- What is called no contact is one of the most
powerful processes or energies that you can infuse
into what you're experiencing, if you find it hard
to let go, or if you find that
the more you try to make something work with somebody,
the more it butchers up the process.
This is something that changes everything
when you get to apply it, and in this video,
I'm gonna share with you why that is,
how you can apply it, and energetically,
what actually happens when you go no contact.
Now in general, when people are wanting
something to work out with somebody else,
what they end up doing energetically is,
they end up sending this person a lot of energy.
Think of it like an address.
This is what I've been using as an analogy lately.
But think of it as like the person,
when you're thinking about them,
no matter where they are in the world,
we're all connected to this collective consciousness.
We, and what we are feeling about this person,
are projecting energy at this person.
And what happens is, they energetically can feel the energy,
especially if they're thinking about you,
even if they're trying not to,
but if there's a lot of energy cords there,
because when you're thinking of someone
when you're dating somebody,
your energy fields begin to intertwine with each other,
your thoughts, your feelings,
and emotions begin to intertwine.
This is why some couples or some people who're dating
may have the same thought at the same time.
It's because they have similar fields
that are in, they're like together a lot,
so the energies are intermingled.
Now what happens is, what can happen is,
there can be a level of enmeshment
where the energy fields really begin to merge,
and then what happens, is somebody may want space.
This happens a lot.
This isn't a bad thing necessarily either.
Sometimes they may feel like it's becoming too enmeshed,
and they may say, "Ooh, it's better,"
So one of them, normally.
And normally, if you look at the attachment styles,
it'll be normally, an anxious and an avoidant
attachment style, a lot of times.
And then one person, sometimes the avoidant, will then go.
And then the anxious will feel needy,
will feel like, "I want this person to come back
"so that we can fix it, we can make it work."
The thing is though, is this person wants space.
So this person didn't want space.
But then what happens is, energetically,
the other person continues to send 'em energy.
So even though they have physical space
they do not have emotional or energetic space,
because the other person is sending that person energy.
And remember, it's like a physical address.
They're thinking about this person.
They're sending this person energy,
and what they're feeling in their body
when they're thinking of them is definitely being projected,
which normally, it's needy energy.
It's energy of wanting something, and it's resistance.
And it's sending that person energy.
They're still feeling it, they're still feeling it,
even though they may not even be talking that much.
But energetically, what happens is,
when somebody pulls their energy back,
they pull their energy back, and they go no contact.
So no contact is a way to where you then focus,
instead of on them, you focus on yourself,
and focusing on yourself means
hanging out with your friends,
your dog, your cat, your family,
doing something you're passionate about,
focusing on, maybe picking up a new hobby.
You really put the attention back on yourself,
and you stop sending this person energy.
That's no contact, some people say no contact is
when you just stop calling or texting them and seeing them.
That's kind of no contact, but I'd actually say
that the real no contact is,
you actually focus on yourself,
because you can stop those things,
but continuously be thinking of that person.
I promise you, you're still sending them the energy,
and they're gonna feel that needy energy.
They're gonna feel that you want them to be a certain,
they're not gonna feel like they have energetic space,
but when you start pulling your energy back
and focusing in on yourself,
they'll then feel that, and energetically,
it then gives them room to breathe.
It gives them room to be in their own field.
And then to say, "Actually, I do like this person,"
or it helps give them clarity, also helps you get clarity.
So energetically, when we're talking about
this process of attracting love
and just the process in general
of us being in our own frame,
realize that when we are projecting our energy out
at somebody else, they're feeling it.
And it is literally projecting,
it is literally projecting energy at them
and they want space, they want to go away.
The best thing to do is to pull your energy back,
go no contact, where you don't talk or text,
because every time you talk or text,
you reestablish energetic cords.
Think of it like we have these
energetic cords that are around us.
The more we we're around each other,
the more these energetic cords intermingle.
And then when we pull apart,
there's still some cords energetically,
but when you send them energy and you're thinking of them,
it's like sending that cord, that energy, to that person.
Now, every time you reestablish contact,
you're reestablishing those cords.
