From the outside looking in, the mature INFJ and the immature INFJ could be perceived as completely
different personality types. In fact, sometimes an immature INFJ can mistype themselves due to their
inability to relate to the traits and habits of their positively functioning counterpart.
So the question is.. what's the real difference between the two?
And how do you know if you’re particularly mature or immature in your personality type?
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Alright, lets jump right into it starting with: Number 1: Pushy Viewpoints vs. True Understanding
When the INFj first begins to uncover the answers to the deep questions they have,
they can feel seriously obligated to share their discoveries with other people. In fact, this is
one of the great things about having this uniquely imaginative creature in your social circle.
However, it’s only a favorable trait when they know how to use it. For when it comes to the
less mature INFJ, they may take it upon themselves to push their views onto other people for the sake
of helping or even awakening them to a new level or perception. They may get caught up in pushing
concepts that their friends and family aren’t interested in, or willing to hear. For example,
if an INFJ falls into a rabbit hole of why a certain everyday food is disease-causing, they can
feel anxiously responsible for convincing everyone they love to stop consuming that food. Even if it
really is for their benefit, this approach only ends up stirring a pot that didn’t need stirring.
Healthy INFJs have the ability to provoke personal-reflection in other people through
simple questions and hypothetical topics. They don’t feel obligated to convince others of the
way they see it, but rather present them with information to perceive and decipher themselves.
When an INFJ realizes the power in the information they discover and the importance they place on it
compared to other people, they begin to understand that not everyone is deserving of it. They don’t
avoid sharing out of spite, but rather out of a protection of their energy. However once someone
comes along that wants to pick at their brain, they better know they’re in for a wild ride!
Number 2: Other People’s Feelings
The first and most noticeable difference between a mature INFJ and a so-called immature
INFJ is all in the way of how they let other people’s feelings affect them. While all INFJs
have a habit of involuntarily feeling, and even absorbing other people’s emotions to some degree,
there's a big difference between how these two INFJs use this information.
For the immature or burnt out INFJ, the feelings and moods of the people around them can take a
massive toll on their own mood. This can result in them changing their entire emotional state
when influenced by the people around them. In fact, they can become so influenced simply by the
presence of people’s silent moods that they can feel obligated to make certain decisions in order
to make other people happy. Whether the absorbed mood was painted in a positive or negative light,
sometimes the unhealthy INFJ can end up regretting things they did when under
the influence of an emotion that wasn’t their own to begin with. This sense of control can
overtime make them vulnerable to controlling relationships in all aspects of life.
The healthy INFJ on the other hand, is able to feel others emotions on an
empathetic level, while still being able to differentiate them from their own feelings.
They’re able to make decisions solely based on their own values and independent thinking
instead of being bombarded by others' guilt, excitement, sadness, and anger.
It’s fair to say this maturity doesn’t come without a few harsh lessons.. But once the
INFJ realizes the strength of their intuition and personal power, they can take people’s feelings
into account like no other, with a silver lining protecting what they personally think is right.
Number 3: Their Perspective Of Their Abilities
In relation to how the INFJ personality type navigates their ability of separating their own
emotions from other people’s, it all comes down to their highly intuitive and empathic abilities.
Most INFJs are considered highly sensitive beings, mostly due to their hyper-awareness
of their surroundings. Because of this uncanny capability of noticing the unnoticeable,
predicting the unpredictable and attracting people that need the most help in life,
INFJs are considered to have a gift that not many other people experience.
However.. For the unhealthy INFJ, these abilities don’t feel like gifts at all.
For this intuitive type to truly understand the potential and power of their capabilities,
they must first embrace the advantages they bring.. but it’s not as easy as it seems.
When an INFJ doesn’t know any better, their differences can seem not only burdensome,
but even debilitating in some aspects of life. An immature INFJ can see these blessings as a curse,
or as an obligation that they don’t fully understand how to execute. Because of this,
they can come down seriously hard on themselves for being so different from others,
or worse, try and take measures to silence their burning gifts.
For the INFJ who is considered more mature however, these differences are viewed only
as strengths. They have no desire to fit into the world around them anymore than necessary,
and they don’t dumb-down their skills to meet the needs of others. The mature INFJ eventually
steps into their own power by utilizing their skills and abiding by their personal requirements
for rest and recharging. Number 4: Anxiety Levels
Another tell-tale difference between the mature INFJ and the immature INFJ is seen
in their day-to-day levels of anxiety. Now of course some general anxiety disorders can
be considered hereditary, and unavoidable, but for some INFJ cases, anxiety can be a
direct product of sensory overload, emotional burnout and a misunderstanding of their needs.
I mean, anxiety is nothing new to any INFJ person. For example, since people with the
INFJ personality type are inclined to analyze the people around them on such a deep level,
they can feel as if they’re constantly being analyzed to the same degree; thinking it’s a
natural human tendency. Sure, people are curious, but nobody analyzes like the INFJ themselves. And
so when this type is caught up in the thought of the entire population being as observant as them
without the empathy to back it up, it can make them rightfully apprehensive. Without the
understanding that not everyone is as interested in figuring other people out as they are,
anxiety can creep up anytime, anywhere, making social interactions somewhat unpredictable.
For the healthy INFJ however, life just isn’t all that serious anymore. When this intuitive type
really spends the time figuring out the source of their anxiety,
they begin to realize it’s rooted in needs being unmet. Although anxiety still creeps up,
the mature INFJ is able to reason with themselves rather than being controlled
by their instinctual reaction. Plus, once this type can embrace their uniqueness and depth,
like many other types, their confidence can overpower almost any anxiety.
Number 5: A Social Balance
We said it INFJs.. A social life is actually quite beneficial for you. Although the idea
of spending days on end cooped up in imagination may sound like the ideal life, social interactions
and observation is a must for any INFJ. Not only does a balanced social life allow this analytical
type to collect new information to day-dream about on their own time, but it also fulfills
the natural curiosity all INFJs have for human behavior. It’s a need that shouldn’t be ignored,
but most often is, especially for the notably immature INFJ. It’s fair to say that when it comes
down to it, socializing and ‘getting out there’ is daunting to everyone with this introverted type.
But when an INFJ has become too comfortable with turning down socializing opportunities,
it can end up creating habits that are even more difficult to shake. Overtime,
this immature tendency can result in the INFJ self sabotaging opportunities in love, career,
family, and life experiences - all for the sake of their need for solitude.
On the opposite end of the spectrum is the mature INFJ who can decipher the opportunities they feel
called towards and the ones they know to stay far away from. Although most people with this
intuitive type tend to be overthinkers, the considered more-mature counterparts seem to better
know when they should push themselves to socialize for their benefit. Sure, they still set their
boundaries, turn down a few invites, and maybe even cancel a few last-minute plans, but overall,
they don’t let the hermit-energy consume them and hold them back from life’s opened doors.
Well, that wraps up today’s video PSYCH-Os.. So, if you’re an INFJ,
do you think you’re leaning towards the healthy or unhealthy side according to these 5 differences?
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