So I cut my hair bald recently.
This is what I looked like before, and this is what I looked like after I shaved my head.
Why did I do this?
Just trying out a new look, testing to see if it clears any toxic energy that was there
before.
Shoutout to Spiritual So.
Are people going to judge, and crack jokes?
Absolutely.
Do I care?
Absolutely not.
You see kids...
I used to be a mega simp.
I hate using that term, and one of my previous videos will confirm that, but it’s true.
I had major insecurity problems.
Never gave myself enough validation and confirmation of my attractiveness.
It got to a point where, just out of curiosity, I asked 2 random girls to rate me on a scale
of 1 to 10, and you want to know what’s funny?
They both said I look like a ten.
You might think, “oh that’s great, it confirms you’re good looking.”
First of all, it doesn’t confirm anything, and second, I find that whole situation sad
as hell.
I didn’t have enough self-love to rate myself a ten, and I had to rely on 2 random strangers
to give me that validation.
Now, I would be lying if I said I didn’t receive somewhat of a confidence boost right
after, but still, it shouldn’t matter what 2 random people think about my looks.
This advice is something Kyle needed to hear in the South Park episode “The List”.
Which is also the episode I am going to be talking about today as it relates to the topic of unattractiveness.
The story begins with hype going around the school about a list the popular girls made
that rates every boy in their class from cutest to ugliest.
Kyle is the only one telling the kids to not worry about a stupid list because who cares,
but once it is revealed he is dead last on that list, he gets insulted by it.
To make matters worse, whenever they get the chance, Kyle’s quote-unquote “friends”
tease him about his place on the list.
We could argue about whether or not it’s right for society to make lists, to compare
people, and to put them in different categories, but that’s not AS important as this main
point I’m about to make.
It’s obvious we all have our personal biases, and that’s fine for the most part, we all
have our “type” if you will, but what I really want you to pay attention to is HOW
Kyle responds to this list.
He doesn’t reject the list, by calling it bs, instead he buys into it, and believes
it as if it’s factual.
The main problem here is the lack of self-love.
But there is this part of the episode when he gets some sense knocked into him, and encourages
the other kids that also feel ugly to snap out of it.
I think this is some great advice.
I can recall a couple of moments in my life where I didn’t want to look at myself in
the mirror, but after a simple haircut, or after a good workout I immediately felt better
about myself.
It’s little things like that that can bring your confidence back up.
Of course, you could argue about the advantages of those folks with model-like physical features who
don’t have to try as hard to get choosing signals, but I don’t want people to get
the impression that those types of people, usually the popular kids in school, have life
simply handed to them.
Not only is that a terrible mindset to have, but as Abraham Lincoln points out in this
episode, that’s not true.
There is another side to their story.
The moments when their ability to create, or to express themselves in ways that have
nothing to do with their looks is put to the test.
And since some of them grow too reliant on the physical part of themself and not so much
the mental, that only hurts them in the long run.
Then there are those individuals who growing up never received ANY form of validation from
others about their looks, and they had to fight, and work extremely hard to finally
receive any form of attention or recognition.
You might think this isn’t fair, but this obstacle actually helps these people reach
high levels of success, because they’re too busy focusing on their passions in life,
and what do you think happens because of this?
They eventually attract friends, and relationships that go deeper than just looks.
We want to be thought of as attractive by the majority of people we run into because
we want more girls to like us, or if you're a girl watching this video, we want more guys
to give us validation, but let's say for example, you WERE considered the hottest guy or girl
in your school.
So you get the sex and validation easily and effortlessly, and you think that’s the dream
life, but you’re sadly mistaken.
You see, because you’ve lived your whole life spoiled, unsatisfied and haven’t stayed
disciplined, it leads to you making foolish decisions, and it isn’t until you finally
reach your 30s, and your looks start to fade, when you finally realize you’ve done absolutely
nothing meaningful in your life so far than hook up a bunch of men or women and none of
them were wife or husband material.
At the end of the episode, when Kyle is given an opportunity to see the real results of
the list the girls made, he burns it.
Why?
Because it doesn’t matter what people think.
Even if you think you are the most ugly person on the planet, I can almost guarantee you,
there are multiple people that will find you good looking.
All you have to do to attract those people into your life, is to start believing you
are attractive yourself.
You are not giving your body, or yourself enough love.
There is no way you should rate yourself anything lower than a ten out of ten.
If you want other people to accept your looks as they are, you must first accept yourself
as you are.
You don’t have to believe you’re good looking at first, but with practice and consistency
of looking yourself in the mirror every single day, and saying to yourself out loud that
you are attractive, your subconscious mind will start to believe it.
And it will be true.
Because this idea of ugly vs beautiful... it’s an illusion.
You are beautiful by default.