No one can be positive all the time, that’s not even the goal.
A healthy criticism, being able to speak up, these are great qualities.
But there’s a fine line not to cross.
And one type of people consistently crosses that line.
They are complainers.
But the problem is they don’t complain to their managers or those who could help change
things.
Instead, they complain about their managers or about their job to their colleagues.
Constantly, every day.
They contribute nothing to solve the problems.
Solving problems is not their battleground.
Their battleground is you.
Turn you into complainer.
I am 100% sure you must have come across one of these people at some point in your career.
They are the cancer of any organization.
Here’s why; Every single day at work, you’re bombarded
by microfeedback, good or bad.
It could be a praise, a compliment or a criticism, negative feedback from your manager.
These are just part of our daily work.
But each time you get a negative feedback, they are the times when you are most fragile.
Just for a fraction of a second you think; Do I have a bad manager?
Am I working for a bad company?
Is the culture dead?
These are just seeds.
Like a flash comes and goes.
But because you’re so fragile at that time, you can be pushed at either end very easily.
Somebody says, ah don’t worry about it, your manager likes you very much, you’re
working for a great company,.
Then you’re back to normal.
You carry on with your day.
But when one of these whiners show up, that’s when you get in to trouble.
They exaggerate things to no limit.
Such a small thing becomes a huge deal with the way they complain.
They badmouth your manager, they plant the seeds of doubt then they leave until the next
opportunity.
Then, you’re all alone thinking about this.
Yes, my manager really is a bad person.
Yes, the culture here really is destructive.
Yes, I can really get a much better job.
I deserve better.
So, those negative thoughts, just little seeds you had, turn into beliefs with the help of
that whiner.
You start believing that you really are working for a horrible manager.
The hormones start kicking in.
And the worst part is when you let that person in your life more often than necessary, then
those beliefs eventually turn into convictions.
For some people, it takes just a few weeks, for some people months, but eventually it
does happen.
That’s when you are in trouble.
It’s not very easy to break down convictions.
You can no longer do that alone.
Your mind is already made up.
It’s almost too late.
Now with all your heart and your mind, you’re convinced that you can no longer be happy
there.
Eventually, either your performance decreases drastically to a degree that you get fired,
or that you quit because you’re so unhappy.
Every little thing at work starts to bother you.
Do you know what is the worst?
The worst part is that you lose your job and you realize that the whiner is still there,
still getting his salary, still building a career, and still not raising any issues to
management.
But you’re out.
You end up becoming the victim.
It takes you about 2 weeks at home to come this realization.
These people are the cancer of any company.
They are impossibly hard to identify until very late stages because they almost never
ever voice their concerns to management.
They conduct their sneaky little businesses with the unsuspecting friendly colleagues.
I truly hope you don’t become a victim to their underdeveloped characters.
See you next week