My dear elegant ladies,
I need to tell you about those
seven elegant behaviors that turn men off
And you might be thinking for yourself, what did you just say?
I know it sounds incredibly contradicting
because one would say that all elegant behaviors, fantastic and
wonderful behavior, why would it turn a man off?
Well, this is the deal, ladies,
that elegance indeed is something incredibly wonderful.
And that's something we use as a tool to elevate ourselves,
to feel good about ourselves, etc.
But there are parts of elegance that might be a little bit extreme.
And I've spoken about elegance extremism on my channel before.
Today, I want to give you some of those elements that some ladies take
elegance to the wrong level with,
and that ends up turning men off.
So let's find out what those elegant elements are. Point number one,
I think we all know that elegance can sometimes be resonated with being a little
bit stiff. And indeed,
sometimes people tend to stiffen up a little bit when they want to be elegant
and that's not necessarily a good thing. And when it comes to dating,
that becomes a terrible thing because what man wants in a woman
is somebody who is herself, somebody who is feels natural,
and somebody who is not stiff.
You want to really be relaxed when you are in the presence of a man,
because that's how you are going to be able to bond with each other and connect
with each other. If you are guarded, if you're a stiff,
this is not going to happen.
Point number two, don't be boring.
And that's the thing. When you take elegance to an extreme level,
you can easily become one of those boring types, one of those who, you know,
doesn't want to do this, doesn't want to do that.
Everything has to be a certain way and they cannot go outside of their little box.
Those people are so incredibly boring.
And I have definitely noticed with men,
they want to have somebody fun. They want to have a fun woman,
a woman who wants to try new things,
who likes a little bit of an adventure and it's not just afraid of everything.
I'm not saying you have to go out there and do some bungee jumping or skydiving
or crazy things, things that really makes you feel uncomfortable.
No, of course not.
I'm not saying now that you have to do things on the expense of yourself,
just to please a man. All I'm saying is loosen up a bit.
Try maybe something new for once.
Don't be that person who thinks no before she thinks, yes.
Make a little bit of an effort.
Point number three.
Now this one will resemble the other points a little bit,
but it's still a little bit different because one of the things that definitely
does attract a lot of ladies who wants to become elegant is that they want
to be incredibly proper.
They want to always do the right thing.
They want to be a certain way,
almost like this Stepford wife or this little Miss Perfect.
And that's again, elegance extremism, which I don't support or don't like.
I do believe,
nobody should be perfect and perfectionism is a buzz killer and
as well, a relationship killer, because nobody's perfect.
So when you are making so much effort of being little Miss Proper,
I don't think any man is going to be turned on in that moment.
I think men really like when you loosen up, when you let your hair down,
when you are being like yourself, and that means with your imperfections,
that means making a mistake here and there, maybe doing something silly.
Obviously,
you don't want to have all your bad habits coming to play and putting you in a
bad light. That's not what I'm talking about. But again,
men like a little bit of spice, a little bit of flavor.
That makes them feel young, that makes them feel alive.
And also that creates a strong bond between you because you know what,
it's actually not that easy to find fun, exciting women out there.
Because many women out there hold themselves back
and I don't want my elegant ladies to do that number one mistake
that I see so many women do.
Point number four.
Now we talk a lot about fashion and style on my channel. And by all means,
I am all about being a little bit more classic timeless in style,
and of course, at times conservative.
But when you are dating,
you don't want to be dressed too conservatively. Believe me.
There is a point when elegance is taken a little bit too far with men,
meaning that women dress too conservatively.
In a gathering that actually requires you looking conservative,
that's totally different.
Let's say, you're going to a wedding or you're going to an event that has the
type of dress code.
I am talking about you going on the date with your significant other,
with the man that you want to impress and you are dressed like a nun.
Nothing wrong with being a nun.
But that's when I do think that looking a bit to grandma in the presence of a man,
when it's all about being flirty, sensual, romantic,
feminine, the conservative style kind of kills that moment. And again,
I don't think many men feels turned on by you sitting there dressed like as if
you are in a convent. If you are more on the conservative style, naturally,
that's fine. But maybe on a date,
you should then dress a little bit more elegant, feminine, or elegant seductive.
Now, if you don't know what I'm talking about,
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Now point number five is being quiet. And although,
I do support to have a little bit of mystery and maybe sometimes let others do
the talking or let the man do the talking. Because trust me,
if you are all there blabbing around and doing all the talking,
not only can you sometimes shoot yourself in the foot,
because you said too much, or you said the wrong things,
but you're also reducing a little bit of that wow factor that comes with being
mysterious. But again, when we talk about extremism,
taking being mysterious to the level where
basically you do almost no talking that becomes boring and that doesn't make
you make any impression whatsoever.
Plus that doesn't really turn men on.
Men want a little bit of back and forth besides maybe the narcissist type or the
super extroverts who just wants to talk all the time and wants you to listen and
be quiet. But those are a small percentage. The general men,
he wants to hear some interesting stories that the woman has to tell.
He wants to have a back-and-forth. He wants to have a conversation.
So don't be the quiet gray mouse, pull your confidence together.
And if you don't know how to do that, well ladies,
that's something I teach about in my finishing school, in my program,
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Elegant behavior, number six.
So, you know, when we are polishing up the way we speak,
we perhaps don't want to use slang anymore.
We want to sound a little bit more sophisticated when we talk
and that's great.
But I have noticed that sometimes, people start using a lot of fancy language and
complicated vocabulary when they speak in order to kind of try to raise their
own elegance factor and maybe try to seem a little bit more intelligent.
And mind you ladies, I think in some gatherings is absolutely appropriate.
But one thing that you should really take into account that when you are on a
date with a man and you use such language that sounds a little bit unnatural,
a little bit too pompous in a way,
he's going to feel like you are trying too hard to maybe be somebody
that you're not. Plus it's not really going to turn him on.
What's important in elegance in general is to be able to communicate with
somebody who can, first of all, understand you that's rule number one.
But secondly,
talk to somebody on the same level as they are talking to you. I mean,
surely if somebody is swearing and using slang,
you don't have to go to that level,
but I'm talking about that you want to speak the same language somebody else
talks to you.
So if that man on a date is talking to you normally without any
complicated language or any fanciness then why should you?
Unless, that's really how you talk and you can't control it.
All I'm saying is that you should try to be more natural and not so
pretentious because the pretentiousness, it's a buzz killer. Nobody likes that.
People want authenticity. People want somebody who is themselves.
When we work on our elegant self, I mean,
we should never reduce being ourselves.
We should always keep those little things that makes us us.
That is so important. So don't ever remove that in your transformation.
Point number seven, last but not least. And actually,
it goes a little bit hand in hand with what I just explained to you.
I'm talking about, unnatural elegance turns men off.
And that's basically when there's too much theatrics going around,
when you are trying too hard, when you're being so pompous and so grandiose,
and so almost like you are this high-maintenance superior being
and it's not attractive.
And I don't think any man will find that attractive.
I've heard many men complain about how they find women to be like,
they can't see themselves with that type of woman. That's why, again,
this boils down to being yourself,
surely have the elegance to your personal brand. Just don't overdo it.
Don't let theatrics overcompensate,
if you feel insecure or if you feel like something is wrong with you.
Surely, I talk about fake it till you make it,
but fake it till you make it in a natural way.
Don't turn into a bad actor at this point.
That's not what we want in this transformation. Now in my next video,
I go deeper on when elegance go wrong.
So make sure you watch that video because really ladies,
I don't want you to do any of the elegance extremist stuff that I see happening.
It will only shoot you in the foot. I will see you in that video.