With a unique depth and understanding of the world around them, INFJs come with a sense of humor
that has the power to make a fully-crowded room go silent. A combination of light self-deprecation,
and seemingly morbid bluntness, not everyone quite understands or appreciates the INFJ’s
unexpected sense of humor.. So, in today’s video, we’re going to unravel the 9 reasons
behind INFJ’s absurdly dark sense of humor, and why it’s mostly harmless.
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Alright, jumping right into it starting with.. Number one – Introverted Thinking function
One of the main contributing factors to the INFJs’ self-deprecating humor comes from their tertiary
function, introverted thinking. While this function’s main job is to actually allow the
INFJ to connect the dots of information they collect through their extraverted feeling,
it can also push the INFJ to get wrapped up in their own heads. Constantly recalling past
unfortunate experiences is more likely to be a trait of a less mature INFJ, but nevertheless,
they end up turning those unfavorable feelings into comedic material. So, they create
self-deprecating jokes that poke fun at and take the strength away from those negative feelings.
It might seem morbid and unsettling to some people, but to some personality types it
makes perfect sense and it doesn’t feel weird at all. INFPs, for example, handle dark humor
pretty well and usually would understand where INFJs come from when making said jokes. So,
if you ever see someone making a self-deprecating joke and laughing at it, chances are they’re just
an INFJ having some harmless fun.. meaning it’s not necessarily a secret cry for help.
Number two – Extraverted Feeling function With extraverted feeling as the INFJs secondary
function, it’s understandable that they’re naturally attuned with the people around them.
They have a deep sense of the energies, moods and feelings of those around them - naturally
absorbing them and even feeling them more than they do their own feelings and emotions.
And so, because they’re so wrapped up in the feelings of others, they need to have a way to
indirectly call people out on their negative emotions when the time comes. For example,
if their partner is being rather snarky and moody, rather than lovingly asking them
what they can do to make them feel better, INFJs may jokingly ask them something like
“who pooped in your cheerios this morning?” Or they may ask their male partner something like
“is it your time of the month?”.. INFJs don’t like to stir the pot by any means,
so by adding a little humour to the moodiness of a situation, they can usually work their way to
getting people to crack a smile, breaking the tension and easing the conversation.
Number three – INFJs are unique and can be hard to understand
INFJs have a very interesting nature, even contradictory at times. That’s what makes them
so intriguing and different from so many of the other personality types. And more often than not,
they have a hard time finding people who can truly understand them and their intricate way
of thinking.. Including their at times difficult to understand humour. In fact,
it’s mostly difficult for people to accept that INFJs just don’t take themselves, or the world,
too seriously. They have an ability to find a lot of sensitive subjects that others might
feel heavy personal attachments to, very casual and not a big deal. That’s why in most cases,
their preferred kind of humor is considered unfiltered and too dark to some other personality
types. This is also why they are very picky about whom they share their sensitive side and can joke
around freely with.. Usually testing the waters before exposing their shocking playful side.
Number four – INFJs are big intuitive thinkers
It’s no surprise that INFJs are one of the most intuitive of the MBTI types,
with introverted intuition as their main driving force. So, it’s fair to say there’s a lot going
on inside the minds of the INFJ type at all times. From intuitive, subconscious thinking around the
clock - to selfless, thoughtful compassion for others. It never really stops for INFJs,
and the more stimulated their environment is, the more information processing they do.
As a result, INFJs are always thinking in layers and digging deep and far into things. They
see what a lot of people miss, and they find pleasure in that. So when it comes to humor,
they manage to see past the initial disturbing structure and wording of their jokes and find them
humorous and harmless. This isn’t perceived by everyone around them, so it’s not rare to witness
hesitant laughter or even defensiveness after an INFJ cracks a joke. However,
to save themselves the pain, if they don’t sense a decent level of introspection, they’ll
just keep their intuitive humor to themselves. Number five – INFJs can be quite the nitpickers
One of the main reasons people sometimes tend to avoid INFJs is because they can be
tough-to-handle perfectionists. They can easily point out things you’re doing incorrectly
and even ask you to do them the right way. This attribute of theirs comes into play when they
want to drop a joke, but it can surely backfire. INFJs can quickly spot the inconsistency and
lack of logic in what others say and do. And if someone’s telling a story or talking about
a certain topic, they tend to naturally look for that inconsistency in their storytelling
or the details of their topic. Details that no one else would ever notice or necessarily care about.
