- [Producer 1] What do you dislike
about your partner's parents?
(chuckles)
- I don't know if I really want to say on camera.
- I just feel like she's kind of a jerk.
Okay, she can't watch this now.
(laughs)
(soft upbeat music)
- [Producer 1] Are you in a relationship?
- I am.
- Yes.
- We're getting married in two and a half weeks.
Third time's a charm.
(laughs)
- [Producer 2] How long have y'all been together?
- Three months.
- Three years.
- 23 years.
- [Producer 2] Whoa baby!
Have you met his parents?
- Mm-hmm.
- Yes.
- Oh, yeah, yeah.
I'm really close with his family.
- [Producer 1] We're making a video
to promote Netflix's new film, "You People"
which is about an interracial couple
and their families reckoning with modern love
amid culture clashes and generational differences.
What do you dislike about your partner's parents?
- Ooh.
- Mm, oop.
- Man, that's a really tough question.
(dramatic exhale)
- Guys, don't even get me started on that one.
- They're really quiet.
- He's kind of just a bit quiet.
- Too noisy.
- They ask me a lot of questions.
- They were a very large family, I'm an only child.
- They want to party and drink
and it's a little bit embarrassing
when your in-laws are acting younger than you
and they think you're kind of a party pooper.
(chuckles)
- [Producer 1] Do you like your partner's parents?
- Love them.
- I do.
- Oh, they're cool as fuck.
- Love my mother-in-law.
- [Producer 1] Do you like your partner's parents?
- Yeah, they were, yeah.
- There were times, no, I did not.
- [Producer 1] What do you dislike about them?
- Just.
- I didn't dislike anything
about them. - [Producer 1] Come on,
like there's gotta be something annoying about them.
- Um.
- [Producer 1] We love them,
we love our partner parents - We love them a lot.
- [Producer 1] But they can, you know,
get on our nerves sometimes. - Mm-hmm.
- What annoyed me about them?
I didn't think they liked me very much.
- I wish they liked me a little bit more.
- I don't know, I just always got the vibe
that she didn't like me that much.
- My mother-in-law, sometimes she just acts clueless.
- She'll say things that are a little bit off-color
and maybe offensive.
- I would be really offended.
- They're mean, they're paranoid.
They think everybody's out to get them, including me.
- It's just condescending to be around them.
- I just feel like she's kind of a jerk,
and okay, she can't watch this now.
(laughter)
- [Producer 1] What do you dislike about them?
- His stepdad is a cop, so just kind of has the personality
that comes along with being a cop.
- I'm not a tiny dog person
and they very much love this tiny dog.
Sorry if that's, if you guys have tiny dogs.
- They kind of sprung some stuff on me right at our wedding.
A big prenuptial that was very offensive to me.
- [Producer 1] Did you sign it?
- In a purple crayon.
(Producer 1 laughs)
- [Producer 1] Do you like your mother-in-law?
- I do.
- [Producer 1] What do you dislike about her?
- The way that, like, the gender roles come into play.
Of course, she's older.
- Older generations can get really bullheaded sometimes.
- They're very traditional.
- [Producer 2] What does that mean?
- So they're pretty homophobic.
- Homophobic.
- He wasn't accepting of his son being gay.
- My grandparents on my dad's side are pretty conservative,
so like, I can't even, like, mention my partner to them.
So there's, like, kind of tension
just, like, pretending that he doesn't exist.
- [Producer 1] Were they accepting of their kid being queer?
- I know, like, her sister was sent to conversion camp
so probably not.
(laughs)
- So we are a gay couple
and sometimes that clashes with religion.
- The lack of religion is something that my mom
has issue with.
- My parents are Mormon.
- They were Jehovah's Witnesses.
- They're traditional Muslim and I'm atheist.
- Because they're so religious,
they kind of took a disliking to me.
- I tell him I still believe in God
just because I don't want to get on their bad side.
- You know, I don't think that he insists
that he marries a Muslim girl or anything like that,
but I'm sure he would prefer if I was, you know,
the same faith as them.
- I'm Jewish and my partner's not.
My mother-in-law just asked
if our kids would celebrate Christmas.
That was her biggest concern.
- [Producer 1] Was there any, like,
religious or racial tension?
- I want to say racial tension for sure.
- Their parents were definitely racist.
- I have dated mostly outside my race
and I've had issues with the parents
not approving of me because of race.
- They prefer Italian Catholic girls.
I'm very much not either one of those.
- [Producer 1] Have your parents made it clear
for, like, the type of person they want you to be with?
- Yeah, definitely someone Asian.
- When I started dating someone that was not Chinese,
I think that was tough for them.
- They just want me to be happy overall
but they want me to date someone
who also understands my culture.
- [Producer 1] You think they wanted her
to be with this nice Hispanic boy?
- Oh, exactly, yeah.
Tall dark and handsome
and I'm not dark, I'm just handsome.
