hey everyone and welcome to top think today we're going to learn about
seven types of people to completely avoid now let's begin number one the projector
this toxic personality can wreak havoc on your happiness and self-esteem their judgmental
personalities dish out criticisms left and right dismantling your success as often as they can
if you look stunning in a new jacket they're going to knock you down a peg if you win an award
they're going to undermine your achievements that's just the way their toxic mind works
but why do projectors insult criticize and attack the people in their lives
the projector has one fundamental flaw below that vicious exterior is an insecure and unhappy person
well to put it plainly projectors just don't like themselves they can't accept themselves for who
they are they're not proud of what they can do or what they've achieved for many people this kind of
unhappiness motivates change it encourages them to take action to improve and to grow but projectors
ignore their self-hatred by channeling their unhappiness into other people they don't feel
proud of or happy for their friends because they just can't experience those emotions
for themselves that's why projectors adopt a negative attitude toward the world around them
they convince themselves that the world is full of unhappy and self-loathing people it's a negative
and discouraging thought but it makes projectors feel better about themselves so what happens when
someone in their life seems happy what happens when a friend or a partner begins to find success
well a projector makes it their responsibility to bring you down they want you to be unhappy
and unfulfilled just like they are but don't let a projector steal away your pride don't
take their criticisms to heart because they're not trying to help you they're trying to even
the playing field they may not realize how unhappy and unsatisfied they are but you can so get rid of
the projectors in your life you'll be a whole lot happier without their constant negativity
number two the gaslighter gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse that's recently come into the
spotlight people have begun to realize just how common gaslighting is but this common kind of
manipulation has been around for some time so what is gas lighting well to gaslight someone
is to make them question their own judgment or perception for example you may believe that
your friends and family love you but a gaslighter may try to convince you otherwise they may spread
false information claiming that your friends and family talk about you behind your back
that false information creates distrust it damages your relationships with your friends and family
and that gives the gaslighter more control over your life and hey that's ultimately what a
gaslighter is after control they want you to doubt yourself they want to make your decisions for you
so they force you to rely on them when you depend too much on a gaslighter they begin to take over
your life avoid this vicious cycle at all costs don't let anyone make you question your own sanity
people will try to spread self-doubt gaslighters will tell you that you're ruining everything
or that everything is your fault but it's not there's a reason you feel confused and
frustrated by these moments of uncertainty it's because someone is trying to manipulate you
so instead of falling for their tricks just make some space
take some time to think on your own because you may have a gaslighter in your life
number three the backstabber backstabbers look like trustworthy friends on the outside they
seem like people you can rely on they say you can trust me but then when you leave the room
they betray you they spill your secrets and vulnerabilities they act like different people
and you realize your friendship means nothing to them backstabbers don't value the trust or
confidence that other people place in them they see each of their friends as pawns in a game
they act like your friend until the time is right and then they throw you under the bus
so how do you know if you have a backstabber in your life think about the secrets you trade with
your friends they may know everything about you but how much do you know about them backstabbers
know a lot more than they tell they dive into the vulnerabilities of others without exposing their
own weak spots this dynamic creates a lopsided trust yeah you trust them but they don't trust
you and it becomes easy for a backstabber to betray you you have something to lose
but they don't for trust to mean something it has to be mutual trust is an exchange of
weaknesses you both have something to gain and something to lose there's another easy way to
pick out a backstabber just think about which of your friends have betrayed you in the past
if this person has broken your trust before there's a greater chance it'll happen again
yeah accidents do happen and it's important to remember that people do make mistakes
but if your friend intentionally breaks your trust especially more than once they're making a choice
to hurt you backstabbers are often huge gossipers they'll gossip about everything to everyone except
they never gossip about you right wrong gossipers almost always gossip about even their closest
friends and when the gossiper is caught they'll deny everything number four the bad listener
next we have one of the most frustrating personalities on this list bad listeners have one
thing in common they care far more about their own thoughts than the words coming out of your mouth
in fact they're so buried in their own thoughts they can barely register anything you say
bad listeners show their poor listening skills in a few different ways they give lackluster one-word
answers they talk constantly about themselves even if the conversation isn't about them
they interrupt other people whenever they want to because they want to hear themselves talk now all
of these bad habits tell you the same thing this person doesn't care about others and they probably
don't care about you but that's not fair you deserve to be heard you deserve to make friends
who listen when you talk anyone who isn't willing to give you their attention doesn't deserve yours
number five the peacock peacocks care way too much about what other people think
they govern their lives according to other people's opinions why because they can't tell the
difference between attention and self-worth they broadcast an overconfident boisterous exterior
although the person underneath is very insecure that's why they try so hard to be the center of
attention they think being liked is the same thing as liking yourself making friends with a peacock
can be frustrating they seem like good people at heart but they crave status above all else
they think of everything in terms of external value or social charisma that's why many peacocks
become bullies and betray their friends if you're not cool enough for them they'll turn on you
peacocks have narcissistic tendencies that are usually easy to spot if they're always
standing in front of the mirror or care way too much about their social media profiles
this person may be a peacock the best thing you can do is to make some space over time many
peacocks leave their shallow cravings behind but until that happens it's best to keep your distance
number six the saboteur this dangerous personality can and will stand in your way of success
many accomplished people have grown and competed alongside intellectual rivals
a rival is someone you respect admire and compete with
but good rivals want to see each other succeed that's what makes your rivalry worthwhile
you may fight tooth and nail against each other but you ultimately push each other to improve
you chase your rival because you admire them and they chase you for the same reason on the
surface a saboteur acts like a rival they compare their success to your success they measure their
accomplishments by your standards but saboteurs don't push you to improve instead they step
on your toes they tie together your shoelaces and then they hope you fall flat on your face
why because saboteurs refuse to be outdone like projectors they feel insecure when other people
out do them but unlike projectors the saboteur is often lazy and unmotivated to succeed on their own
they discourage the success of other people because they don't want to put in the work
alright let's try an example let's say you're thinking of going back to school to get an
advanced degree your friend wants to go back to school too but they don't want to write
their essays you begin to pull ahead of them so your friend tries to bring you down they
convince you to slack off on your work they try to distract you from writing your essays because
your success feels like their failure saboteurs will do anything and everything to keep you down
so kick these people out of your life if you let them stay too long you might just pay the price
number 7 the steamroller this is a personality type you want to avoid completely steamrollers
run over everyone in their path they don't care about your needs or preferences they don't think
about inconveniencing you or wasting your time the simple truth is they don't value anyone's goals
time or money nearly as much as their own let's say you've been waiting months to go to a concert
you've been talking about it non-stop you can't wait to go but on the night of your
concert your steamroller friend demands a small favor you tell them you're busy they don't care
they don't respect your space instead they expect you to bend to their will because your needs come
second to theirs and here's the worst part friends give in to the steamroller's outrageous demands
they don't know how to fight back or maybe they've just stopped trying either way steamrollers learn
that they can charge their way through life don't be one of the poor people in their path
leave these people behind because no one should take your needs for granted hey thank you for
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