KNOW
KNOW SAID
KNOW SAID ANYTHING. >> AMAZON HAS YOU READY TO GO.
>> SERIOUSLY.
>> SERIOUSLY. >> WE'VE BEEN TALKING ALL WEEK
ABOUT MICHELLE OBAMA, SHE CAME
OUT FRIDAY AND WE HAD ARE HERE
ON THE SHOW SHARING HER
PERSONAL STRUGGLE WITH
INFERTILITY. AS MENTIONED ONE
IN EIGHT COUPLES IN THE U.S.
SEEK TREATMENT FOR INFERTILITY
ONE OF FOUR PREGNANCIES END IN
MISCARRIAGE AND WE WANT TO
SHARE THE REALITY OF THAT
EXPERIENCE.
EXPERIENCE. SHELLEY AND I SAT DOWN WITH
FOUR PEOPLE IMPACTED BY
INFERTILITY IN DIFFERENT WAYS
INCLUDING JAKE AND LESLIE, A
COUPLE WHO WENT THROUGH I.V.F.
TO BUILD THE FAMILY.
ALL OF US AGREED THE TREATMENTS
AFFECT OUR PARTNERS AND
RELATIONSHIPS MORE THAN WE
THOUGHT.
THOUGHT.
THOUGHT. >> I WAS WONDERING, YOU CAN
CHIME IN, HOW YOU DEALT WITH
GRIEF AND INFERTILITY?
BECAUSE I THINK ABOUT MY
HUSBAND, TOO.
HUSBAND, TOO. >> FOR US IT WAS REALLY LIKE WE
ARE FIXERS SO I THINK FROM THE
MALE PERSPECTIVE WE TRY TO
OVERCOMPENSATE BY TRYING TO FIX
THE SITUATION AND BE THERE FOR
SUPPORT SO THAT,
STORY
STORY THAT IS A LOT OF WHAT TOOK PLACE.
TOOK PLACE. YOU MENTIONED THE SHOTS AND THE
DIFFICULTY GOING THROUGH THAT.
IT'S TOUGH ON A RELATIONSHIP.
IT IS A PROCESS. DIFFICULT TO
NOT HAVE TO STRUGGLE WITH
INFERTILITY BUT THEN ALSO AN
IMPACT ON OUR RELATIONSHIP AS
WELL.
WELL.
WELL. LIKE A DOUBLE WHAMMY.
IT IS REALLY CHALLENGING BUT
ALSO WHEN YOU HAVE SOME SUCCESS
IT DOESN'T GO WITHOUT THE RISK
PART. YOU LOOK BACK LIKE WHILE
WE WENT THROUGH A TOUGH TIME
BUT WE OVERCAME.
WE CAN SPIN THAT INTO A
POSITIVE LIGHT AS WELL TOO.
>> THAT SOMETHING THAT I TRIED
TO IGNORE IN A REALLY BAD WAY
AND MY HUSBAND WAS THE ONE, WE
TALKED ABOUT WOULD WE EVER TRY
FOR ANOTHER KID.
DO YOU REALIZE HOW THAT
IMPACTED OUR RELATIONSHIP WITH
EACH OTHER AS A HUSBAND AND WIFE
OVER THE LAST SIX YEARS.
>> HOW DID IMPACTED?
>> EVERYTHING IT WAS A POSITIVE
IN THAT WE LEARNED, WE WERE
FORCED TO LEARN REACH
COMMUNICATE DIFFERENTLY ABOUT
THINGS.
THINGS.
THINGS. WE WERE FORCED TO LEARN WE
GRIEVE DIFFERENTLY AND THAT
MADE US A BETTER COUPLE. ALSO
OUR ENTIRE WORLD WE HAD TO PLAN
TRIPS AROUND THE TRANSFER.
THINGS LIKE THAT BEING AT A BAR
OH NO THE BATHROOM STALL I HAD
TO GIVE MYSELF A SHOT IN THE.
>>>
>>>
>>> IT
>>> IT AFFECTS EVERYTHING. BY THE
WAY EVEN IF YOU STOP TRYING
EVERY MONTH YOU EITHER FIND OUT
YOU ARE PREGNANT OR YOU ARE
NOT.
NOT.
NOT. WE
NOT. WE TOOK A YEAR OFF EVEN THOUGH
I DON'T OVULATE EVERY MONTH I
WAS LIKE MAYBE THIS MONTH.
>> REPEAT PTSD MULTIPLY THAT AS
MANY YEARS AS PEOPLE TRY.
>> THAT'S ALL YOU TALK ABOUT IS
A COUPLE.
A COUPLE.
A COUPLE. >> I THINK THE INTIMACY TOO
BECAME A STRUGGLE.
A NUMBER TIMES ON MY LUNCH
BREAK IT WAS LIKE I LIVED CLOSE
BY SHE'S LIKE YOU NEED TO COME
HOME NOW.
HOME NOW.
HOME NOW. AND IS LIKE WELL -- -- OVER
TIME AT FIRST OH THIS IS COOL
BUT THEN IT BECAME AN EFFORT
AFTER A WHILE.
AND THEN EVERY MONTH WHEN IT
DIDN'T HAPPEN OR EVERY WEEK
AFTER THE SHOTS AND EVERYTHING
IT WAS ANOTHER LET DOWN. PICK
THE PIECES UP AGAIN AND GO FOR.
>> WE HEARD FROM AN AMBASSADOR
FOR WAS ALL THE NATIONAL
INFERTILITY ASSOCIATION AND WE
HAVE FOR EVERYONE IN THE GROUP
THROUGHOUT THE WEEK.
WE WILL POST A LINK TO
RESOURCES AND MORE
CONVERSATIONS ON A WEBSITE
INCLUDING A LONGER VERSION ON
THE TOPIC OF ADOPTION TEXT
SUPPORT.
SUPPORT.
SUPPORT. >> SUCH A GREAT CONVERSATION,
INSIGHT INTO WHAT SOME OF US
HAVE NOT EXPERIENCED IN HEARING
HOW THAT IMPACTS A
RELATIONSHIP.
RELATIONSHIP. YOU THINK IT WILL HELP A LOT OF
PEOPLE.
PEOPLE.
PEOPLE. >> I HOPE IT WILL HELP ALL OF
US HELP OUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY