So, you meet a cute little morsel
but before you can even say
how are you doing?
You display one of these nasty habits
that instantly turns her off.
Dude, if you scrap
these nasty habits you'll not only
have her eating out of the palm of your hand,
but you'll feel like a better man.
Welcome to just the tip Tuesday.
After we explore
these nasty habits
that instantly turns her off
we're going to talk about the one thing you can do
that instantly makes her
crave you more.
Let's get into it number 10,
grooming.
So obvious, it's the first thing she sees
or potentially smells.
For example,
you meet a girl for the first time and she's kind of cute
but you're disheveled
and haven't bathed in a few days
maybe your hair, skin,
and nails aren't all that clean.
Now, if you just come from work
that can be hot
but if not, turn off.
All you have to do is ask yourself
would you want to be with a woman
who didn't bathe very regularly?
Say no to skanky snatch.
Number nine,
a bad attitude.
If that made you kind of mad
then you might qualify for this one.
What's a bad attitude?
Generally it's focusing on
the negatives and being a downer all the time.
Now, certainly sometimes that's warranted
life is hard
look at what's happening in the world right now.
But if you can't look at anything
from a positive point of view
or find solutions for problems
that gets tiring
real fast.
For example,
you're in line at the grocery store
is a long line
and you hear sweet thing behind you sigh
you're thinking she's probably
frustrated with the line too.
So, you say yeah,
manager should be fired
for under staffing.
Uuh, negative.
Even if she's thinking the same thing
she will assume
your natural default
is negativity, pessimism,
and impatience.
None of those rank high on the sexy list.
Instead you could say something like
yeah, looks like some of the staff
had the 26oz flu today.
Ah, funny and
positive slant.
A man who makes the most out of things
mhh sexy.
Number eight,
along the same lines
is being rude dude.
It's one thing to be negative
in your own little world
but to take it out on the world
that's a whole other level.
Especially when there's no reason for it.
And there's never a reason for it.
Example,
you get to the cashier
and you say about time
just loud enough for little miss to hear you.
Aah, not necessary
not the cashier's fault
that they're under staffed today
unless she threw the party.
Acting superior
to someone who doesn't deserve
your disrespect,
which is pretty much everybody
is a major turn-off
to a high value woman.
Number seven, often rudeness
comes from number seven,
which is
insecurity, oww.
Women can detect
insecurity from a country mile away.
It's not only in the way you walk, talk, act,
and move around in the world
but yes, it's how you treat
yourself and others.
Just the tip,
women mirror your feelings about you.
If you feel unworthy and insecure
she's going to feel you're unworthy and insecure.
I've done a ton of videos
on increasing confidence
and I'll put a link to that playlist below.
Number six,
another thing that stems from insecurity and it's a big one
is helplessness.
Women do not
want to be caregivers
for a dependent adult child.
Helplessness is the opposite
of resourcefulness.
Resourcefulness is sexy.
You can either
handle whatever life throws at you
or you can curl up
in the corner like a child.
Example,
you've managed to work past her moat
and you're chatting her up.
She asks you
what do you love most about your job
or what do you like most about your job?
And you say Friday five o'clock.
And then you go on a long diatribe
of the disorganization of the company
and your terrible boss
and how you feel stagnant in the company.
So, she's like
well, it sounds like you don't really like your job.
Is there something you can do
to change it there
or maybe find a different job?
But you tell her it'd be the same anywhere else
so, what's the point?
Helplessness
not helping yourself.
If you can't help yourself
you can't help her you can't help your family
you can't help your lives together.
Women interpret everything
towards a relationship.
Toddlers are helpless.
She does not want an adult child
who feels defeated before even trying.
Did this hit a trigger point?
Feel free to lambaste me in the comments.
I'm waiting for it.
But remember
awareness is the first step to change.
Along the same lines
number five, indecisiveness.
As you probably know from watching my videos
women love a man who can lead
and make decisions.
Being decisive
proves to her
that he's made enough decisions along the way
to trust his own judgment
to trust your own judgment.
The only way to get better at something
is to practice, which means
you're probably going
to have some full pause.
Full pause, full pause
you're going to have some full pause along the way.
You're going to fall down, you're going to fail
you're going to mess up
but that's how you learn to make
better decisions.
