Let's talk about chemistry for a second. Chemistry. Maybe you've heard this term before...
chemistry, creating chemistry with a woman. I like to say that's synonymous
with creating a deep connection with someone where you guys just... boom, you hit it off,
it works out really well, you're very comfortable in front of each other.
I think chemistry is liking someone plus the comfort of being around them. You ever go
on a date with a girl or meet a girl or maybe you've gotten into a relationship with a girl
where you just feel like you can be yourself and you're confident and you could just be playful and
be the unapologetic you around them and they like it and they can be that way too and they feel that
way around you. This is chemistry. I feel like in pop culture or just the main part of society,
they think that you can't create chemistry. And I think you can. I think that, let's just
give an extreme example. I think that if you were with the girl stranded on a desert island
and she did not like you, but it was only you two... I think after a certain amount of time,
you guys would end up creating chemistry. I think you would end up getting along because
you're forced to and you guys would end up being together. I bet you'd even fall in love.
And I bet you'd even be together and be in a relationship in this fake scenario view
on a desert island with a girl. And I think the opposite. I feel like if you were on a desert
island with a girl that you weren't interested in, chances are over time, you just would be. I think
with enough time two people can create that. Of course, I know we're not on a desert island and
you're not going to be in that scenario. So no, that's not how you're going to create chemistry by
forcing someone into that situation. But my bigger point is I feel like with enough time,
with enough time and you being your most attractive self, you can create chemistry with
a woman. Here's a few tips for you to be able to create this chemistry. The first tip is eye
contact. I talk about that a lot on the channel. I even talk about the fact that I talk about it a
lot on the channel. That's how much I talk about it because eye contact is very powerful. It's one
of the most powerful non-verbal techniques that you can use. When you're able to look
someone in the eye, you're able to create a connection with them. It's that nervousness
and shyness and not looking them in the eye and looking away that doesn't create a connection.
We're talking about chemistry and creating a connection here. First you want to build a
create a connection with your eyes. You want to be able to look at her, you want to be able to
gaze into her eyes and look at each other when you guys are speaking. Whether this is on a first date
or whether this is on a phone date or if it is an approach that you're doing when you meet a girl
somewhere out and about you want to make sure you have really good eye contact. You also want to
make sure that when you're talking to a girl that you are as comfortable and as relaxed as possible.
I preach this a lot but I feel like I haven't really talked enough about it.
This idea of comfortability, feeling at ease when you're around someone. If you're around a girl
and you're feeling comfortable, at ease, confident, it's going to make
her feel more comfortable around you which again is going to create it's going to allow
a connection to be built. And that's the whole thing. Connection can't start if
you're not comfortable, you're not looking her in the eye and you seem very nervous.
Not only does she like that confidence in you and that's attractive to her, but also it allows her
to open up a little bit. When you're talking to someone and they're very non-judgmental
and they're just talking to almost like a friend. Like you know you talk to a friend,
you're just talking, you guys are just hanging out, you're relaxed,
you're open, you're being honest about stuff. That makes it more comfortable and allows them
to let their guards down which can allow for chemistry to happen. Here's another thing,
what you talk about creates a connection. I've done a video about the 36 questions that can
make a girl fall in love with you. There is an actual study done where they put people in front
of each other who are giving each other really good eye contact and asking each other these 36
questions. I'm looking down because they're in my book here. And then they answer them honestly and
a percentage of these people fell in love and got married. It's pretty insane. In my book Magnetic
I have all of those questions in here and more information about how to use those and how to be
interesting in conversation. By the way, if you want to pick this up it's on Amazon. I'll put a
link down below where you can check it out. But what I want to do right now is give you a couple
of these questions. Again these questions are to help you connect with someone and help you create
chemistry because chemistry is the connection between you and her.
When you guys are being honest talking about deep stuff and getting to know each other more,
you feel more connected to them which builds the chemistry. Here's one good question you can ask.
It would be if you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability,
what would it be? You can ask that question on a date. Here's another one, for what in your life
do you feel most grateful? These are very deep questions here. These are deep questions that
allow you two to get to know each other. And by the way, you better believe that you got to have
an answer for these questions too which can allow you guys to connect even deeper. Here's the thing
too. Chemistry doesn't happen off the bat. Sometimes it does. Sometimes you meet a girl
and you guys are just like whoa, boom, it hits. You're so comfortable in front of each other,
you're both instantly attracted to each other. That happens. What I'm saying here is it doesn't
always happen but you can create it. Another way to create more chemistry with someone or create
chemistry even in general, is to be able to spend more time with them. Remember I gave you that
example of being on a desert island. It's the same idea here. The more time that you spend with
someone, the more you too can allow each other to connect and understand who that person is and
like each other. You want to be able to spend more time with them. That's why I'm always telling guys
"get the girl on the date". And by the way, I don't have my phone with me. I was gonna pull
it up and say don't use your phone to be texting a girl all day. You cannot create chemistry over
texting. It happens in person. You got to be in person with each other so you can be able
to send each other's sub-communications. That's how you're gonna get comfortable with each other.
You want to spend time with her. You want to get her on a date as fast as you can. You don't want
to wait too long to go on a second date and then a third date and fourth date. The longest you should
ever wait in between dates is a week. And that is the longest. You guys got to be getting together
and spending an epic amount of time with each other to be able to create that chemistry. One
thing you can do is a little trick. If you meet a girl out and about and let's say you're walking
along, you see a girl walking down the street and you think she's cute. You go over and you approach
her and you guys are talking. You're striking up a conversation. And then all of a sudden you go hey,
you know what? Why don't you and I grab a coffee and we'll continue this conversation?
And she's like "you know what, this has been fun. I got some time. Why not? Let's go grab a coffee."
Then you guys go and you grab a coffee, you're hanging out, you're talking, you're comfortable,
you're relaxed, giving her good eye contact, maybe using a couple questions to get to know
her. And then all of a sudden, you're like, you know what, I gotta run an errand real quick.
Walk with me. I'm gonna go over to Walgreens and pick something up. Come with me. Then you guys go
and you go to Walgreens and you're like, you know what, I'm kind of hungry. Let's go get some dinner
right now. Great. You guys go get some dinner. And maybe after that you go back to your place.
That can happen. Maybe not always all the way to the point where it's back to your place. But
that is very possible. The whole point I'm saying here is you're spending more time together, this
weird psychological thing happens where the more different memories you create in different places
that you're at coffee shop, Walgreens, dinner, your place... it makes it feel like you guys have
been hanging out longer and then can create that chemistry. Think about moving different venues,
moving in different places around maybe a bar if you meet a girl at a bar so you can create
more of that psychological time gap where you guys have been spending that amount of time together
and creating all these different memories. If you need more help with this check out Magnetic. It's
going to teach you everything about how to be able to build attraction and create more of that
chemistry with the women that you're talking to. I hope this helps. You can do this with women.
It is possible. You just have to make sure that you're using the techniques
that I talked about in this video. Good luck, hope it works and I'll see you on the next one.