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Do you think you might have a narcissist in your life?
Relationships involving a narcissist
can be difficult.
This is because narcissists want
to feel superior to everyone.
They don't care about the well-being of others,
as long as they benefit from them.
So it comes as no surprise
that narcissists attract empaths and vice versa.
They have a superficial
and alluring charm that feeds the empath
everything they wanna hear and feel
without necessarily meaning what they say.
This can lead to an extremely toxic relationship
as narcissists have a tendency
to believe that other people owe them more
than they're willing to give.
Before we begin,
we would like to mention that this video
is created for educational purposes only
and is not intended to substitute a professional diagnosis
for narcissism, narcissistic traits
or narcissistic personality disorder.
This video is also not designed
to depict narcissists as bad people.
But rather to give an insight
into their thoughts and behaviors.
With that said, here are 10 things
that narcissists think you owe then.
Number one, they think you own them your time.
Do you have time or space to yourself?
Oftentimes, a narcissist will feel
that your time belongs to them,
regardless of any plans you have with other people.
They may feel like you aren't treating them
as a priority when you don't or refuse
to drop your plans for them
and this doesn't go both ways
as they won't give all of their time in return.
Number two, they think you owe them your kindness.
Kindness is a one-way street for narcissists.
They may have a tendency to manipulate or take advantage
of your good nature
and expect you to always be kind and understanding to them,
no matter how hurtful they may be to you.
Number three, they think you owe them your attention.
Do they seem to expect attention
to be given to them all the time,
no matter how busy you are?
A lack of attention in their direction
may cause them to question your priorities
and loyalty to them
and again, they won't care if they reciprocate it or not.
Number four, they think you owe them your companionship.
They often demand that you accompany them.
Narcissists has a tendency to isolate you
from your family and friends.
Even if you're not physically together,
they may still expect you to message
and call them throughout the day
to maintain your attention.
Since they want you to believe
that they are the most important person in your life,
they'll consistently try to push themselves onto you.
Number five, they think that you are responsible
for everything, including their own wrongdoings.
Compared to other people, narcissists appear
to have a very large sense of entitlement.
Not only do they expect you to take responsibility
for their own actions and well-being
but they'll also blame you for all the bad things
that are happening to them
and if you don't take accountability
for their own wrongdoings,
they'll think you don't care about them
and that you're not acting
in their best interest.
Number six, they think you owe them your guilt.
Narcissists enjoy playing the victim
and want people to feel sorry for them,
whether you've done something wrong or not.
They'll try to purposefully
make you feel bad about yourself.
And this repetitive cycle of blaming
and guilt can lead you
to having a lowered sense of self-worth
and ultimately, it can become the perfect gateway
for them to manipulate you to do things
they want you to do.
Number seven, they think you owe them your ear
to listen to them.
Narcissists tend to think only about themselves
and so will expect you to always be there for them
whenever they need to vent or talk about their frustrations.
They may make you feel as though
it's your duty to listen to their complaints all the time
and it's unlikely that they'll listen to your problems
or troubles in return.
But on the off chance that they do,
it may be because there's some kind
of incentive in it for them.
Number eight, they'll make you think
you're indebted to them.
Did they seem like the nicest person on Earth
when you first met them?
It's hard to tell whether someone is a narcissist or not
because they often act really nice
and kind at the beginning.
However, after some time,
they may start to make you believe
that they're the only person
who has and will ever be good to you,
that no one else will ever treat you as well.
For this reason, you may end up staying
in a relationship with them
even if they seem to be doing more harm than good to you.
Number nine, they think you owe them your freedom.
Are they the ones who decide
what you wear, where you go or what you do?
Controlling behavior is associated with narcissism.
This may mean that they will try
to make decisions for you
instead of respecting your wishes.
And this can have a number of negative effects on you,
including hurting your sense of self-esteem
and making you question yourself.
Essentially, they want you
to be completely dependent on them
to the point that you need to stay with them to survive.
And number 10, they think they own you.
As a result of all the previous points,
this is the end game and the harsh truth.
The narcissist wants to feel like they own you
and that they can do whatever they want with you.
They're tactics to manipulate and to guilt you
into doing things that they want you to do,
ultimately make it hard for you to break free from them.
Do any of these points sound familiar to you?
Well, we hope this video
has helped you understand a little bit more
about relationships with narcissists.
However, if you wanna learn more about narcissism,
you can check out our other videos,
such as the one on narcissistic personality disorder.
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