Example,
let's say her comment about
making some changes at work inspired you
to talk to your boss about
making some changes at work.
But your boss really is a dick
and shuts you down
before even hearing any of your ideas.
Then you get lucky
not in that way but in a different way.
Someone else offers you
a job at a new company
sounds pretty good the pay sounds pretty good,
but it is a new company
and you're kind of worried about the security.
You hum and haw for so long
that somebody else gets that job.
So, you decided
to give up trying
because decisions
are too difficult.
This is a nasty habit.
Habit, decision making is a habit.
That is an instant turn off
as soon as she sees it.
Example number two,
more relevant
to dating and relationships.
You finally get sweet things number
and she's agreed to go
on a date with you or get together with you.
But instead of making definitive plans
and saying hey, I'll meet you here
on Thursday at seven o'clock.
You're like well, where do you want to go?
You think you're being the nice guy
but actually
she sees you as being indecisive.
Or lazy or lacking confidence.
You're better off
to say do you have any food preferences
or allergies?
And then you've got some input from her
so you're considering her feelings
and her desires.
But you're going to make the decision.
Okay, we're going to go here If she has any objection
to that place
she can tell you
and then you can find a different place.
Yes, that might be more work
but it shows her you can be decisive.
Let me ask you this.
If you don't practice
a new skill do you get better
or worse at it?
Right, you're not going to get better at it you got to practice
and what did I say at the beginning?
These are things
that are going to make you feel like a better man.
These habits
if you don't do these habits
you do the opposite of these habits
you work on not doing these nasty habits
that instantly turns women off
you will feel like a better man
because it will improve your life for you.
Never mind for her.
Just happens that
these qualities are also
things that either turn women off
or turn women on,
which leads us to number four.
Now, this one's going to be a tricky one
some of you are going to get a little triggered.
Lack of
or loss of...
Loss of
ambition.
You don't have to be a CEO.
You do not have to be
striving for
the biggest bank account.
That's what the gold diggers want.
But I’m pretty sure you don't want a gold digger
if you do, you're on the wrong channel.
But high value women
do want a man who's got
some kind of drive.
Who's purpose driven,
it could be towards family,
it could be towards career,
not necessarily money.
Could be towards
making a difference in the world.
It's less important
what he's driven toward
than the fact that he is driven towards something.
When you have no ambition
or you've lost your ambition
you become stagnant.
Stagnancy can lead to depression.
Depression is not attractive I’m sorry guys.
I know some of you are,
watch my video on depression
but I’m just telling you the honest truth
and please don't shoot the messenger.
This is tough love I know
it's not some of the stuff you want to hear,
but it's something you need to hear.
You can still make your own choices
you could be like forget it
it's too much work women are too much work
I’m bowing out.
That's okay, you're allowed to do that.
I'm not here to tell you,you have to be in a relationship.
Better to be happy
than sorry.
Better to be single than sorry.
But if you do want a woman
and you do want to improve your life
and you do want to be the best man you can be
for you
well, then that's the information I’m giving you
it'll help you get there.
For example,
because of the crazy state of the world
you've lost your job.
You put on a few extra pounds
you kind of feel a little lazy
maybe haven't changed your sweatsuit in a while.
But instead of looking for work
doing whatever you can
putting on a pair of clean sweatpants
you give up.
Did this one hit home for you?
Are you mad at me?
It's okay, I understand you could be mad at me.
Write it in the comments
let it all out you'll feel better
for a minute doesn't hurt my feelings
I know that you're just suffering out there,
I get it.
Well, as much as a woman can.
Now, lack of ambition
can lead to the next
nasty habit that instantly turns her off.
Number three,
lack of accountability.
So,
if you already wrote in the comments
that you are where you are because...
Insert somebody else's fault
an ex, a boss,
the economy,
the world events
that is probably true to some degree
but it doesn't help you
and it's not a turn-on
and it's not good for you either.
So, you're best to do what you can
with where you're at
and with what you know that's all you can do.
All you can do is what you can do
but you got to do something.
And if you take accountability
where you can
that's actually empowering.
Yes, it's a crazy thought
but when you actually accept....
Okay, here's where I can make changes
that will impact my life
in a positive way.
