I remember reading this story and straight away feeling sick to my gut.
The story was about a man, lets call him greg, who falls in love with this one woman.
One day, the woman comes to greg with a very sad face.
She was crying, hissing, shedding tears all over the place.
Her face was all red, you could tell that she was clearly not happy about something.
Because greg had supposedly fallen in love with this women, he just couldn’t see her
like this.
He asks her, what happened.
Whats with all the crying and hissing?
It takes the women a good 10 minutes to finally clam down and gather her breathe to speak.
She tells greg that the doctors have told her about her failing kidneys.
In 6 months both her kidneys will fail.
greg didn’t know what to do, he simply calms the women as best as can and after all the
chit chat, she goes home.
That whole night, greg couldn’t sleep.
He thinks to himself, this might be a perfect opportunity To try and win her over.
Greg thinks that this is his perfect opportunity to make the women fall in love with him.
How?
By giving her one of his own kidneys.
Now truth be told, this is a nice gesture in itself.
That is, if greg was doing this out of good will.
But greg thinks, by doing this he will win the women over.
Anyways, greg tells the women that he will give her one of his kidneys.
The womens face lights up.
But heres the crazy part.
And After reading this part, I felt like slapping someone.
So After the surgery happens, greg goes and asks the women out on a date.
And note, at this time she is single.
She says yes, as she should.
But guess what happens next.
She cheats on him.
She leaves him for another man.
and what does greg do in return?
He keeps on messaging her, pleading her to come back.
He would even send flowers to her house from time to time, to some how win her over.
Now, even though looking back at the story, what greg did was not anything bad in itself.
But remember, attraction can’t be traded.
Meaning, you can’t buy attraction.
You can’t trade it with something else.
In this case, greg tried to trade the attraction with his own kidneys.
That exactly how a simp behaves, a beta male.
You give something in return for an expectation.
That’s one of the best ways to get cheated on and get your heart broken.
Why?
Because thats how you end up in the friend zone.
If all you are doing is simply fluffing the woman with all these different gifts, then
attraction will never happen.
The only thing that will happen, is a friend zone, and in some rare cases, a brother zone.
Of course what the women did to greg was disrespectful, but man up and own up to it.
Make a commitment to yourself to Never again put any woman on a pedestal, except God alone.
I suggest you note this line down.
Attraction cannot be bought or traded.
Of course, you might get a bunch of gold diggers from your money, and you could call that buying
attraction.
But at the end of the day, thats still no true attraction.
Because the minute she sees the next gold, then guess where she’s headed now?
The only way to build true attraction is to let the male and female dynamics kick in.
Thats right.
Think of it like a magnet.
On the magnet, there are two parts.
The north and south pole.
How do you think these two poles attract each other.
By trading goods?
By giving each other kidneys?
nope.
There’s only one way.
That’s to let their polarities combine.
When you learn this simple hack, you understand male and female attraction.
This is why Most men end up in the friend zone, because of their own silly mistakes.
Now imagine, theres a very good man.
He fears God and tries to do good where ever he can.
He donates to the poor, he feeds the hungry and so on.
Now, if this man gives the woman his kidneys, then by all means its well and good.
Why?
Because he would do that for anybody.
No matter their skin, age or gender.
Because he is what you would call a good, God fearing man.
But if you are simply doing this to please the women or win her over, then you are already
off to the wrong start.
Instead of focusing on what to give her, focus on what you can make her feel.
So instead of focusing on the expensive Gucci handbags to buy for her, focus on your conversation,
your vibe, your connection, your status, your grooming and fitness.
These things play the biggest role in male and female dynamics.
By all means buy her gifts, but without having expectations in return.
Simply do good for the sake of doing good, because you would do that for anyone.
Coming back to the original story, you can’t control the reaction of the woman, but you
can control your own actions.
If greg was simply donating his kidney so the woman would fall in love with him, then
he’s already off to a wrong start.
why?
Because attraction cannot be bought or traded.
Note that down.
If he was doing it simply out of good will, then he would never have gotten hurt, because
he had no expectations from the women to later fall in love with him.
And secondly, if he does find out that the woman is cheating on him, then stop raising
the pedestal.
Walk away with your respect.
this is not just the case with greg.
Many times I see young men, especially in their twenties who fall in love with every
second woman they see.
And how do they plan on winning them over?
By buying them gifts and trading things in return for attraction.
It might work in the start, you might even get the women for a while.
But she will eventually leave, because the male and female dynamics never kicked in.
Its like building a house with no firm foundations.
If the male and female dynamics and hypergamy and connection were never there in the foundation
to begin with, then even if you do get the house on top, but it will eventually fall.
So brothers.
Respect yourself.
If you do find yourself being a simp and doing any of these beta actions, then walk away
with your respect.
Don’t go down further into the rabbit hole.
And once again, remember.
Attraction cannot be bought or traded.
It can only be cultivated.
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