By the end of this video,
you're gonna know all about things that
they're going to say about you once they've moved on.
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So, what are 7 horrible lies that the narcissist
is going to tell about you to their new supply?
That's what they're gonna say,
“They stole all my money, that's why I don't have any”,
“They left me homeless and penniless”.
They love to play the victim for their new supply and
of course, that's why they're going to get their new supply
to pay for everything for them.
You know the old expression,
“Nobody falls in love faster than a narcissist who needs a place to live”.
So, they're going to get their new supply,
to pay for everything for them,
move into their new supply’s place and
the new supply is going to feel so sorry for them,
“I can't believe you had to go through all of that”,
“Yes, they took all my money, left me homeless and penniless”.
They'll get into all this agreement about how horrible you were,
because you took everything from them.
They’re going to make it seem like,
sex hadn't been a thing in forever and
even if it's totally not true,
they'll make it seem like,
there hadn't been a physical relationship in a really long time.
They make a make up lies about whatever your relationship was
to make it seem like it was way worse than it actually was,
because they want to make it seem like they are such a victim.
They want their new source of supply
to feel sorry for them and gang up on you.
Because then, of course, if there are ongoing issues,
especially with the children, if there are children involved,
they want their new source of supply to help turn the children against you,
to get involved.
I can tell you as an attorney,
then the new source of supply
starts writing all the messages in our Family Wizard,
starts getting involved,
starts writing all the messages to the attorneys as well…
It gets super, super, messy, really, really annoying.
I can tell you that.
If the children are against this person,
they're going to blame it on you,
you're going to say you are the one who alienated the children,
you're the one that caused the problem with the children,
the reason why the children don't like this other person
is because you caused it.
It had nothing to do with them,
it had nothing to do with the fact they may be a bad person,
or maybe they were bad parent,
or maybe they weren't good to you and the kids saw that;
No, it had all to do with the fact that
you “turned” the children against them, right?
This can be especially painful for you to hear and
let me just tell you, don't take that personally,
because a narcissist never could love you anyway.
I have a video on why the narcissist hates you and
I would definitely watch that video,
because the narcissist just doesn’t have the capacity to love anyone,
including themselves.
They hate everybody.
So, definitely check out that video.
Remember, don't take anything personally that the narcissist
is saying about you, about them, about any of this,
but this one can be especially painful to hear.
So, just take it with a grain of salt,
when this might come back to you.
They get so dramatic, they thrive on this drama,
so they'll say things like that,
“I was in such a depression every day when I was with him/her”,
“I wanted to commit suicide”,
“I couldn't wait to escape when I was with him/her”.
I mean, like they act like every day was like in prison
when they were with you.
They want to make it sound like you were so in love with him/her,
that you were climbing all over him/her all the time and
that you just couldn't live without this person,
but they couldn't stand you.
So, you were super jealous and possessive,
they never loved you, they were repulsed by you,
you took all their money, they were victimized by you...
They have this huge narrative about
how jealous, possessive and in love you were,
but yet, they were completely repulsed by you.
So, whatever narrative is going around about them,
about how horrible they were,
whether it was they were abusive, a horrible parent, or whatever it is,
that all of it is a bunch of lies you spread and
it has nothing to do with the truth.
Maybe it was that they didn't pay child support,
or they were a terrible provider,
whatever it is that you might have said,
they’re alcoholic, all of it was a bunch of lies that you spread,
it had nothing to do with reality,
you caused it,
they had no culpability nor responsibility in any of that.
They were perfect,
they were a perfect wife, a perfect husband,
perfect mother, father, whatever it was,
you were just horrible,
they have no idea why you were the way you were,
because obviously you were crazy or delusional and
just caused all of this problem, all on your own.
So, those are the horrible lies that
narcissists will tell their new supply about you.
If you've seen any of these, give me a “Totally” in the comments.
If you seen any others, I’d love to know what you've seen,
go ahead and put them in the comments.
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I will see all of you guys in the next video.