Oh hey everybody. This week on Ask Cristen I’m talking about painful orgasms and while
that might sound like an oxymoron oh, oh, oh, they are real. [Impact sounds].
So this week’s Ask Cristen question is coming from Jessica Andersen 9 who wants to know,
‘I have a really embarrassing question. I often have multiple orgasms.’ This does
not sound embarrassing so far by the way Jessica. ‘There’s usually about a 10 second gap
between about 15 in a row. These last at least 23 seconds each.’ Woah. ‘And I can get
them out of the blue. This can leave me in a bit of discomfort. Is this normal?’ First
up a quick differentiation. In this video I’m going to focus in on the spontaneity
plus pain issue rather than talking about painful orgasms in general which is a penis
and vagina inclusive video that I would be totally happy to make in the future if y’all
want it. I wanted to talk a little bit about this embarrassment factor. Before you do anything
else I want you to treat your body like a friend. If your friend was experiencing pain
you probably wouldn’t be like ugh, that is so embarrassing. You would probably in
a very kind and gentle way figure out the best way that you could help. And that’s
how you need to think of your body. After you’ve paid attention to the symptoms, I
mean it sounds like you kind of know what the pattern is I would absolutely, definitely
consider talking to a doctor or nurse practitioner. And let me bring up the embarrassment factor
again, if you go to said doctor or nurse practitioner and describe what’s happening and he or
she makes you feel embarrassed or slut shames you in any kind of way get out, do not internalize
all of that nonsense, get out, find another doctor. As for whether spontaneous orgasms
are normal, they absolutely happen. I’m going to talk about my vagina for a second.
I went jogging last week and this normally doesn’t happen. After I finished jogging
I was kind of you know like walking it off and I had the sensation of being of the verge
of an orgasm for like an hour. When your body feels that way for long enough any kind of
pleasurable sensation quickly gives way to pain. But considering the frequency of these
multiple, spontaneous orgasms and the pain associated with it, it reminded me of maybe
a mild case of what’s called persistent genital arousal disorder. For really intense
cases of it, women are completely debilitated, they are having upwards of 100 orgasms a day,
they can’t use tampons, they can’t ride in bumpy trains, they can’t even wear high
heels because it shifts the pelvis in such a way that it sets off this nerve sensation
that is in no way what we think of when we think of orgasmic. And because it’s relatively
new in the medical literature doctors still aren’t entirely sure what causes it although
they have identified all sorts of possibilities. It’s also worth noting too that the age
of onset totally varies. There are some women who experience it their whole lives and some
who don’t get it until after menopause. But aside from going to see a medical professional
which again I recommend, there are some things at home that you can try out which are just
good for you in general: practicing mindfulness, up your cardiovascular exercise and when it’s
happening, just generally distracting yourself has been shown in pretty much every first
person account of this that I have read to be extremely effective. You are not alone,
you are not a weirdo, our bodies just have minds of their own sometimes. But now dear
viewers I want to know if you’ve ever experienced this, does this sound at all familiar to you
or are you able to reach an orgasm without any kind of stimulation? Let me know in the
comments below. Oh and also, keep it clean, please. Thanks to everybody who watched and
commented on last week’s Ask Cristen video ‘How to Stop Sex Guilt’. Rainepanda said,
‘Me and my husband were just super honest with everything aka EVERYTHING’ - All caps
- ‘I did before that I felt ashamed about and I was able to realize how I truly can
trust my husband completely. Feeling comfortable with myself and my husband made a huge difference
cause I realized it’s no one else’s business but ours.’ Sina said, ‘It’s worth noting
that some of that shaming that is directed towards women is so strong that it leaks into
some men’s minds too, especially if the kind of sex acts they’re into are considered
feminine. I know first hand because I like bottoming but it’s hard to get rid of the
shame.’ And always ask your questions so I can give you some answers. And possibly
stories that you probably didn’t really want to know about me and my vagina.