to start they're not my kids they're my ex-boyfriends the girls are young teen and
tween i met their dad ken four years ago online at the time i just bought my first home pretty
large home for one person in the gray area i told him that i had my own home on our first date he
was living with his sister on the couch his kids lived with their great grandparents their mom was
in and out of jail i will admit i felt sad about their situation and i liked him so he and the
kids moved in after only two dates i never wanted kids but i was forced to take on a parenting role
because he never did i bought the kids clothes cooked meals and took them to school meanwhile
ken quit his job to make his music he took over my basement something that i wanted to use as a gym
and made it his music studio i paid for everything i was living a life that i hated the girls weren't
perfect either they saw me as a maid and were heavily influenced by their classmates in their
previous neighborhood they lived in a poor area and their school wasn't great once they moved in
with me they enrolled in a rich school and told everyone that they were rich as well anyway last
month i came home early to see my boyfriend in my bed with some girl i immediately kicked him
out i found out they've been together for almost a year and he's been buying her gifts with my money
i'm not sure where he went but i called my friend and she and i packed up his stuff and threw it in
the front yard i called the girls aunt and told her to pick them up because i was done with ken
after explaining the situation she said well the kids have to stay there it's their home
i said no and that she could collect them and their things she refused ken also refused he
said that the home was their home and that they had the right to live there i let the girls sleep
there and in the morning i called cps saying that they were abandoned i allowed the girls to take
anything from their rooms and when they left i got the locks changed and told the guard in the
community not to allow them in ken and his family are calling me an idiot since adult situations
shouldn't affect kids some of my friends think i'm an idiot because the kids lost their way of life i
know that the girls love their schools friends and home but i don't understand how i have to provide
it for them in four years their dad has only brought in 20 000 which he spends on god knows
what ken is trying to sue me for child support even though i never had legal responsibility
he did that so he could continue getting money from the government everyone's saying i should
let the girls finish the school year but i refused am i the idiot in this situation not the idiot
is he serious right now child support bruh block any contact with any of those people
one and all this is some craziness right here opie i hope you learn your lessons from this experience
don't let people use you like that not the idiot he was looking for someone to move in with and
immediately started with the sob stories i cannot believe people like him exist leech
is gonna leech and it sounds like his family is only upset because now he'll be leeching off them
opie you didn't adopt kids you let an idiot squat in your home with his spawn never tell them you
own your own home on the first date and if they tell you they're homeless girl what are you doing
p.s if you live in california he may win child support you cannot let a homeless man live with
you after one date please get some therapy to see why your standards are so low both parents are
alive and she never adopted them how would he be able to win child support also sue you for what he
has no money so good luck with that legit serious question there his responsibility not ops and the
disruption to the poor kids lives is his fault not ops but get in contact with a lawyer just in case
my mother-in-law barbara is a conservative woman she tends to be very critical of me and she always
finds flaws in me and is always trying to fix them eg her response to me dying my hair was
that i sinned by changing god's chosen hair colour for me she once threw some of my lingerie saying
her son shouldn't see them because it's sinful we were already married by the way during the
engagement period she made a weekly reminder of me not to get pregnant or else she and her family
would disown the baby and cut me off she recently started commenting about how bad my face looks
she kept sending me boxes and boxes of this tea she recommended since she's big on herbals and
essential oils basically forcing me to try it although i already told her that it makes my
stomach her and causes me to throw up yesterday i visited my in-laws alone for lunch since my
husband tommy had work and couldn't come barbara examined my face from across the table while we
were eating and was like oh looks like the tea has finally yielded some pretty good results
your face no longer looks pale and out worn like before everyone stopped eating and stared at me
i felt so embarrassed and quite shocked that she caught my face like that i leaned back and told
her no tommy's been helping me out with the de-stress every night in his special way wink
wink she must have figured out what i meant and so did the others because they started laughing and
she literally widened her eyes in shock she looked very offended but said nothing just said excuse me
and walked out silence took over but later barbara called me lashing out about the disrespectful and
inappropriate things i said in front of the family i said that i was just letting her know
her tea did nothing and told her why my face was blooming she shamed me for talking about her son's
intimacy and said that i was taking advantage of him i guaranteed that i wasn't taking advantage
