Hey ladies, in this video we are going to talk about why a guy ghosts after he's
actually kissed you and asked for a second date. Grrr.
Okay, so you've had a date and you think it went well and he kissed you in the
end and even said he wanted to see you again, and then you never heard from
him again. So what happened. There are one of three main things that could have
happened, well four if he count that he died. But let's assume he's still alive
and kicking and he's out there in the world and hasn't contacted you. So the
reason number one. He's a player. He just wants to get out there and see how many
girls he can kiss and/or see if he can go further with you by getting to that
kiss and if you stop him and say no or set standards then he's no longer
interested because he's only interested in one thing, possible. Those are players,
those are not nice guys. Number two, this brings us to number two. He's a nice guy,
so it could be that he's too nice, as in he's lacking self-confidence, and doesn't
want to push forward based on perhaps some insecurity and him feeling like
you didn't give him enough yes signals. So if a guy is definitely feeling
uncertain then he might not risk asking like actually pursuing another date if
your reaction to that wasn't really as enthusiastic as he might have needed.
Which again, not not a great guy to be with if you need to actually persuade
him on every single date that you're for sure interested, then maybe he's just a
little bit too insecure to move forward. And number three is that he is actually
just a healthy guy and isn't desperate to contact you immediately if he's got
other things on the go. So those are the three main things, now if he just never
contacts you back then he's just not interested, I mean that's the realityland,
is that if a guy doesn't contact you back, for whatever reason, whether
it's something you've done, maybe the kiss wasn't as good as you thought it
was, maybe something else happened, maybe you were too anxious
to text him after the fact or texted him too often, you got to be able to let a
guy chase you not chase the guy, unless of course he's the nice guy. If you want
a nice guy you're gonna have to chase the nice guy because they lack the
confidence to chase you, but if you want a guy who's a bit more confident, maybe
even more alpha, not aggressive, not arrogant, but if you want a guy who's a
guy then you gotta let him do the chasing. I know it sucks but it is what
it is so you either have to deal with it or you can bitch about it but it ain't
gonna change. So hopefully it's one of those three things. If he's a player just
be thankful that you didn't give it up for someone who's not gonna give you
anything back, if he's a nice guy and needs a lot of extra persuasion and
that's just not what you want to sign up for then be thankful that he didn't
follow up, and he was a if he's a healthy guy and you followed up too much or too
quickly or too desperately, which we women do that very often, then you're the
one - we're the ones - that need to scale it back so that we can allow a guy to
actually chase us. It's like like an elastic band, if you if you pull it apart
you've got allow him to spring back to you, if there's no pulling away there's
no springing back. So hopefully it's one of these three things and not that he's
just dead.. it could happen, happened in a movie so that might be it.
Anyways, also very helpful to know a bit more detail about how the interaction
went down, so to speak, so if you have any questions, comments, then please write a
comment below, and that's it, thank you so much for watching.
I'll see you in the next video. [whispers]