- [Producer 1] How did they react
when they found out he was white?
- I don't think my mom cares at all.
- In the back of their mind they'd be like,
"Oh, you're gonna end up with a white person."
- They were like, "Oh my gosh, you got a white boy.
Okay, the first white person in the family."
- [Producer 1] Was she accepting of you?
- Yeah, no, my girlfriend's only dated black guys
so I'm totally fine.
I'm the lightest one, so that's okay.
- The only thing that I did notice
was like the language barrier.
- Language barrier.
- Just hard to communicate with them.
- They are both immigrants from Russia
and there's a little bit
of, like, a language barrier sometimes.
I bought, like, a first-grade Russian, like, book
that taught me a bunch of random words
like (speaks in Russian).
That's crocodile.
- [Producer 1] How often do you have to say crocodile?
(laughs)
- I don't say crocodile all that often.
- [Producer 1] Are they part of the reason
you guys broke up?
- Yes. (chuckles)
- Yeah.
- They're not the full reason.
They're just one of the reasons.
- I actually dated him longer than I would have
because I was being rebellious.
- My mom hated him.
- My high school boyfriend's mom didn't like me very much.
- She made the guy break up with me.
- She thought I was a bad influence.
- My second wife, me and her mother didn't get along.
- [Producer 1] Why?
- The first time she met me
was at her kitchen table in the morning.
- [Producer 1] What were you doing there in the morning?
- I'd stayed the night.
(chuckles)
- [Producer 1] Do you think your family
had anything to do with the breakup?
- No.
He was crazy, so.
- [Producer 1] Okay. - He was crazy as hell.
- [Producer 1] What advice would you give to people
who are struggling with the relationship
due to their partner's family?
- I guess see if you can separate the two.
- It's you and him, you and she, you and they.
It's not you and their parents.
- If you really love that person, you'll make it work
no matter, like, what the family situation is.
- Over-communicate.
Use a lot of I statements
like I feel like your family sucks.
Don't say that, but like, you know.
- Ezra.
What are you up to these days?
Got a girlfriend?
- No.
- You don't like getting pussy.
- Hearing the word pussy come out of your mouth
does make me question whether or not I like it.
♪ Back again up in this (censored) ♪
- I'm never gonna meet a woman who understands me.
- I don't think I've heard of a man ever
who wanted to be in a relationship so badly besides Drake.
I'm talking "Views" Drake.
♪ To hear that loud, ooh ♪
- I feel like "Views" Drake.
Alone on a building, dangling my legs off,
wondering what it's like to feel companionship.
(screams)
(both screaming)
- What the fuck?
What are you doing?
- Oh my god!
Help I'm being attacked!
- Okay, but you are not getting five stars.
- I'm not an Uber driver.
- I mean honestly, you guys are twins.
- Oh my god, wait, she really does look like me.
(chill hip hop music)
- I'm sorry this was insane.
Let me make it up to you.
- You're dating a black girl.
- I've never felt
so understood by somebody in my entire life.
- Whether you like it or not,
we kind of go together now.
- You're my boo, come on.
I'm gonna ask her to marry me.
- Do you plan to talk to her family?
- Yeah, I just haven't had the chance to meet them.
What's going on?
Tell me about life.
How are you?
- This is your white granddaddy coming back to haunt me.
- What?
Now this is my fault?
(clears throat)
- So you wanna marry my daughter?
- Yes, yes I do.
- Well, Ezra, you can try.
- [Ezra] But they hate me.
- Can you honestly say
that your family's excited
to have my black ass in the picture?
- Hello!
Oh my gosh.
You are so beautiful.
I think the police - Okay.
- Are fucked up towards black people.
- I like your braids.
- Thank you.
- Xzibit had braids.
♪ What's the difference between me and you? ♪
- We've built a pretty awesome life together.
We just need to protect it.
♪ What's the difference between me and you? ♪
- Oh, so you're all Muslim?
- Very much so.
- I love it.
- Well this kufi that I'm wearing
was actually a gift from the honorable Louis Farrakhan.
Are you familiar with the minister's work?
- Well I'm familiar with what he said about the Jews.
- You know what?
Let's have dinner.
♪ What's the difference between me and you? ♪
♪ You talk a good one ♪
♪ but you don't do what you supposed to do ♪
- Your family.
My family.
I don't know how this is gonna work.
- Well, we were technically OG slaves.
- Are you trying to compare the Holocaust to slavery?
- Can you pass the potatoes?
- Our people came here with nothing like everybody else.
- It's a very uncomfortable conversation.
- [Shelley] You kidding me?
- Did we ever figure out what happened with the potatoes?
- [Shelley] Are you kidding me?
- ETA on those?
♪ What's the difference between me and you? ♪
(bell rings)
- Hey Ak.
What's up with white cuz?
- Am I white cuz?
- Well, I'm not.
- I'm white cuz for sure.
(chill hip hop music)