but she kept berating me then wrapped up with a request for an apology after i offended her
in front of the family i don't know if i messed up here am i the idiot for my response not the idiot
and perhaps you should check what that tea is basically forcing me to try it although i already
told her that it makes my stomach hurt and causes me to throw up what on earth is she giving you
check what it is she could be poisoning you not the idiot this woman frankly sounds jealous of
your relationship and intimacy with her son i know gross and i'm concerned about that tea too a few
years ago there was a story about this woman whose mother-in-law had been giving her tea with sage
which makes you lose the baby she embarrassed you and has been doing so regularly finally you stood
up for yourself you'd be an idiot if you continued just to let her do it but now that you did perhaps
you two can start down the road to recovery what does your husband think about all of this
agree i hope you have your husband's support you don't talk about his reactions you should refuse
to see them without him and have him shield you if you can't stop going a united front is
key anyways this woman needs a hobby maybe you should enroll her in pole dancing classes that
would teach her to be less rigid okay so i female teen have an older sister teen who i'll call sally
who constantly steals from me and messes up my things i'll try talking to my parents about it but
they shrug it off and say that sisters do things like that it's gotten so bad that i have to hide
or move valuable items out of the house in fear that she'll break or steal them three weeks ago
i received money from my aunt and friend for my birthday i was excited because i've wanted
airpods for a while now and i finally had enough money to get them i kept the money in a box and
put it in my drawer about a week ago i wanted to go to the gas station so i went to get the money
but it wasn't there when i checked so i went and asked my mom if she'd seen it to which she replied
yes she told me that my sister went snooping in my room and wanted the money and my mom didn't have
the heart to say no so she let her take it i went to my sister's room and demanded she gives me my
money back she told me that she'd already spent it and that i should have hidden it better if
i didn't want it stolen i was livid i stormed to my room and stayed there for the rest of the day
two days ago while out shopping with my aunt she asked if i got in the airpods that i'd been
wanting i told her no and that mum allowed sally to take the money i was going to use to buy it
my arm was furious and called my mom confronting her about it my aunt scolded my mom and said that
i could stay the night with her when i got home to pack my things mom was furious and threw money at
me asking if i was happy now that i've made sally feel bad i ignored her grabbed my things and left
while at my aunt's place i received many nasty texts from family members saying i was in the
wrong my dad told me that he disagreed with what my mom and sally did but i didn't have to expose
them to my aunt i've been feeling extremely guilty and i've been wondering if i was in the wrong so
am i the idiot not the idiot your sister is a thief and both parents are enablers i'm glad
you have an adult who's treating you well as long as your sister doesn't learn boundaries from your
mom and dad she will continue and surely will have it hard in life when she has to learn she doesn't
get everything she wants and there are actually consequences for her behavior i wonder if it
works both ways ob feel free to take your sister's most valuable belongings and rummage through your
mother's purse for money if they ask or complain say everyone in the family apparently is a thief
i didn't want to be the odd one out exactly why does mum only care that sally would be upset
so it doesn't matter to her that her other daughter is being robbed i wonder which the golden
child is not the idiot opie i'm so sorry you're experiencing this one-sidedness from your parents
i'd maybe be asking your aunt if you could stay with her parents who play favorites never realize
the damage they do to their favorite or the non-favorite either a phrase i saw recently
the golden child is forever a child your sister won't receive or learn consequences
so she won't learn to be a functional adult as painful as it is right now
you're actually going to come through this better off so hold strong your instinct to trust and tell
your aunt was spot on i wonder whether there was a similar dynamic between your mom and aunt
i 34 male have a daughter haley 18 with my ex 34 female yes i got the ages correct for background
neither of our families was happy when they found out we were expecting but her family got over it
after haley was born but mine cut me out the only one who stayed in touch with me was my sister my
daughter doesn't know why i'm not in touch with my family i don't want her to feel responsible
so my ex and i have always told her that i cut them out because i didn't like them
i have hayley with me every other week and x and i split the costs of everything regarding her
we're on speaking terms but don't hang out often only on haley's birthday and thanksgiving every
year i've been seeing my girlfriend 36 for over a year now she's not a kids person doesn't want them
but is on good terms with hayley my daughter will be leaving for college in another month
so she wanted to go shopping for new clothes and things she'll need to set up for her new apartment
she wanted both me and her mother to go with her my girlfriend wasn't invited i was happy
too but my girlfriend wasn't she didn't speak to me but directly went to haley and said that haley
