So you want to turn your booty call into your boyfriend. Why am I not surprised?
Fortunately, it can be done. Hey it's Mark from Make Him Yours.
I'm gonna show you how next.
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You want to turn your booty call into a boyfriend. Now, this is a question
I get a lot, so I thought it was high time I did a video on it, and I'm gonna
show you the steps to take to do that in just one moment but there's one thing
you need to check first before you start this process. Does he have a girlfriend
already? And I don't mean another woman by the way, I mean you. Are you already
playing the girlfriend role? Is he already getting the boyfriend benefits
that men so desire? Boyfriend benefits are something I talk about a lot in my
videos, and we've got the other video on How To Make Him Want A Relationship
where I talked about that from a couple of weeks back. Is he already getting
those benefits? You see it's really easy for your booty call to evolve into
someone who you hang out with regularly, and who you do stuff with and who you
actually really like, and who's a great companion and pretty soon, he has all the
elements of a girlfriend right there, and you've evolved into that situation where
you're giving him everything a guy would want without you getting what you want.
If that's the case, you need to dial back a little bit and have the girlfriend
conversation the one Jermia demonstrates in the commitment video with him.
I'll pop that link in the description, but OK, let's say that's not you, and let's say,
"No Mark. I'm not hanging out with my booty call as a girlfriend. He's
literally just a sex buddy, and we're having a good time, but I'm starting to have
feelings, and I want to evolve this to something more."
Well, here's what you got to do. The first thing you have to remember is that
you are in control. You see, it's really easy and a lot of women in this situation
start to feel like the guy has all the power. It's kind of like, "Oh I've slept with him now.
I've given him the best part." You all know how I feel about that, and "I don't have any
power in this situation. He can take me or leave me as it as it stands." And it's
just not true. As a woman you always have more sexual options than him. You have a
lot of power in this situation, and you need to remember that.
And that leads us on to number 2, which is you call the shots.
if you want your booty call to become your boyfriend,
you have to start doing things on your terms.
Booty calls are happening at your convenience and his effort and not the
other way around.That means you call on him when you need
him, but you're not gonna be there at his beck and call. You're not gonna
guarantee that you're gonna be there on a Saturday night when you're already out
with your friends. You're not doing things on his schedule. You have more
freedom, you have more abundance, you have more sexual options.
Now, the third point is you want to make your time together absolutely phenomenal.
So before and after sex, you want to give him support, be an awesome companion,
have freaking amazing sex and talk about your exciting life, all the things that you're doing.
The more positive experiences you give the guy, the more he's gonna get a window
into what you would be like and what it would be like for him to have you as a
girlfriend. Check out that video on What Makes Men Want A Relationship,
description below, up there as well. We talk about all this but when you give
your light that intensely to him over that short period of time, more and more
that guy's going to generate positive emotional experiences to you, and he's
gonna miss you when you're not around, and he's gonna want to see more of you.
Now, the next thing you want to do once you've done that once you've made your
time together phenomenal is offer to spend some time with him outside of the
bedroom. So tell him you'll kick his butt at the local arcade or Timezone. Tell him
there's a new grilled burger you want to try out, a sports thing you want to go
see, a barbecue on Sunday that you wanted to come to or that you're going to
invite him to. See if he is open to hanging out with you one-on-one outside
of the bedroom. This is the slow movement forward into the more boyfriendy, more
dating sort of zone. So again, you don't want to be spending all your time with
him but you do want to be moving things outside of the bedroom, and if you're
doing all the stuff right, and you're making his time with you phenomenal, he's
gonna want to spend more with you outside of that and outside of sex. If he
says, "yes I will spend time I will do this thing with you outside of the
bedroom," that's when you slowly move more and more of your hangouts to just fun
times outside of the bedroom and keep being your awesome self the whole time.
The more you do that and remember, don't go and become his girlfriend. Don't do
the thing I talked about at the start, but the more you give him these windows
to how awesome you are and how awesome it'll be for him to be your boyfriend
outside of the bedroom, the more he's going to want that as
moves forward. and eventually, you can have that commitment conversation in the
video description that I talk about a lot. But what if he says no what if you
go and be your phenomenal self, and you invite him out to do something and he has
excuses or he just flat-out says no. Well, that's when you really are stuck in the
booty call zone, and that's when you need to dial back a little bit but intensify
the focus. In other words, he doesn't want to prioritize you. He doesn't want to
take things outside of the bedroom, and that means, you make him less of a
priority as well. So however many booty calls you were doing a week or fortnight,
you're gonna reduce that not because you're playing or manipulating, but just
because you respect yourself, and you want something more that you're not
currently getting, so you're not gonna keep giving him what he wants all the
time. Slowly but surely, you dial back the time you spend with him in the booty
calls you're doing, but you still intensify. You still make the ones you're
doing even more phenomenal, which leads me to the final step.
Get a life. Use the extra time. Use it to work on yourself. Use it to build great things.
Use it to bring more excitement and passion to your life and that way, when you have
those less frequent but still intense sessions with him, he's gonna see that
light more and more because you're using the time you're not with him to grow
yourself as a woman and to become the most attractive version of yourself.
Either you'll have to keep de-prioritizing him until he basically gets
no more access to you, and you're just working on yourself, or he sees the
decreased priority that you're making him but he also sees what an awesome
woman you are and are becoming and he goes actually, "I do want to hang out with
you one-on-one."
And that's the secret of how to do it guys. That's how to turn
your booty call into your boyfriend. It doesn't work every single time, but that
is the way you have to do it. If he's getting what he wants, and you're not
getting what you want, you have to change the situation.
So remember, you call the shots. You have the power in this situation.
Make his time with you unforgettable. Give him the best window insight
into what it would be like to have you as his girlfriend,
and then offer to spend some time with him outside of the bedroom.
If he's keen for that, great! You can move forward, do that more and more,
and have the exclusivity conversation. If not, then you dial back
you prioritize yourself, you make yourself feel great and even more
awesome and in the little windows he has left,
hopefully, he realizes what a catch you are.
Thank you so much for watching.
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