Hey guys, today we're going to talk about the difference between players, bad boys,
nice guys, and good guys.
Okay so I get a lot of flack when I talk about nice guys finishing last because
the nice guys out there don't like to finish last and they're really offended
that women like bad boys and players. So I just want to go through what the
actual terms are or the labels that I use for these words. So a player is
essentially just a guy who wants to get laid, he'll say whatever he thinks will
work to get what he wants from a woman and doesn't really care how she feels or
whatever the outcome is for her because he's a selfish prick, he's a player,
whatever, okay, he's a good at seduction. Some women just want to be seduced, fair enough.
Okay then bad boys. Bad boys have a bad reputation because a lot of people
think they are players but they're not players, at least not according to
Steve Santagati who wrote the book called, "The Manual" which is a New York Times
best seller and his company is called Bad Boys Finish First, and he suggests
that a bad boy it's actually just a guy who has his own opinion, his own life,
does have mysterious qualities but actually loves women. He doesn't use
women like a player does, so a bad boy has the mysteriousness and the seductive
qualities and the charisma of a player but he doesn't use women. Okay so there's
a big difference there. Nice guys. Okay the typical nice guy syndrome. Nice guys
are not good guys. Nice guys do not have their own opinions and they will
actually say whatever they think anyone wants to hear because they're so
insecure about themselves, and perhaps don't even know what their own opinions
are, that they really just don't want to offend anybody and/or they want
everybody to like them. They do not want to have their flaws, their so-called
flaws, revealed to people, especially women. So they're inauthentic, they're
very insecure within themselves and therefore,
women who are highly intuitive, sense this and know they can't trust a nice guy,
and I'm talking about the nice guy student syndrome guy. So that brings us
to the good guy, or the kind man, so there's a difference between a man who
is a nice guy and a guy who is a kind man. So a guy
who's kind may or may not share his opinion if it differs from the woman
depending on whether or not it is a core value to him, or depending on whether or
not the situation warrants it, but he doesn't hold his opinions back selfishly,
either consciously or not, just to get what he wants from other people or for
validation. Big difference there. So what do you want to be, you want to be a bad
boy who's actually kind and straight up and has his own opinions and has his
own life and, not that he doesn't care about women, he does care about women, but
he doesn't become desperately needy of their validation and end up changing his
life because of them. So I hope this has cleared up a few things and if you have
more questions about it, write a comment below,
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