was disrespecting her by making me spend a day with my ex haley then told my girlfriend that it
would be the last time i would spend time with my ex until the next milestone like her wedding
or having children etcetera but it only upset my girlfriend further when haley told me about this
i was upset and told my girlfriend that if at any point she had a problem with what i do she used
to speak to me and not to my kid three days ago when my daughter girlfriend and i were at my place
the topic of college came up haley asked me if i would ever consider going to college myself
i said no and when she asked why i told her that i felt a little old for it now and that i have
a well-paying job so it isn't necessary when she asked if i would consider that if we're still 18
my girlfriend literally said of course he would you do realize that you being born is the reason
his family cut him in the first place right after that haley got upset and angry and yelled at my
girlfriend about how she couldn't be happy that haley has a stable life and then called us some
names i was too shocked to say anything so i just asked my girlfriend to leave i tried speaking
to my girlfriend the next day but she said she wouldn't speak to me unless i punished my daughter
to make her apologize to my girlfriend i said no i wouldn't make my daughter apologize
so she hung up on me and i've been getting texts from my girlfriend's brothers calling me an
idiot for letting my daughter treat their sister like that haley has been avoiding her mom and
me ever since she leaves early comes home late and is eating out and i can't help but blame my
girlfriend for that i know name calling is bad but i feel like my girlfriend brought that on herself
am i the idiot everyone's the idiot here except haley and her mother you're the idiot because
you haven't dumped your girlfriend why would you be with someone who is so disrespectful
insecure rude childish and cruel to your daughter you also didn't defend your daughter i shouldn't
have to tell you why your girlfriend is an idiot too but if i do please see the paragraph above
you are the idiot she leaves early comes home late and is eating out and i can't help but
blame my girlfriend for that you should blame yourself you're the one who lied to your kid in
the first place and you're the one who started a relationship with a jealous children hating
woman after what she did you should have known she would be petty enough to hurt your kid just
because i don't think you're going to see much of your kid from now on not the idiot your girlfriend
is being really nasty i've no idea what could have possibly triggered her to be so petty and
horrible my only recommendation for you is to sit your daughter down and tell her how much you love
her and that it's not her fault your family cut her off etc etc because that stuff will stick with
her for life you can keep your child who loves you or your girlfriend who hates your child pick one
update dumped her just got off the phone thank you all my wife and i have been married for four years
my wife is 14 weeks pregnant we used to split household chores evenly but i've been
doing a greater share of the chores during her pregnancy for example i usually cook for both
of us yesterday i was held up at work because my boss asked me to do extra reports before leaving
so i texted my wife asking her if she could prepare dinner for both of us because i'd be late
she replied saying that i'm a grown adult who can cook for himself i was a bit annoyed at
her comment because i never slack on my share of chores and she's not even ready to cover for me
even this once so i replied to her saying i'd be eating out with my colleague and that she
should cook for herself she said i was being petty so i told her that she's a grown adult
who can take care of herself she tried calling me after that but i didn't pick up and went to
dinner with my colleague who was also staying late my wife refused to let me into the bedroom when i
came home she told me to sleep on the couch i told her i'd be going to sleep at my brother's place
and that she could sleep by herself if she didn't open the bedroom within 10 minutes she immediately
opened the bedroom door when i said that and started crying and shouting at me saying i
wasn't kind to her she proceeded to pack her bags and went to stay at her mom's place am i the idiot
edit she often goes to her mom's place when we argue she comes back only when i go and apologize
in front of her mom not the idiot grown adults don't run off to their parents house when they're
being called out i get her hormones are raging but that doesn't excuse her being nasty for no reason
also refusing to let you sleep in your bed yeah no she's definitely wrong here not the idiot
she wanted you to cook for her then she got mad that you wouldn't cook for her when you refused
everyone needs a break sometimes she said you're a grown adult you can cook for yourself then you
got mad you pulled out the you know reverse and said the same thing kindness is a two-way street
you give some you'll get some in this case she was rude and you had none of it are you both 16
this is some juvenile nonsense everyone's the idiot here you both need to grow up and learn
how to communicate you both will be parents and you need to stop acting like children yourselves
you need to look up the meaning of de-escalate in the dictionary then you know you can just say hey
that comment really stung you can let me know you're not up for cooking without insults right
i can't even imagine the amount of drama that adding a kid to this mix is going to create jesus
work out your issues asap you can't behave like this go to therapy and learn how to communicate
grown-up people don't run to their mother or brother's house each time they're arguing