And with these involuntary findings, they piece together the irony in the things that people say
in order to make a joke about it accordingly. Luckily, with their deep understanding of how
words can be interpreted, they always try to spare the feelings of others, so they won’t necessarily
call people out for these inconsistencies. However, you can be certain that they’re
chuckling to themselves when they witness a lack of common sense in some of their fellow humans.
Number six – INFJs experience a lot of guilt By nature, INFJs love to help and please the
people around them. They go above and beyond to make people happy – whether it’s a romantic
partner or someone they met down the street. INFJs don’t hold back in that aspect and hold themselves
accountable if they fail to fix what’s broken. And so, the INFJ is able to use their unique
sense of humor as a way for them to express those emotions without actually having to be vulnerable.
For example, if a lady asked for help crossing the street but the INFJ’s hands were full, leading
them to apologetically decline, the INFJ may crack a joke to their partner later that evening saying
“I bet that poor old lady is still standing their waiting for someone to help her cross..”
While most people wouldn’t even think to recall that memory from earlier that day, the
INFJ probably ruminates about it their whole way home. And so, these types of jokes are a way for
the INFJ to self-soothe these feelings of guilt that creep up once the situation is long over.
Number seven – INFJs want to slam the door INFJs are famous for their “slam the door”
trait. They won’t hesitate or think twice about kicking someone out of their lives
if it comes down to it. They may start by ghosting and ignoring that person then slowly shutting them
off – for good. They’d only engage with said person if it’s absolutely necessary, but they
would still give them the same kind of treatment - that they don’t like them much anymore.
One of the mechanisms they use to accomplish that is to push that person away,
so they don’t need to deal with them. And to do that, they often use undesirable and crude
humor to scare that person away. Dark and morbid humor does a good job at killing the conversation
and instilling that awkward silence, and that’s what INFJs go for. Deep down, they hope
this defense tactic works and spares them from conflict and hurting people’s feelings.. And if
they’re feeling ruthless enough, it usually does. Number eight – INFJs enjoy making people laugh
Because of their accelerated minds and constant inner dialogue,
INFJs rarely focus on conversations that don’t grab their attention. They don’t do well with
small talk, and you could easily lose them if you don’t have anything interesting to say.
However, what does get their attention is: out-of-the-ordinary, intriguing taboo subjects
and topics. And in particular – joke and humor with depth and intellect.
That’s why INFJs are naturally drawn to use dark humor. They perceive this type of humor
as the best way to keep things interesting and make people laugh. To them, it’s just an
appropriate way to get the conversation going in a more controversial way, which is the only time
they can ever get truly invested in it. However, they’re aware that their jokes might get them
wary looks, so most INFJs become accustomed to know when and where to drop a dark one.
It shows their compassionate side as they strive to spread joy by laughing at the tragedy of life.
Number nine – INFJ use the process of selection Being the introverted intellectuals they are,
INFJs have a less-than-easy time making friends. They’re not satisfied with shallow friendships
and relationships; they, instead, desire real, meaningful connections that they can
cultivate into something sustainable. That’s why whenever they do find someone they click with,
INFJs will do their best to keep them around. Because they feel almost alien
in their own environment so when they meet that one special person, they won’t let go.
And they usually look for someone who can keep up with their wit and wordplay. And to do that,
INFJs let their sarcastic, dark side loose and test the waters. If they find someone
who understands what they mean and relates to them, they open up more to this person and look
forward to hanging around them. But, if INFJ are met with judgmental eyes, they become a
lot more cautious with how they act around people. And... that's it for today's video, PSYCH-Os.. So,
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