hey there, Adam Wilson from SexyConfidence.com
where I help you create your love story
and if you are ready to ward off all players from your life.
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Give this video like
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that says I don't want any more players in my life.
Now I got this question from one of my subscribers
on YouTube and I want to answer it for you.
Adam, please create a video
on the seven subtle yet serious signs
you've attracted a player, a narcissist
and or sociopath.
This would be incredibly helpful
for women everywhere.
Much love and thanks for all your wisdom.
What a blessing you are.
Catt, thank you so much for your question.
And for all of you watching,
if you want to ask me a question
whether it's on Instagram at Sexy Confidence or on YouTube,
just go ahead and leave a comment below this video
and I'll choose a few questions
to be able to answer in future videos.
So let's jump into those red flags
that a man is a player.
number one is that he has a player lifestyle.
Now this is incredibly common for people
who are in the entertainment space
or even the hospitality space.
Like for example musicians who are entertainers
or comedians are people who tour around a lot
even bartenders or people who work in hospitality,
people who are constantly out a lot
with a lot of other people,
a lot of other singles tend to have more
of a kind of player lifestyle
because they just have access to a lot
of other single women.
And in my particular case,
back in my early 20s, I used to be a dating coach
for men where I'd actually go out with a group of guys
and I would help them build their confidence
and overcome their social fears to be able to approach
and meet women just like yourself.
And needless to say, my lifestyle at the time
wasn't exactly set up for me being like
in a very healthy relationship
because I was constantly going out to singles bars
and lounge bars all the time.
And it really wasn't until I transitioned
to coaching women with Sexy Confidence
that I was able to get out of that lifestyle
and finally be in a healthy long term relationship.
Red Flag number two is that he's almost a little too smooth.
Men who are really good at picking you up
and are really smooth on that first date
are good for a reason because they do it a lot.
So beware if you meet a guy who just seems
like he's got every smooth answer and every witty thing
that he says just seems to click right there
the first time you meet him because chances are,
he's had a lot of practice.
And he's just practicing more with you.
And on the flip side, I should say
that all my closest guy friends
who are just really good guys like a good catch,
they're not only have a great like lifestyle to them,
but they also have great jobs, they have a lot to offer
in a relationship.
They're not necessarily the smoothest
when it comes to approaching a woman
or even on a first date.
It's not until you actually get to know them
on a second or even third date,
where you realize how incredible of a catch these guys are.
So don't allow yourself to get distracted
by the shiny light of these guys
who are really really smooth when they approach you
because chances are, they are actually more player side
than they are lifetime committed relationship type of guys.
Red flag number three is that the only thing
that seems to matter is getting you in the bedroom.
Does he seem to have no other interests
other than getting in your pants?
If you're getting the feeling
when you first start talking to a guy
that is only intentions are to hook up with you
then be very, very cautious.
It's likely that he's just a player.
Red Flag number four is that he's recently divorced
and he's dating a lot.
One pattern I've noticed with a lot of divorce men
and especially the divorce men
who got married the first time way too young,
is they come out of that divorce and they just want to live
that player lifestyle, like they've got money.
Now they've got the cool car, they want to just go out
and sleep with lots and lots of women,
so be cautious of these guys.
And if you're dating a guy who has just recently divorced
and clearly is trying to live that lifestyle,
be very, very cautious.
Red Flag number five is that your dates tend to be more
like hangouts than actual dates.
When you go on a real date with someone there tends
to be an undercurrent of just romance in the
in the conversation and it involves an emotional connection,
whereas a hangout or a meetup is more so just all about sex
and actually just kind of spending time together
and just flirting and that's all that's coming out of it.
So if you've been talking guy for the past couple months,
and you've never even had a meal with this guy.
And the only time you spend time with him
is past the hours of one a.m.
And it happens to be at a bar or a lounge
and you're grinding up against him
because you both are drunk.
Well, chances are he's just a player
and only interested in one thing.
And the final red flag is that he outright tells you
that he doesn't want a relationship.
Now, this is the only time where I will say
that words matter more than actions.
When someone tells you they don't want a relationship.
Listen to them, even if they're giving you all the signs
that they want to spend time with you
that they really like you that they love you even.
But if he's telling you, he doesn't want a relationship,
I don't care what actions he's giving you
what signs he's giving you.
Listen to him, he is being honest with you
that he's not at a point in his life
where he can actually commit and if you continue
to invest your emotional energy into this guy,
well from that point forward,
it's on you and this is everything
that I teach you when you get
to little love step number four
in my love accelerator coaching program,
little of step number four
is all about qualifying your dating options.
And that's when you're going out talking
to lots of different guys.
And looking out for the signs whether or not
this is a risky guy to get involved with
or if this is the type of guy you want
to invest your energy into.
These are the things that I dive into
once you get to little love step number four.
And if you've never heard me talk
about Little Love Steps you don't know what that is,
I recommend you check out Little Love Steps.com
where you can get a free training
where I'm going to walk you through
what I call the seven Little Love Steps.
And this is going to teach you
exactly how to go from feeling single, alone,
and unsure how to attract a great quality man
all the way to finding that man you can spend the rest
of your life with so make sure you head on over
to littlelovesteps.com. You're not gonna want to miss that.
And now let's hear from you in the comments below.
Have you ever dated a player and how did it go?
Thank you so much for watching.
I'll speak to you the sexy single lady next week.
Bye bye.