Hello friends! Well, thank you for clicking on yet another very interesting session. Now
I know it's very daunting to approach someone of the opposite sex, especially for the guys
well after all a man is supposed to take the first step, am i right? So guys I totally
understand that pressure. I know what you feel. Well in most cultures we are taught
everything except for one social skill, well I call that ‘dating’ or ‘relationship
skills’. The truth is that if you have great social skills well you will have a great dating
life. So people it's time for you to learn what your teacher did not teach you in school
or probably your mom was not very comfortable teaching you. Today's session will show you
how you can approach a girl without being creepy. Well I believe that this session will
not only help you with starting relationships with someone that you really like but guess
what, it will also help you to build or tone up your social skills. So stay tuned with
me, I am Niharika and you are watching me on ‘Skillopedia’, the place to learn skills
for the real world. Well here's the first thing, you need to “stop being over romantic”.
Well the fact is that your life is so different from what you see in the movies. In the movies
a girl is always approached with a bunch of flowers or probably a guy playing an amazing
song on the guitar or some cute poem which is written on the box of chocolates, oh! So
romantic. Honestly as a girl I would really love all of that, I mean I would appreciate
the gesture but you know what, as a person or girl I would like to know that guy more.
So you know being romantic is wonderful but it can be a little cheesy too. So what I would
advise you is that you use that extra romance on maybe one of your third or the fourth dates
assuming that you two are now a little more comfortable. Please don't do all of this on
the very first date because that's creepy. Well here's the next one, “no stalking”.
Well of course we love social media and because of social media well access to people's lives
is pretty easy. I mean you can just go onto Facebook and Instagram and pretty much figure
out where someone partied over the last weekend or what food you like or what color you totally
love to wear. So don't start your conversation telling your crush that I know you love the
pink color, well your Instagram stories are full of pink color. Okay, well believe you
me these comments are not impressive. It just shows that you have been stalking her, following
her, understanding what she does in her personal life. I'm sure she's not gonna look back.
So avoid stalking or making comments that show that you know so much about her already.
Well here's the next thing “finding a common ground”. Well I believe that whether you
want to make friends or just start a new relationship, well you can do that successfully if you understand
what's common between you two. Yes! Something common, well that will be fantastic. So probably
you love watching movies and guess what the girl that you're interested in she loves movies
too. Wow! So here's something common in you two. So what happens? Well your conversations
are so smooth. She finds you super interesting and definitely would like to date you couple
of more times, right? So this always works be it with your friends or be it with your
crush or the woman that you're interested in. Something that's common gets the conversation
going. Common likes or dislikes make people feel that they can trust you more and let's
face it she will trust you and also you would be more comfortable because you two can have
such great conversations. Here's the next thing “listening”. Now as you are approaching
the girl, you so want to talk to her and know about her. You have so many questions for
her, well after all you really want to get her, right? So while you do that it's absolutely
fine but, make sure that you don't over talk. Well it's time for you to listen to her. Yes!
I mean just by bragging about yourself and not letting her to talk, that's not interesting.
Well, let her speak as much as she wants. All you have to do is, listen and of course
mean it. Actually listen and not pretend to. Make sure you understand and learn things
about her. Here's the next thing, “make a personal connection”. Now once you have
listened enough and you have got to know the girl pretty well, what's the next thing that
you do? Well you take it to the next level. Now you can make a personal connection with
her, how do you do that? Well you can tell her that you would like to stay in touch and
if she is okay with it then you can ask for her number. But let her know that why you
want to stay in touch with her. Maybe you should tell her that you found her interesting,
maybe you should tell her that you are such an amazing person. Well this will not sound
creepy, trust me. It's just that things that you would like to do together that's what
the next level should be. So you know you can go ahead catch up with her again over
a cup of coffee or probably watch a movie together and take that privilege for something
that she loves. Now this will eventually lead to sharing phone numbers and yes there you
go I'm sure if she ends up giving you the phone number which means she likes you. Well
here's the next thing and the most important one, “don't mention your ex-lovers”. Now
I know you are supposed to share the common ground but don't share too much. Well what
I mean is that if you know that the girl's ex-boyfriend is her best friend or probably
someone that you know, you didn't have to mention that be it your ex-lover or be it
her ex-lover, you don't want to make her uncomfortable on the very first date, that's definitely
creepy. So dude please take your ex connections, your past completely out of the first meeting,
okay? You really don't want to show that you're still involved or still pretty much in that
relationship that you had with the past girl. So you can eventually let her know about your
past but not at the moment. Well here's the next one, “don't be too awkward”. We have
talked about how daunting approaching the opposite sex is, but as awkward as you feel,
keep your nerves in control. Make sure you take a deep breath before you start the first
conversation or just have a cup of coffee so that you calm yourself down. Use the right
kind of humour, alright? Just make sure that you don't crack silly jokes. Something that
she would be not impressed about and something that is out of taste. Now this will show that
you are feeling awkward if you end up cracking silly stupid jokes and it can be a little
offensive too. So remember guys please don't feel too awkward. So guys that's about it
on this session today. Hope now you are well equipped with the things that you need to
do if you find a cute girl and you're super interested in her. Don't worry you don't have
to be perfect and you don't have to be nervous either, it's alright but yes these are the
points that you need to note down so that you do not sound creepy and eventually your
first date will become or convert into many more dates. I'll be back soon till then you
take care and enjoy dating.