You're going to feel better
because you can then take steps
toward improving your life.
We all do it.
We get to a point
where we're so defeated
or overwhelmed
or beaten down
that we turn to the blame game.
Example,
if you use this phrase,
it's not good you got to stop that.
It's not my fault because
the economy is crap.
There's too much competition,
I’m too tired,
the gym is closed,
what's the point etc.
Just the tip,
a high-value woman
will be able to empathize
with extreme cases
of not my fault
but it won't be attractive.
She can't go into mothering mode.
Mother mode equals turn off
non-arousal mode.
You are always
best to take responsibility
whenever and wherever you can.
You look for ways
that you can take responsibility.
Now, that doesn't mean you say it's my fault
because dot, dot, dot.
No, but here's what it does sound like.
There's always work
for the hard working.
If I upgrade my skills
I'll have a better chance.
Starting with
50 jumping jacks
and 25 push-ups
feels good.
Gym's closed no problem,
I can work out at home.
Sometimes
lack of accountability
is very closely related
to the next nasty habit
that instantly turns women off.
Number two, lying.
Lack of accountability
is essentially lying to ourselves.
Oh, I know
was that like I just came up
with that right now?
But it's true, right?
If you can't accept accountability
for where you're at in life
you can't fix it.
You're lying to yourself
and not in a good way.
Never mind
lying to her
that's a whole other level
of fibbin.
As far as
other lies more blatant lies...
Here's a tip just the tip.
Women assume
if you lie about the little things
you'll for sure
lie about the big things.
The best way to earn her trust
and have her be able to be turned on
instead of instantly turned off
is to always
tell the truth especially
when she's not going to like it.
If you tell the truth
on the little things that she might not like
she'll trust you on the big things.
Example,
you want to go out with the boys
but you think it might bother her.
So, instead of just being straight up about it
you say you're going to a work thing.
Hmm, that's kind of a little gray area there
and it's meant to deceive.
Mmm, and of course,
she finds out and freaks out
because she knows you meant
to deceive her.
Far better off
to just say hey, I know you want to get together
Friday but I’m heading out with the boys.
You're not asking for permission
you are telling her
what you're up to she has a problem with that?
Bye-bye.
Bye-bye Felicia.
You're allowed to have friends
you're allowed to go out with the boys.
Assuming,
you're not out all night doing terrible things
that you wouldn't want her doing,
of course.
But lying
tells her you can't handle the consequences
of telling the truth.
You cannot have
a healthy happy relationship
if there's not trust.
Remember, what I've said so many times
a woman's primary need is to feel safe
physically and emotionally.
When you tell the truth
even if she doesn't like it
she trusts you
and that helps her feel safe with you.
Let me ask you this,
be truthful.
Have you ever got caught in a fib with a woman?
What happened?
Share your story in the comments.
Okay now, this next one is probably
something you've all got caught doing.
Ready number one,
checking out other women.
Okay so, you know how I’m like
don't hate the bees because the bees got needs
as in women are a certain way
and that's the way they're built.
Well, you're built a certain way too.
And just because a woman doesn't like
that you notice other women.
You're the boy bee
you can't help but notice other women
especially if they're hot,
you're just built that way.
Nonetheless she doesn't love it.
So, if you can control yourself
in the presence of a hottie
and not check her out
at least be very, very sly.
Then make sure your girl doesn't catch you.
Then she's going to assume
you have willpower.
If you can't do that even in her presence
she's going to think what happens when she's not around
makes sense.
Now, this leads us
to the one habit
that actually
counter-intuitively
makes her want you more.
And that is
when you are checked out
by a hottie
but you don't give that other woman
attention or validation.
But you let your girl know
that you did notice
you were getting checked out maybe you
playfully tease her about it.
But that's with you
that's a little fun between you and your girl.
That's not having any kind of eye contact
or checking out or validating the other woman.
What does that do?
It makes her trust you
and your loyalty at the same time
as making her realize
your value in the eyes of another woman.
Perceived competition
creates value.
Okay, so which of these 10
nasty habits that instantly turns women off
have you
mistakenly or purposefully
or just unawaredly
participated in?
Let me know in the comments
share your stories
and help each other out.
Try to keep it positive
and umm,
thanks for being here God bless.
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