- Hey everyone.
Today's topic is a question that I've received
from many of you.
And, that is,
can I recover without getting any outside help?
So, stay tuned.
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So, like I said, the question is one
that comes from many of you.
And, I understand that a lot of us get concerned
and we worry about reaching out.
And, we wonder what that's gonna be like
or many of us are limited by funds.
Because, we all know getting help can be very expensive,
especially if we don't have insurance.
So, what do we do?
Now, obviously, these are just my thoughts.
And, I'm sure every person you ask
is gonna have a different opinion.
And, everybody
can have their own opinion about this
because, it depends on their experience.
Now, I believe you can recover without
getting professional help.
However, I do believe it's a lot harder.
And, I believe that you all are worth reaching out
and finding help.
And, I know that there's help available
that is, either free through government funded agencies;
whether you're in the states or you're in Europe,
or any other area in the world.
Also, many therapists and many dieticians and doctors,
et cetera, many professionals work on a sliding scale.
And, they...
A lot of doctors, even, I know people who make more money
will do pro bono work as kind of a tax write-off.
So, you can always ask if they do any pro bono work.
And, I know as a therapist, I will work on a sliding scale
with many of my clients.
Because, I know that it's hard and it's expensive.
And, I pay for my own therapy and it gets expensive.
So, I totally understand.
So, that's just because that's what I think.
Cause, I think getting help really speeds this along,
really gives us the support and the insight
that we sometimes struggle with on our own.
So, if you can please, please, please look into it.
But, if that's completely not an option,
you completely don't want to or can't, or whatever,
you can definitely do it.
Your best friend would be amazon.com, or Barnes & Noble,
or whatever book store slash
anywhere you can buy workbooks and stuff.
I would encourage you to purchase
some various workbooks.
Many of them are in my widget at the bottom of my website,
katimorton.com.
I recommend a DBT workbook
that follows Marsha Linehan's
whole DBT thinking.
And, it's a great workbook. I have it in my widget.
Also, there are some CBT workbooks.
There are also some anger management workbooks.
There are...
I also have my free eating disorder workbook,
and I'll be putting out one on self-harm.
And, I hope to continually put them out periodically.
And, I would definitely download those
and help yourself to that.
And, once you have all of these different workbooks,
and you're watching my videos,
and you can create a recovery journal,
I believe that you will have the tools that you need
to work on recovery.
But, the issue that I find with a lot of my clients
who've tried to do it on their own
before they actually came in to see me,
is that we don't really make time for it.
So, the first thing that I would ask you to do...
Well, actually I guess the second thing.
The first thing would be to purchase the workbooks,
and look on my website.
Get a journal, get a DBT workbook,
download my free eating disorder workbook
and my self-harm one when I put it out,
if that's something that...
Depending on what you struggle with.
And, then, I would ask you to
set a time each week where you work on it.
Now, I know that sounds really rigid
and you're like, "Kati, I just...it's a schedule and bah!"
But, if we don't set the time we won't do it.
And, we have to have a plan.
And, part of me has always believed
that the schedule that we keep...
Like, a lot of my clients always have Tuesdays at four
or whatever their time slot is,
and they always see me Tuesdays at four.
And, I think that we begin to mentally prepare
for that appointment Tuesday at four.
So, if you can set a time each week
and hold to it
like you're going to the doctors and you can't cancel,
then you will see the success happening faster.
Okay.
So, yes it can be done.
Yes, it's something that is a little bit harder.
But, if we set a schedule and we keep to it....
And, we do no matter what,
no matter what,
you need to make an appointment with your doctor
and at least get a physical.
You need to checked out.
We need to get our blood levels checked.
Remember,
I believe I talk about it in my video with
Kate and the results of your eating disorder.
We talk about how it can harm us physically
and what's going on.
And, a lot of times, if we're not taking care of ourselves,
we need to make sure that physically we're okay
before we start working on ourselves mentally, right.
Because some mental things can actually be
caused by things that are happening to us physically.
So, make sure you get that checked out.
Have them do full blood work.
Have them look at your electrolytes, your potassium levels,
how your different organs or...
How your different organs are functioning like
your kidneys, your liver, things like that; your heart.
And, once we know that's okay,
at that point, then you can start working
on the workbooks once a week.
Set aside at least 30 minutes.
I would prefer it to be an hour, cause that's how long
I see my clients is 50 minutes.
So, I would do it just like a schedule.
And, it can definitely be done,
I've had many clients who've done it.
For those of you who have, can you please share
what books really helped you.
What tools helped you the most?
If there's a workbook that you like, that I
haven't talked about before, let us know.
The more we share, the more we can help one another.
And, make sure you get on my website.
There are forums, there are chat, there are
ways that we can get the support
that we may want, but can't afford or
just don't have the access to it, right.
Cause not all of us live in city centers
where there's tons of therapists, and tons of psychiatrists,
and eating disorder clinics and things like that.
So, utilize what's available to you.
And, we'll work together as a community
towards a healthy mind and healthy body.
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