Do you ever feel like designer stores feel a little bit too intimidating to enter? So perhaps
you avoid entering all together because you just feel like you don't belong there. If you answered
yes to those questions then I understand you, because I think most of us have felt like this
at some point. But the thing is that we need to ask ourselves, why do we feel like this?
Why would you feel like you don't belong? Is it because you weren't born rich and you have this
false belief that designer stores are only for rich people? What is the worst that can happen
if you enter designer store? Is it the discomfort that you're going to feel? You're going to feel
like "oh I don't belong, I'm not worthy of being in here" or perhaps you're gonna be worried about
that maybe somebody's frowning upon you. Maybe the sales assistants are, you know, looking at
you a little bit sideways like that, and thinking or saying to each other "what is she doing here?"
Maybe you will feel humiliated, or maybe you just feel like there's going to be so much pressure
for you to purchase something, that unless you have the money to spend, there's no point even
going inside. Now whatever you might feel, I want you to know that imposter syndrome is very common
inside design stores, and I want you to know that it is incredibly healthy for you to get
exposed to designer stores if you want to level up your life. And what do I mean by that? Well,
if you are somebody and you are on this journey of elevating your life to the next level,
whatever that might mean for you, maybe you want a more luxurious lifestyle, maybe you want a more
quality life, I don't know, but when we want to take ourselves to the next level we have to feel
comfortable with how the next level feel like. And that is something actually that I'm gonna give to
you in a free workshop that I have created. For the last time, I am holding a brand new workshop
it's called The Fabulous Future Formula where I share the road map to levelling up and success,
and I'm doing it for the last time, as I'm going to move on to other subjects in my trainings. So
if you always wanted to learn a levelling up with me and you wanted to take some of my free classes
but you never found the time, then now would be the last chance you will have this opportunity,
because in the future this opportunity will not happen again. This workshop is free and you can
gain access by going to FabulousFutureFormula.com, but make sure you do it today because soon this
workshop is going to disappear. So what I mean is that you need to get accustomed with how the
next level feels like if you want to live a more affluent lifestyle. Let's say then you need to
start getting acquainted with how that lifestyle looks like and feels like. One exercise that I
give my students in my online finishing school is to go to designer stores on a regular basis,
and just practice the feeling of belonging. It is so important because it's gonna actually
raise your vibration and if you work with Law of Attraction on top of that, well let me tell you,
something you're gonna start aligning yourself with that kind of energy, that elevated energy,
and you're gonna see how your life is actually going to start shifting energetically to that
level. Some ladies feel that they feel out of place entering a designer store because they
feel like they don't dress the part. Now what is the dress code inside a designer store? Can
you come as you are? Well yes and no. I wouldn't say there is a specific dress code, but I would
definitely argue that you should somehow look the part of what the brand represents. People tend to
put in a little bit more effort so going back to the dress code, I would say just wear whatever
makes you feel confident. Opt maybe for something more classic, for something more elegant. Avoid
athleisure, avoid anything too skimpy and maybe too much attention grabbing, unless that is of
course your personal style and you're a little flamboyant elegant lady. Now I'm going to share
with you something that I don't think everybody will enjoy hearing but I think this is the truth,
but I also do want to hear from my dear elegant sales assistant watching and tell me, is this true
based on your experience? But I must argue and say that I do believe that most sales assistants
do judge the people that enter their store, and not because they do it in a malicious way, but I
think based on their experience experience with people. They can group people in groups to say,
okay, I think this is the kind that maybe would spend money, this will probably be a little bit
waste of time, this is probably somebody like this, this one a little bit like that,
again people do this not from a malicious perspective. I just think this naturally
happens based on their experience. So yes if you dress in a specific way, they might group
you together with certain type of people, but if you dress neutrally, if you dress very classic,
simple, elegant, classy, I don't think you have anything to worry about. You will probably be
grouped fairly neutrally. Now one more little detail and I am anti wearing fakes, but if any
of you ladies wear fakes, then at least try not to wear them whenever you visit a designer store,
because oftentimes sales assistants are able to spot what's real and what's not and it might feel
a little bit uncomfortable for you. Now what about the annoying parts of entering designer stores?
Things like when the sales assistant is just following you around, or really pressuring you to
purchase, or overall whenever you just feel like you have to buy something whenever you're there,
how do we navigate that pressure? Well I think this is when it's important to set boundaries with
yourself, but also with the people around you. You need to understand that you have all the rights in
the world to enter a designer store, and you do not have to buy anything unless you want to. If
you feel obliged to purchase something because you don't want to waste the precious time of
the sales assistant, I understand. Some people are really taking a lot of time from sales assistants,
just wasting it in a way where one might feel it's a little bit rude. But you need to remember
one thing is that the sales assistant, she she's still gonna be paid for that day. Okay she might
miss out on whatever bonus or commission that she might earn if you spend money, but even if
you don't spend any money she's still, or he, will still be paid for the time that they have spent
with you. Just be reasonable in terms of how much time you take up of somebody if you don't plan on
spending anything. Some people really take it too far, and I'm sure my dear elegant sales assistant
can agree with me down in the comments that some people are just so selfish and obnoxious that they
don't care about anybody else but themselves, and that is not an elegant mindset whatsoever. But I
do believe in the balance, where we set boundaries with ourselves and with other people. We're
not people pleasers, we're not a doormat that will just do whatever other people want us to,
but we're also respectful towards other people and their time and we find that happy balance.
So yes, you can enter designer store even if you're not planning to spend anything. You
have the right to look around. I would however advise if you can try and do as much research
prior to entering the designer store as possible, in terms of if you want to buy something specific,
this way you will save your time, you will save the time of the sales assistant, and just be more
effective once you're there. And I also think that if a sales assistant is following you around a lot
in the store, just don't take it too seriously. I know a lot of people are bothered by it and
frankly I don't really understand it either. I wish they didn't have to be that aggressive,
that they could give a little bit more space but you know not everybody understands that,
just don't take it personally. They're not following you around because they might think
you're gonna steal or maybe I don't know, but usually not. They just really want to sell. But
then lastly, what about if they're just rude to you, and yes you're going to have a lot of sales
assistants like that unfortunately. But just like Julia Roberts, maybe you can take your business
elsewhere, because I think the least we can expect from other people is kindness and good matters,
and if a sales assistant cannot offer you that you have the right to do just what
Julia Roberts did in Pretty Woman. You work on commission right? Yes. Big mistake. Now,
if you want to find out more of how not to look out of place then go to my next video of finding
out how not to look like a tourist in Europe there I'm going to teach you how not to stand
out like a sore thumb in our culture, as I am a European myself. I will see you in that video.