started to feel inferior to other people because they would make fun of
of my skin like my hair my features
i'm getting emotional breaks my heart makes me so sad like hey guys it's neca and dominique what's
going on you know what time it is sorry guys i had glasses because i got a like a rock in my eye
i'm just kidding but these are this is what it's for on the bike to prevent rocks in the eyes
what's going on what's up where do you come up with these things
this one may dominate imagine living with me guys how you know yeah imagine okay so and uh my shirt
sorry for it's wrinkled it's just you know uh at the place we're at right now there's no evapota
steamer or eyeliner and uh it is what it is yeah okay guys so i posted on my instagram story and
asked you guys if you were going through things let us know we'll give you guys advice and we'll
be posting a video today so the first question is i hate being dark skinned how do i change
that maids this is honestly so heartbreaking for me to hear whenever young breaks matter yeah
yeah young dark-skinned girls feel like this because growing up i had
a lot of friends that did feel like that and i'm getting emotional but what i can tell you
honestly is to so this is like the number one thing you can do is literally surround yourself
with people that genuinely love who you are because how you feel it's literally
a product of your environment there's something around you that's making you feel like that
and for a lot of my friends and like for me too like at some point i felt like i wasn't
good enough especially like i went to like an all-white school there's literally like only
like three black people that were at my school so of course you know i started to feel inferior to
other people because they would make fun of of my skin like my hair my features so i would say
to just know that it's temporary like that when you're in high school you think that high school
is forever that life is always going to be like yeah but just know like it's that's not even
it's not even the beginning it's not even anything literally high school is it's really not that deep
like those people that make fun of you or those people that make you feel like that whatever
circumstance you're in just know that you're gonna rise above it and just know that there's a
lot of people that feel like that and i feel like instead of yeah and instead of like making people
feel because a lot of people make fun of girls that oh i don't like being dark-skinned this
isn't that it's not time to make fun of them you have to like remind them show them why
it's not a time to shame them to make fun oh why do you feel like that because society
will literally make someone of a darker skin complexion feel inferior and it's just a fact
that's what's so sad like i understand that i'll never understand but i'm not oblivious to the fact
of like i see what's going on in society and like that's i think like the big aspect it's like a
brainwash you know like you know they they put the beauty standard up there and like everyone wants
the beauty standard so it just breaks my heart makes me so sad like questions like that yeah
it's and it's very real i get that all the time oh my god not good because of you i'm embracing my
being dark skinned i'm embracing my features and it's like even when my mom goes to congo
she says all the time like the billboards it's always lighter skin lighter skin when you watch
tv it's so rare to find darker skinned women you know like on tv like representation matters so
just know that thank god 20 22 mates things are changing we're still working yeah things
need to change and there shouldn't be one beauty standard obviously it's impossible to succumb to
one beauty standard because everyone's different right there should be multiple different types of
beauty standard and like everyone has their own beauty standard within themselves and outside of
themselves too that needs to be accepted i think it's just crazy to me that like 2022 and like
i want to be optimistic and say like things will change but it's just like
it's a very slow road and it's a mental illness for the the people that like make darker skin
people feel like trash lesson they are sick they're not normal how can you look at someone
based on their skin color and be like ew you're so ugly it's it's a mental illness it's not like it'd
be the same as if you look at someone but because of the eyes of their skin like the eyes of the
skin the color of their eyes you feel some type of way like it makes no sense and the thing is like
skin color unless you bleach or do all these bad things it's not something that you can change and
it's not something that you don't want to change you were born like that and you are beautiful so
just literally from the bottom of my heart so like surround yourself with people that have your best
interests at heart tell your friends you know and that's that's the number one thing i can tell you
it's your surroundings if people and speak about it i don't know if you have family that you can
talk to but speak about it yeah write it down don't let it bundled up that's the worst thing
you can do because it's only going to make things worse and it's a lie you are beautiful dark is
beautiful dark is lovely you lose we would perm well we when when i was younger my mom
used to like perm my hair or whatever and like um on the the boxes it was like dark is lovely
yeah it's a box with the hair and they think it was dark it's lovely that was my favorite
