While INFJs are known to be an introverted personality type,
there are very few things in this world that are more important than deep trustworthy connections.
They crave closeness and emotional bonds, and won’t settle for a few common interests,
especially when it comes to romance.. And as a result, INFJs can struggle
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Alright, let’s get right into it starting with.. Number 1: They genuinely want to be single
INFJs love their alone time, and there’s no way around that when it comes to romantic
relationships. On the bright side of things, there are many personality types that actually
admire the INFJs need for independence within a relationship. On the not-so-bright side of things,
solitude can be seriously difficult for the INFJ to even think about giving up.
In fact, if it wasn’t for their desire towards the idea of romance and human connection, the INFJ
would never consider another way. With their rich imaginations and a passionate outlook in life,
most people with this introspective type are fine with being their own best friends.
Whether they want to follow their dreams of solo travelling, going back to school,
or starting their own business, INFJs have no trouble navigating their alone time.
And so, another person sometimes just seems like a damper on their plans
rather than a compliment to their life. Number 2: Too busy following passions
INFJs love deep connections, but quite frankly, sometimes this empathetic type is able to get
their fix through their passionate careers and hobbies in life. If an INFJ is lucky enough to
find something they’re truly passionate about, it can be extremely difficult to pass up the
freedom of true independence for the sake of a relationship. The fulfillment INFJs get from
giving back to the world or learning something new can be all they need to live a happy and content
life. This is especially true when their hobby or career involves communicating with other people.
Not only would it fulfill their desire to help or learn, but it also feeds their fix for human
relationships with no obligations attached. INFJs put their all into everything they do,
and although this tendency propels them towards achieving their personal goals, if dating isn’t
their main focus, it can be difficult to take potential relationships seriously.
Number 3: They only want deep connections
Deep connections are hard to find in a world that can seem so ‘surface-level’ and ‘auto-pilot’ at
times. And while some people enjoy the fact that socializing doesn’t always have to mean
deep conversations and vulnerability, for the INFJ, this isn’t a part of their reality.
In fact, it can be difficult for an INFJ to stick around in a new connection
if they feel like they’re not opening up about themselves at the rate they expect them to.
This sounds slightly harsh, but especially when it comes to getting to know someone,
small talk just seems an avoidance to talk about the nitty gritty. The stuff that the INFJ showed
up for. Whether it be an acquaintance, friendship or potential romantic partner,
talking for the sake of talking just doesn’t cut it for this introverted type that can't help but
to have proper listening skills. And as a result, dating can seem seriously dreadful;
which brings us to our next point.. Number 4: Most INFJs can’t tolerate casual dating
While some personality types find the joy in dating for fun, casual dating isn’t for everyone
and that definitely includes INFJs. When it comes to texting relationships and short-term flings
you can almost always count the INFJ out. Besides the fact that INFJs look for genuine connection,
which isn’t always the case when it comes to casual dating, INFJs can find dating to
be pointless if there is no means to continue further. Since they have such a deep drive to
build something in their lives with or without someone, they don’t want to waste their time
being held up by emotionless relations. Yet, since we can’t say the same things for the whole world,
the INFJ can seriously struggle to find ways of connecting to new people that doesn't require
siphoning through no-strings attached go-getters and dodging vein, empath-seeking narcissists.
Number 5: Their generosity attracts the wrong people
Speaking of narcissists and toxic connection, INFJ’s are said to be one personality type’s
most targeted by narcissists because of their sensitive and empathetic nature.
Since INFJs are known for giving people the benefit of the doubt due to their ability to
understand people on an uncanny level, sometimes the emotional depth of toxic people can intrigue
them. And as a result of being a little too nice in a world of evil, naiveness can get them into
some sticky situations, especially when it comes to toxic romantic connections. While they’re busy
trying to help the world, an inexperienced INFJ can easily be sweet-talked or guilt-tripped into
a relationship in the name of helping someone, despite their strong intuition. Unfortunately it
only takes one tough partnership for the INFJ to want to avoid dating for a good amount of time..
And when they are ready, they usually come back into the dating game extremely weary,
which poses its own set of complications when they’re expected to become vulnerable.
Number 6: They much prefer a bare soul over a bare body
Almost every INFJ can consider themselves demisexual to some degree. Demisexual means
that you only feel sexually attracted to someone when you have an emotional bond with the person.
In other words, INFJs want to know someone deeply, on a soul level before going forward.
For some INFJs this soul level may look different than for other INFJs, but overall INFJs see human
connection as an energy exchange. And similar to their dislike for the casual dating scene,
certain societal expectations and things like hook-up culture can seem really shallow to this
idealistic personality. Sure, the men and women of this intuitive type will have very different
experiences, but predicting and dodging ulterior motives can become daunting to say the least.
Number 7: They don’t trust easy
So.. how do you win an INFJs heart and prove yourself worthy? Well.. all it takes is a little
genuinity, consistency and time. A lot of time.. We’re talking months to years before an INFJ can
truly let their hair down and be themselves around someone new. And quite frankly, that’s just too
long of a time to wait for some people. Contrary to their interest in other people’s emotional
vulnerability and depth to their personalities, INFJs aren’t all that willing to share about
themselves. Not only does it require a lot of patience on the other end of the relationship,
but it also requires serious emotional understanding to not take offence by it.
Because, as the INFJ analyzes and tests the waters in a new relationship,
it can almost seem obvious that they’re a little uptight. That they’re not comfortable enough to
open up.. and to the wrong person, this can make it seem like the INFJ is holding something from
them or that they’re unwilling to trust. Number 8: They look for similar interests
INFJs are picky. Not just in relationships, but in life. They know what they want, but more
importantly they really know what they don’t want - and they’re not exactly easy to persuade. So,
when it comes to dating and getting to know someone, INFJs can be pretty finicky on whether
or not their potential partner has interests and hobbies that could fit into their life. While
they may be willing to settle for some things, people with an INFJ personality type are usually
interested in out-of-the-box concepts like conspiracy theories, spirituality, psychology,
arts, poetic writing, and the list goes on. INFJs have interests and require a partner to have
interests of their own, or of a similar nature. Uses to connect to others on that deeper level
they crave, unfortunately being one of the rarer personality types, INFJs aren’t all that familiar
with meeting people that share these interests. In fact, they’re lucky if they can meet someone who
doesn’t see their thoughts and opinions as taboo.. So, you can only imagine the difficulty that would
come for an INFJ who can see the incompatibility within the first few minutes of a date.
Alright psych-os, that's it for today.. So, are you a single INFJ? If so, let us know in the
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