And especially if there's still needy energy activated,
it's gonna refunnel that needy energy right back into them.
Now I have seen it so many times,
where somebody goes no contact,
and they actually let that energy go,
and they put the energy back on themselves,
and it has such a magnetic quality.
And I know I've shared this in a couple other videos,
but I'll share this little example as well.
At an event I went to once, like four years ago,
there was a teacher there that was an energy,
some type of scientific energy teacher.
She had a Ted Talk, and she talks about energy
and she was at this place,
and I was at a little workshop with her,
and she was explaining to the audience
how energy is projected, and received, and felt.
And she said, "Everyone, right now,
project your energy at me,
as we're sitting in the front of the room."
Everyone is projecting it, sending her energy,
send her energy, send her energy.
And she says when people do that,
it literally makes her back away, it repels her.
She said, "Now, bring all the energy back in your body.
"Bring it into your body, bring it in your hands,
"into your feet, bring it back to you,
"bring it back to you, bring it back to you."
She said, "As I do that, it then,
"it's like it has this magnetic quality, where it didn't,
"it literally makes you want to move towards."
So energetically, when we project energy, it's repelling.
When we bring energy back into our bodies,
and our own frame, it's magnetic.
And I've shared the frame technique before,
but that's probably one of the most powerful
and magnetic processes I've ever found, I've ever used.
And I did this and it's such a simple technique
of like staring at a candle flame,
literally a candle flame like this,
and looking at it for just five or 10 minutes a day,
feeling inside of your body, feeling in your hands
feeling the separation between you and the candle flame.
And as you do this, you start to feel safe in your own body.
And as you feel safe inside your own body, you then go out.
You don't need as much from other people.
You won't need their validation.
You won't need their approval.
And when I go out in public, and I'd be inside my body
and I would do that, it was so incredible
how people would respond differently to me, because of that.
It's like there was more magnetic energy there,
and I needed less from them.
So energetically, it changes everything
when you begin to bring the energy
in your hands and your feet, and you begin to feel safe
in your own body, knowing you don't need
someone else's approval, someone else's validation.
And what ends up happening is,
it has this magnetic quality that actually increases
the probability of that person coming back.
But it's because you've reestablished your own energy cords,
because that level, normally it's a level of codependency
and enmeshment, and what happens is,
when we're projecting our energy at somebody else,
it's enmeshing energies together,
and the key, and the most powerful thing
you could possibly do is to pull your energy back,
and to put it in yourself and to put it in your body,
to put it in your hands, and as you do that,
they will literally feel that.
And as they feel that, they will think different,
though they're gonna be able to feel it in their own energy.
And that's when they'll actually realize
that maybe they miss you.
And that's why there's power in letting them
actually miss you, but not just physically,
of going no contact by not calling or texting them,
but energetically, and realize that
what you thought, the story you told yourself about them,
what you thought they could give you,
which normally is validation or approval,
and you think it's love, but normally,
love is a familiar energy, it's just a familiar energy
we felt in childhood and maybe,
if you had emotionally unavailable parents,
then you're searching for that.
And you're trying to, in a way,
close the loop from childhood,
you're trying to get them to meet the needs
that your inner child feels like they didn't feel.
And that's actually what this is about,
more so than even that person.
It's finding somebody that very perfectly
reflects back the inner childhood stuff
that is a very familiar energy.
Familiar and familial are very similar words,
because familiar feels like family.
So the key to this is becoming aware of that,
and as you become aware of that,
it changes absolutely everything.
And energetically, it allows you
to then be in your own frame, to feel safe in your own body.
And it allows you to then actually be
more magnetic and actually have more options as well.
You'll find that you're in more abundance
when you have this mentality.
This is the power and the magnetic quality
of what is called non-attachment.
Now something I have, as well, if you haven't texted me yet,
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there is a video on how to let them miss you.
When you let them miss you, it changes everything.
Watch this video right here.
When we're attached, what we do is,
we create resistance, and this resistance is dependent
on how someone else is responding
or not responding to our own energy.
Now, one of the most attractive things
you can do is to actually bring your energy.