and it's true dark is lovely like i feel like there's tons of reasons why people feel that
way but just know that if one of the reasons is for other people you need to know like for love
you want to appease more because society puts it a certain way you like just know that someone will
love you for you right like and if you if you feel like you need to change for someone then that's
not the right person right you need to like i see women bleaching their skin oh my husband likes
light-skinned women he likes it he doesn't like you like what are you gonna do when your children
come out dark like how you were you know it makes no sense so it everything's very deep it's very
very deep it's exciting society it's very sad but and don't let society impact your life you know
like if society tells you something that doesn't mean that that's the only way or the right way
and especially us we used at the beginning when we first started date like a youtube channel people
used to like nitpick on me they're like ew how was dominic with a girl like naca like she doesn't
even wear wigs like look at her like because like the world would make you think like if you look
like me because i'm just a regular girl like you see girls like me all the time down the streets
like i'm typical mates and i like that i don't want to be outstanding i'm just i'm a regular girl
and like for some reason they thought dominic was holier than ho so beautiful and they're like how
can he be with a basic black girl how can he and they would like nitpick oh he's just with
her because of her body no he's with me because i'm an amazing beautiful girl you don't spend
the rest of your life with someone yeah like when i read that i feel sorry for the people
writing that stuff because like they're the ones who need prayer they're the ones who need you know
to be thought about because they're the ones going through stuff so much hate within themselves that
they need to put it on to other people yeah it's disgusting me but hopefully it's a mental illness
it's a mental illness mate it's not normal and if you're one of those people that like
doesn't like people like doesn't date people based on their skin color you need to pray look within
yourself there's something that's not right within yourself you it's not normal no no one
is born like that yeah like that's a problem yeah that idea that feeling was put into you
by something or someone next question dating into a family that's rich and you're from a poor
background and not being liked by my boyfriend's sister that's an interesting question because
we've had the reverse often yeah very often where like people don't want to date someone poor
so like asking it from the other perspective yeah interesting oh that's a good one i would
say it starts with your man when it comes to family member like if i have an issue with
like someone let's well i don't but if i had an issue with someone in dominic's family i would
address dominic it's dominic's responsibility to talk to them to be the right or die and i need to
be the right or die for you yeah i mean do you think that let's say we we're well let's see
so me and you and um so let's say um i didn't like your brother me and your brother didn't get along
who would do you feel you'd have more loyalty to me or your family member you
really yeah you think so if i'm gonna spend the rest of my life with you
minority lies within for you yes you know i would i would try to like you know mediate
or like try to resolve it and like get both sides of the story and kind of see
what you know the problem is if like a situation happen that i believe 100 that you're wrong and my
brother is right then i'm gonna tell you that like i think you didn't do it right yeah or whatever
you should maybe apologize or something like that or vice versa right and if one of them doesn't
then you know i think that's the thing like a lot of people they don't tell the significant
others when they're in the wrong they just pick a side yeah or they're scared to say like their true
thoughts you know like let's say i have a strong opinion but like i don't want to say it to hurt
your feelings or something like that but like you can't because then it's going to create resentment
yeah and i notice a lot of people in relationship when there's an issue they don't speak about it
they like hide it how do i we get so many things like oh my boyfriend did this to me how do i tell
him you just you're in a relationship with someone especially if you're like thinking about getting
married this is someone you're going to spend the rest of your life with me and dominic sometimes
we have conversations and we're crying because it's just like fears as well that we talk about
and we're crying like this is your forever person mates like you need to be so comfortable with that
if you're not comfortable saying or discussing anything and everything with your significant
other then you need to kind of re-question your relationship because you shouldn't be
scared to approach them yeah a problem or like a situation or like opinion or something like that
but and then like i would say like for the the question about the money how like you would have
to put yourself into their position yeah meaning like pretend that you are the parents or the
family you know and then your son's dating you or just someone that doesn't have money and then they
come for money what would you like them to do as a parent to show like for them to prove themselves
