welcome to the last video in this counter type series i've covered all the other types and today
it's type seven's turn and we are answering that question of why do some enneagram types just not
fit this stereotype of their type and to answer that question well it can be because of counter
types and so that is what we are learning about today and sevens it's your turn this is your video
i'm so sorry i left you guys um for the last video in the series but
let's just say i saved the best for last and you might be a little confused wondering to yourself
well what is a counter type why why does the word counter type mean that i might not fit in with my
actual type and the reason is all nine types have a counter type and that's why i've done a whole
series on this because i have so many people come to me wondering why they align with you know the
cores of a certain type but they just don't feel like they fit that stereotype of the type and so
they'll read about it or they'll watch videos but sometimes you find yourself watching those
going well i'm not completely fitting in with what you know is being portrayed and the reason
is you more than likely are that type it's just you don't fit in with all the behaviors of that
type and that is because of counter types and so that's what we're digging deep into today
before i dive into the counter type of a type 7 i want to introduce myself i'm hillary i'm your
certified enneagram life coach and i love teaching you guys the enneagram in the simplest and easiest
way possible i run enneagram and coaching i just love teaching you guys the enneagram i love using
the enneagram as a tool to help you grow in your life accept yourself accept others in your life
and just to grow in compassion and grace for yourself and those in your life so before i dive
into what the counter type 7 is i want to teach you what counter types actually are so every type
all nine types have a counter type and this is due to all nine types having subtypes and
those subtypes are your instincts which are the self-preservation instinct the social instinct
and the sexual instinct also known as a one-to-one instinct and so if you've heard of the so
the sp the sx that's what those are those are subtypes aka instinctual variants and so within
those three you find the counter type and every type has a different counter type and so it's
not just dependent on like all the socials are the counter type or all the self preservations are the
counter type no each one is different and so that counter type this one is the one that just doesn't
always feel like it fits in it looks a little different than the average behaviors of its type
those outside behaviors are just going to look a little different and actually i'm the counter type
nine which happens to be a social nine and so i present myself a little differently than you would
think the typical nine would and that's okay and so it just varies within the type and so i wanna
go ahead and dive into the counter type seven and discuss what the counter type seven would
look like so what is the counter type of a seven well it happens to be the social instinct that is
the counter type seven and so let's go ahead and go over the differences between a social seven
versus the self-preservation and sx7 which both of those um while they're still a little different
they present as the typical seven that you're going to read about and hear about and watch
okay so that's social seven this one is a little bit more about going without doing things for
others they actually can resemble a two and so this one is gonna go without in order to benefit
a group or the people they care about it's just more sacrificial than the other two subtypes and
so again that's why i say it looks a little bit like a two is because for them they're a little
bit more sacrificial sacrificing their own needs for others but here's the difference they are
still aware of their own needs they just happen to serve other people before serving themselves and
another difference is the seven they do want to be admired and noticed for those sacrifices they
are making the social seven will take on a lot of responsibility but they can get a little lazy
when certain tasks become too demanding and so you are gonna see the social seven take on a lot
of responsibility but just keep in mind if it gets really demanding they're probably gonna pull back
a little and not you know want to take on more responsibility the social seven they have a very
positive outlook on life and the seven in general is positive but you're gonna just see it even more
in the social seven okay so you guys know the core weakness of the seven is gluttony well this is
where it gets tricky because in the social seven they're definitely aware of that core weakness
but they don't want it to be what defines them and so they're super aware of it but they will go
the extra mile to make sure that this isn't what defines them and and almost to the point of them
thinking like they want to be anti um gluttonous if that's a word that's a word yeah that's a
word so for them it's like okay i know this is my struggle this is you know this could be a
weakness so i want to be anti-that and that's what they're working towards they're going to sacrifice
that gluttony sometimes to be the better person to become the better person they want a world where
there's no pain there's no suffering i know i mean a lot of us want that right but for the seven
you're gonna see this in their everyday actions they're gonna be taking on causes and be taking on
um things that allow them to alleviate stuff like this and want a better world for for everyone
they just want this ideal world i did read that social sevens can almost be too pure sometimes
they tend to want to attain that purity through their health through their diet through those any
choices they're making on what they put in their body they you know they're very aware of them
and wanting to be pure they also strive to be uh pure in their mind and spirits like that body soul
and mind thing for the sevens they're just really aware hyper are aware of this and they're trying
to attain you know the pure um pureness of life and i would say the downside to this is it leads
them to worry a lot about these types of things right and so while they're trying to attain it
some of it can be fear-based some of it can be like they're worried about it and so they're like
ultra um you know strict and and trying to just hit all these levels of of what they think is as
pure and anti-gluttonous and all of those things and so um if you are a seven if you are a social
seven and you relate to this just watch for that just make sure it you know it's not leading to
you always um worrying about it or having anxiety about it you know um bring it into balance these
to me i'm sitting here you know thinking about it going okay this all sounds really healthy and
good but just make sure the pendulum isn't just swinging so far to the right because you're trying
not to go the other way if that makes sense right we just want to be in balance we want
to be healthy and in balance and so just make sure that that's what you're doing in those areas and
so that's all i have today about the social seven that counter type social seven i hope this helped
you understand um the social seven better and if you are a social seven understand yourself better
if you know a social seven all of a sudden you can understand them better and have more um compassion
and uh grace for them and i do that's why i do this right because i just want you guys
to understand each other and to accept each other and to understand like we need everybody everybody
needs to be on the team everybody is an important piece um in this world and so that's why i do this
and so that's a glimpse into that counter type seven and i will say
when we're discussing instincts we usually like to put them in order you're gonna hear people say
well i'm a seven wing six self preservation or seven wing a social or or social self preservation
right you will hear people put instincts in order and so to help you understand that a little better
it just boils down to which one do you relate to the most which one do you do first these are
instincts right this is a self-preservation instinct this is a social instinct
this is a a sexual instinct those are your instincts so just think about if you're trying
to decide which one comes first which one do you most relate to which one do you use first that's
the order we would put them in it doesn't mean that you don't use the other two um we definitely
want you to have all three they're all survival instincts right they're all good instincts and so
just we're just trying to figure out which order you put them in because then we can understand
you even better and so that's my advice on trying to figure out which instinct or which subtype you
are if you are a seven and so i hope this helped you today again and if you are i'm just gonna
throw an example out there say you're uh you know you're like yeah i'm definitely that social but i
also relate to the self-preservation and actually if you don't know what the other two subtypes are
i will link a video right here because i've already done a video on all three subtypes of the
type seven go give that a watch if you want more information or if you want to know which order to
put them in but that example is if you're a seven social but then you're like i really relate to
that self preservation just go s o slash sp and that's how you would write your instincts down
and so if you're like you have a six wing you're going to write 7w6 s o slash sp that means you're
type 7 with a six wing um with a social instinct first and a self-preservation instinct second and
that's why within the enneagram there's nine types but there's so many combinations that there's
you know so many different people and that's and that's one of the reasons why so if you don't know
your wing i also have already done a wing video too i'll link that right here and honestly both
of them are already linked in the description box down below go give those both a watch if you want
to know your complete order and how you write what enneagram type you are down all right that's all
i have for today guys um you guys know i never like to close these without letting you know if
you've gotten to this point and you don't know your enneagram type or you don't know your wing
or you want more help you want someone to come alongside of you and help you figure this out well
i have good news for you i offer a typing session or monthly coaching which is if you do know your
type already and you're like well i really want to dig deeper into all those pieces you were
talking about hillary well you know i do offer a five session package so go find all of that link
down below in the description box also but that's all i have for today guys until next time bye guys
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