if you're somebody who is confident enough to approach women but gets
rejected a lot then this video will be useful to you because I want to give you
some of my best tips for how to avoid getting rejected in some sort of hard
way when you start a conversation with women getting rejected hard it's not
something that should happen in regularly when you start a conversation
with a girl in the right setting in the right context so hopefully this video
will help you to avoid that going forward so make sure you watch to the
end
hi my name is Stephan Erdman I'm the creator of the approach of will
program the most natural system for starting conversations with women and
getting their numbers completely naturally in your everyday life maybe I
should call this video what women secretly wish you knew about how to
approach them maybe I will do that actually so let's get into this let's
give you my six most key points that I've basically figured out over many
years of listening to women talking to women one of the key things that all of
guys forget is that there are good moments to talk to a girl and there are
bad moments to talk to a girl and it's so basic but very often people just
literally never ask themselves a question maybe because they've been told
oh it's a numbers game you just have to go after women no matter where they are
just do it blah-dee blah look if she's just
balancing two shopping bags and she's on the phone to her lawyer and you know
that there is no point in starting a conversation with her in a really noisy
place in the middle of town there is just no point you are just a
nuisance you need to actually bear in mind that that's something that is
important for you to consider okay so there are great moments to start a
conversation with with a woman she might be waiting she might look a bit bored
she might be doing something that is easy to interrupt
she might be sitting next to you on a train she might be looking at a shop
window half interested she might be really in the newspaper yeah all of
these activities suggest or should suggest that she is possibly open to a
conversation now I remember a few years back I was talking to a woman and I
asked her some questions around this and she made a really good point and it's
very true and it helped me actually a lot at the time and she said you know
what men don't realizes that their faces say a lot more than the words they're
saying especially when they talk to me for the first time and that's so true so
many guys think really long and hard about the right thing to say
and then they basically say like oh hi you know and their face looks I mean
like they're a serial killer or something they look really tense and
freaked out and that obviously is going to be more important to the girl when
she's checking you out for the first time then whatever you're saying because
you know what most of the time when somebody speaks to somebody for the
first time do you actually really hear what they're saying most of the time
there's so much else going on you're checking out what they look like and all
that so the first impression comes a lot through your facial expression and if
you don't smile or have some sort of positive expression on your face then
you can pretty much forget about it she will judge you more on your face and not
your looks but your expression then what you actually say well so tone of voice
is also a big part of this and she didn't mention this at the time but this
is key okay tone of voice and your facial expression of your body language
Trump's what you say any day the third key point that women are telling me
about a lot his personal space is a real thing you know so some people need a bit
more personal space some others don't when she moves away from you it means
she needs a bit more space okay and it's okay to let that happen
Trust needs to build step by step and respecting a personal space is really
important to not make a feel on edge straightaway that brings me to the next
point actually which is also related to personal space if she's moving away from
you slightly and you noticed that it's not an invitation for you to chase her
basically it's not her playing hard-to-get it's just her needing bit
more personal space okay so let that happen let her find her own ideal
distance from you when you talk to her for the first time there's a lot going
through your mind at this stage okay and what men always forget is that women
need to be a bit wary of men because some men turn out to be serial killers
and for women it's good to be a little careful and start to trust you first so
give her the space that she needs and let her take you in step by step the
fifth point I think that gets misunderstood a lot as well is a lot of
guys misunderstand a polite smile for flirting
now polite smile sometimes women's will smile sometimes
women will even laugh when they meet you for the first time when you say
something when that is happening regularly and she engages back in the
conversation with a lot of energy and so forth then you can take that as a sign
that she is flirting and that she's interested in talking to you more and
more but if she smiles politely like this or okay like that but she you hear
a lot of short answers like okay or something like that then that's not
flirting I genuinely assume that women will like me but when I noticed that
somebody doesn't engage very much or that they smile politely or that they
move away from me and then obviously I take that into account because I noticed
these things and one of the most important things with all of this and
this is a key tip actually and the less self-involved you are the more you'll be
able to notice what's actually going on around you and this is so crucial all of
these things have in common that you need to be able to notice read her
notice and react okay read her behavior read our facial expressions read the
amount of you know input she has into the conversation read the flexibility of
her responses read how expressive she is and if there's not a lot happening on
all of these fronts then chances are that she is being polite and friendly
but she really wants to get away so getting really great at reading women
will help you a lot to not get rejected hard ever so better the mind when you
start conversations with women now I have a female friend who recently told
me a great story which illustrates the seventh point and it's basically this
she sat in a cafe and there was a guy passing the window and he saw her and he
noticed her and she looked up briefly because she thought it was some behind
she knew but she was working on a laptop at the time he looked at her smile at
her confidently and then proceeded to come into the cafe and sit down at a
table and say hey I want to talk to you so far I'm thinking well that sounds
like a very confident guy who knows how to start a conversation
but here's what happens next she was working she was busy she had stuff to do
she is a married woman and she didn't want to really speak to him no matter
how confident he was or how nice he was what happens next he doesn't listen he
doesn't seem to get the hint he just keeps on talking and he keeps insisting
and he keeps going and he keeps going and he keeps going until she had to say
to him look I've tried to let you know you
already but can you please leave because I want to get on with my stuff and what
was the problem here well he seemed to have this demand that she had to speak
to him and again this has to do with reading women it has to do with reading
signals another key thing with that is that as a mature man you need to take
care of her needs as well as your own you can't just go in there it's all
about me I want this I want this I want this like so many dating coaches seem to
suggest like oh it's all about you you have to get the number you have to do
what you want to do it doesn't matter what she thinks blah-dee-blah
no as a mature man as somebody who actually learns how to do this well you
need to take care of her feelings and of your own okay you need to care for her
well-being at the same time no woman will want to respond to you if you
basically get her phone number by kind of forcing her into it so she gets rid
of you just by being by by being polite and giving you a number she won't
respond and that's not a cool way of getting a number of a girl yeah what you
need to do is you need to read the signals and not to insist that somebody
talk to you just because you're confident and because you do it well and
because you feel that you want to talk to her doesn't mean that a woman
necessarily needs to have to want to talk to you I sometimes do this on
purpose I kind of almost make it like well you should probably go you know you
see you look busy you should probably go I don't try to get get somebody to stay
with me yeah because what I find out then is that she'll be like no no I want
to talk to you maybe I should get your number
I have to run off and stuff like that bloody blah and then we exchanged
numbers but you let women self qualify to you and that's really important now
the key to all of this is to observe and respond you have to observe women and
actually feel and that's part of your job and then you need to respond a
little bit to what you're getting that doesn't mean that you have to jump at
everything that she's doing a lot yeah that's not what this is about you can
still be a calm chill dude and you can be calm and relaxed in the process but
you need to see it as part of your job to observe her reactions and if you
don't you just come across like an asshole like somebody who's just caring
for one thing and that is himself his own needs okay and if you do bear in
mind her feelings her state and her situation all of that you will be amazed
what kind of amazing women you can meet quickly and get into deep
conversations with when you pick the right Road when you pick the right
context you also automatically then you have your instincts all switched on and
you start to find the right words as well because you are a part of the
process that works and if you like me and you don't harass women in the street
or hit on women but you want to meet women beautiful women in a really
natural down-to-earth way and get their numbers and get more dates and just you
know overall feel like a good guy with the whole process and still be
successful then you want to check out my approachable program there's a link here
or there's a link in the description check that out right now
you realize how easy this can be check this link or check this link in the
description and let me know your questions about this topic see you later
you