or show themselves to you like you could kind of show that in the future you know you do have a
future plan you are going somewhere you got a plan for life you got a thing and then like reminding
don't be a deadly they you know maybe they didn't even then but no one just is like born into money
if their parents were rich but their parents weren't born and then like some time aligned
the timeline they had to work for it and to build it as like build the empire right so
like just show that you're willing to build that empire and that you'll do whatever it takes and
work hard and grind to achieve your goals you know and then like if they see the ambition
to drive the motivation inside of you they're gonna accept you if you might be different yeah
like imagine that perspective that scenario versus another scenario where like it's the same thing
but like that person has nothing going for them yeah obviously you know what i mean like you can
kind of see what the point of view would be right because the parents they kind of want the best the
best for their children yeah but some parents are extra you got to show that you are the best
yeah exactly right and like don't let your anger and like you know like all these imagination
things cloud your judgment just always be the better person if they want to be disrespectful
sit there with grace and be like you know what at the end of the day
you won't see the grandkids if you can't respectful you're the one i lost you hold
the door last night i'm crying now but i'll be laughing later oh can i see the ground
you let me tell you you oh you you have the upper hand you may not look like it now just wait
because it's temporary if if the grinding the ground is there you know it should build a
fire like you want to prove them wrong like you want to be like yo it should it should
ignite the fire within you to even be better all the time and strive to be better oh i'm
happy we don't have to deal with stuff like that yeah but stay strong okay how do you start fresh
when you've hit pretty a pretty low point and you're trying to resurface oh that's d i'll take
one step at a time you can't try and tackle too much at the same time especially the beginning
because then that's when you might get discouraged and it's just like too much going on at the same
time so make yourself a plan of what you want to achieve you know it could be next month or like
you can start small like this week or like this month and then next year then like next couple
years and then how are you going to achieve that how what are you going to do to achieve that and
then you know what i always say like for example like if you want to come here and you're here if
you look to get there it might be discouraging it might be like you lose motivation it might be very
hard but if you're just like what does it take just to get here it's a lot easier to get here
than to get all the way here right once you're here then you look what do i need to go here
and then you know here and then here at the end then you're just a little bit distance from
the end goal right so and that's true dominique always says that i'm the type of person where like
when i want something i think too far ahead and sometimes i get discouraged like really fast and
i want to do so many things and dominic is just like we need to think of like right now like today
what are we going to do tomorrow because like and that's why like dumplings dominic balances
me out because it's just like i stress myself out for nothing i worry about things that aren't here
so it's all about like a mental state like i'm working on my mental state because sometimes my
mental is my biggest downfall me so just be aware of your mental state like if you can't get to the
next step ask yourself why why can't you do it what is stopping you and then so whatever is
stopping you fix that i think the biggest thing too like if you want to be somewhere if you want
something life you need to ask yourself why you need to find your wife everyone has a different
why once your why is very strong and is strong enough you'll be basically do whatever it takes
right to get it you're gonna be if it requires you to get up every morning at four in the morning you
know but your why is very strong you're going to be willing to do it literally that's why like a
lot of people they like sometimes that they want their own business but like they don't realize
that when you have your own business you work the hardest yeah and you know you you don't work eight
hours seven hours nine to five or whatever with breaks and stuff you grind 12-hour days you know
you wake up you go to bed late you wake up in the morning like your only determination is to like is
your business and to like make it successful right especially at the beginning at the beginning but
it like people don't see that they just see the end result but they don't see the whole grind but
like that's because their why is strong enough and they like it you know i mean like me personally
i'm kind of like that i would rather work like 15 hours a day for myself to do something i want
than to work for someone else eight hours easier life steady life whatever whatever i would rather
you know put it in the sweat put in the hard work yeah but something for us people get comfortable
it goes down to the y again yeah but that was it you guys that was three in-depth questions 100
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