I wanted to learn how to write drive a
ride a bicycle and the first time before
I even got the bicycle is so excited I
thought man I'm gonna ride this bicycle
so I get on this bicycle I don't even
know how to ride a bicycle so I get on
this bicycle and I have no skills and
all of a sudden I get on this bicycle
and I accumulate some skills all right
and then let's say I fall off I get
upset and let's say I started thinking
about how horrible my little accident
was and then I start to to project I
don't know if I get on again I'm gonna
hurt myself it's gonna be ten times
worse I would probably never ride a
bicycle again true but so here it is I
get on this bicycle and then I take
these skills that I learned from the
very first time I get on then I'll get
on the bicycle again then what I'll do
is I'll take these skills and I'll add
it to my next experience and then I'll
learn I'll create some new experiences
so then I'll add to this experience and
then I'll get off the bicycle maybe the
next day I'll get on the bicycle again
and I'll take these two experiences and
then I'll add more to that experience
and then I'll get on the bicycle again
and I'll keep building experiences only
how to ride the bicycle and then the
next thing you know of course when you
ride a bicycle you'd figure out to keep
it balanced you gonna have to figure out
how to operate the brakes you're gonna
have to figure out how to turn the
bicycle and then when you get really
good you can do all kinds of fancy
things on a bicycle but when I started
here there was it was very complex and
difficult but next thing I know I just
jump on the bicycle I don't think about
how to balance it I don't think how to
do all this stuff I just start riding
like it was just some kind of magical
skill now if I just do it now isn't that
the same exact way you do when you drive
a car all right
let's say you have experience with
relationships first of all you have this
father now this father has emotional
issues he has abuses that he's carrying
around and guess what father will act
from his own skills and then he's going
to interact with you guess what you're
going to pick up the learning
experiences from that and that true so
now all of a sudden you've been in all
these relationships and the craziest
thing about all this relationship stuff
is that you keep picking all the right
wrong people and that true you keep
experiencing exact same emotions the
same exact same things over and over
again why is it and the reason is is
because inside you I call it the divine
presence the genius within it knows how
to help you survive so it has this
program on the inside this is how
relationships are therefore since we
have this process inside it's going to
help us pick the right people to keep
what you know that you feel common and
natural for you make sense so there are
no broken people there are people who
operate from systems that were installed
from experiences correct so everyone you
picked out was perfect for you at the
time now you know somebody said well you
know I've kind of given up on this
relationship stuff every one of them
gets worse I mean so so again is this
not a cumulative that means we just get
better at having the bad stuff because
why we didn't let go of it we built a
belief system says this is how life is
nature's I've had many wonderful
experiences in my life I mean I have
because when I came in this world the
stage was set just like it was set for
you
my mom and my at the time I didn't have
a father my mom at 14 she ran away from
home at 15 she came back home and she
gave birth to me I have I don't even
have the slightest idea who my father is
biological but my stepdad the only dad
I've ever known came in my life when I
was six months old now my stepdad had
his own issues he was the oldest of nine
kids
his dad was an alcoholic and his mother
was the type who would marry an
alcoholic all right at one point in his
life all the kids were separated put in
foster homes and he was angry he was
hurt he had all these emotional issues
right so so he married my mother he
became my father there were six of
kids he was angry and he interacted with
me and I have I've had memories that
would haunt me when I was 14 years old I
went and worked in Louisiana with my
aunt and uncle and I discovered one of
the most amazing things about working
there it was peaceful no one was on my
butt all the time and so when I went
back I said mama I'm not living here I
want to go back do what my girlfriend
was where I had a job my life was better
she said you can't but you can go live
with your mother grandmother I said I
don't want to live with her I want to go
back well my job was I want to go back
where all this stuff and but so I ended
up moving with my gram move in with my
grandma and my grandfather and what
would happen is that I would have these
nightmares literal nightmares and I had
this one nightmare as if I killed my
father and I buried him out in the woods
I mean and then also had another the
part of that nightmare was this old lady
that lived on the other Street I don't
even know who she was
but I felt like I killed and buried her
too now I didn't have visual images that
I did it I just had that sense and
feeling that it did and it bothered me
and I never understood why I had the
dream but I had some very powerful
hurtful memories one memory I want to
share with you is when I was I was in
the fifth grade and the neighborhood
boys had chased me up this tree but my
father pulled in the driveway
and I thought hey I'm safe my hero's
here to save me so I climbed down from
the tree and I ran over to my father by
his car he wasn't my hero he pulled a
hammer out and beat me right there in
front of those boys that's the truth
it happened so here it is I have this
memory inside my mind this is my father
and this is me all right now this is a
really then it happened one time right
now this now see if you're in the fifth
grade about what age would you be about
11 years old okay and so I had this
memory inside and every time I'd go this
memory guess who who would feel the
emotions here I would why'd it happened
one time
and only one time and so if I took this
memory and I put it right back here on
the shelf and I would never go there
because why would I go there
it would hurt it would torment me it
would have a negative impact on me
but now you remember I gave you a little
quote memories
buried alive never die now here it is
this memory is alive inside my
unconscious I would never go there
because it would hurt guess what happens
to this memory then it's active and it
also attracts whatever is inside do you
understand what I'm saying so here it is
this memories in the back shelf and it's
way back there and guess what it does it
projects right through my eyes and it
also helps me what find other people who
knows how to play this game do you hear
what I'm saying even though I say I
don't want it the unconscious mind will
use what it's great ability to process
the how to's and that true because this
is my learning skill with relationships
in that right because this is my father
I love my father and my father's there
and my father's giving me a valuable
lesson here even though it's not the
best lesson in the world right now at
one time this was alive at one time it
hurt me and I couldn't deal with it but
here's the crazy thing about memories
everything inside your brain everything
inside your mind is you now now I want
you to think about this who plays this
memory if I went back to it I do and
that right who owns the memory I do now
this is a how-to I mean for example my
father was teaching me how to hula dance
guess what I'd use this reference to do
what I don't know how to hula dance
wouldn't I because this is a how-to
here's the crazy thing
this memory I become all players in the
memory I become my father I become the
victim
this is my how-to and the crazy thing
about this how to is that I will find
people who will play with me the same
way does that make sense because why
this is my unconscious reference on how
to have a relationship by the way guys
this has no power none whatsoever inside
me it's already changed I changed it it
wasn't long ago my best friend had
recently got married divorced this lady
and he has this new wife and I've never
met her so I go out to dinner with him
you've seen this before she looks
exactly just like the one he divorced I
mean the way she dresses the way she
looks the way she talks exactly the same
and guys don't do this I made a big
mistake I called her the exes name big
big mistake
now how many how many you've seen this
guys haven't you seen it