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How you speak to yourself
in your mind, in your heart, matters.
(soft meditative music)
Believing in yourself is a very important concept
for us as Muslims.
In fact, when the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam
first was given the Quran and Jibreel arrived
in the mountain of Noor and in the cave of Hira.
And iqra bismi Rabbika allazi khalaq
was revealed to the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam.
"Recite in the name of your Lord who created all things."
The Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam was worried.
He was stressed.
He wasn't sure if he can fulfill this great task.
And he came to his wife, Khadija radiAllahu Anha
and told her what happened.
And she began to remind him of the importance of believing
in himself and that he can fulfill this message.
She said inna Allaha la yasooOka abada
" Our Lord will never put any harm upon you"
because you are a good person.
You do this and this and this.
You feed the poor.
You bring peace between warring factions.
You're a good man.
Ya Muhammad SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam,
Being able to inspire within yourself
ask Allah for assistance as Musa Alayhi Salaam
When Allah spoke to him on the Mount of turi Saina
and Allah said to him,
"I am your Lord. Go to Pharaoh."
The first dua Musa makes is qallah rabbish rahli sadri
"Oh Allah, open my heart."
Meaning, allow me to believe in myself,
put in myself self-confidence
because how you speak to yourself
what you say to yourself really matters.
What you say to yourself when other people
are around you really matters.
It gives you the ability to have a greater self-esteem,
self-confidence to carry yourself in a more positive way
to be able to face challenges
and be able to cross through them,
that you recognize that no one is to be feared
more than Allah,
no one is to be loved more than Allah
and that whatever happens will happen
with the knowledge of Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta-A'la.
So three things that become really important
as you speak to yourself in your mind.
Have you ever had that moment where,
you might've had an argument with someone
and after the argument's done and they left
you say to yourself,
"You know, I should have said"
and then it comes to you what you should of.
"If I had said that it would have",
you know, put an end to it.
Subhanallah, that inner dialogue of hyper correction
where you correct that what you're going
to do in the future.
So it's almost as if you say,
"Well if this ever happens again,
this argument happens again.
I know what I'm going to say.
I know how to respond."
That's a very important learning technique
and learning tool for you to use in your life.
So when you make a mistake inside yourself
have that very first important step
of correcting your behavior.
Hyper correction, that say, "Hey, I know I did this
but I shouldn't do it.
And I'm going to not do this again."
That you make a promise within your heart
that this isn't something that I'm going to do.
In fact, Allah law gives us the example of Prophet Ibrahim,
in the Qur'an.
When his father says,
"Come and worship these idols with us."
Fa nadhara nadhraratin fin nujub
He looked up into the heavens and he said,
"No, I don't want to do this."
Qalla inni saqim
"I'm not feeling well, dad,
I'm not going to go out with you."
He avoided the mistake of that shirk.
And he stayed home, right?
So Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta-A'la
You know, he thought of how to avoid it.
He talked himself through it.
It's important for you to talk to yourself after a mistake
to help you recover from it.
Number two, from the important things
about your inner dialogue is believe you can,
if in your heart you say, "I can."
Then you'll have a chance at achieving it.
You might not achieve it.
But if you already have decided,
if you've already said inside yourself, "I can't do this."
Then there's no reason to even try.
The reason is because if you've already defeated yourself
that thing is going to defeat you.
You have to always approach things with an 'I can' attitude.
And number three is to have a growth mindset
that whatever stumbles, whatever mistakes, whatever scenes,
whatever rights and wrongs that I've done
all of it is a part of the story of my life.
And I'm growing as a result of it,
that whatever I did as a mistake
I'm going to correct it and I'm going to grow because of it.
And if I didn't, you know, learn how to do it
in the first time, the second time, the third time
even if it's a hundred times, I will eventually get there.
How you speak to yourself matters
and how you speak to yourself negatively matters.
So if you say, "Hey, nobody's going to find out.
I'm just going to do it.
Nobody can see me.
I'm going to take it."
If you speak to yourself negatively
it's what encourages you to do the wrong.
Try to restrict that negative discussion.
Hearing that discussion is not simply the Shaytaan
but it is in fact, the inclination and the desire
of your soul to do haraam.
And Allah warns us in the Qur'an inna annaf
"You're inside, laammaratun bissoo, it can push you towards
doing bad things if you don't counter it."
And if you don't speak against it
and if you don't say A'udhu billahi Sami'il -'Alim min
ash-Shaytan ir-rajim allahumma aaInna ala an fusina
" Oh Allah help us against the inner desire,
the inner discussions, the inner dialogue that we have
with ourselves, help me against myself oh Allah."
That I can stay away from what is haraam.
Repeat that dua with me Allahumma aaInna 'ala an fusina
"Oh Allah, help us against ourselves".
Allahumma ameen.