hi everyone I'm Adrienne Everheart your feminine energy dating and relationship
coach and in this video i'm going to talk
about how to really get a man to chase you and crave you
when the man himself needs healing so you might find yourself in love with
a wonderful man but he definitely needs some healing in
his life there are some reasons he's not coming
forth and claiming you asking you to marry him and things like this or get
the commitment you really desire because there are things going on in his
life that he needs to heal from so in this video i'm going to talk about
how your natural feminine energy without pushing any agenda on him or
controlling him but how your natural feminine energy can actually heal
a man now as always if you're new to my channel please take a moment hit the
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so the first thing that i want you to ask yourself is am i attracting men
into my life who need healing and i want you to just for a moment take a
second and ask yourself who would i be if i attracted a healthy
man who would i be if i attracted a man that
had no problems with claiming me commitment or wanting
to be married so i just want you to take a few moments and
sit in that energy of what it would feel like to not have to
help a man get any sort of resources or therapy
or help from you in order to heal i want you to spend a little time thinking
about who would i be if i didn't have to do something to
help the man who would i be if i attracted a really
healthy guy who had his job all figured out who had
his life untangled and was ready for a loving
long-lasting committed relationship with me what
would i feel like so as much as you can realign your
feminine energy with getting in touch with what that
energy feels like the next thing i want you to consider is
are his problems your problems no they're not they're his
problems he's a man he has to figure them out one
of the best things about feminine energy is that you're not over
functioning you're not overdoing you're not controlling or manipulating an
outcome you're letting the man have the time
and space and mental energy away from you
so that he can figure his life out so so often women a man can actually feel our
energy on him and it actually makes them
stiffen up and how many of you can really figure
out how to do something or problem solve when
someone's standing right over your shoulder
it really doesn't feel good you feel under stress and under pressure
and we are women we have a lot more receptors to deal with emotion
men have less they get flooded much easier
emotionally so make sure his problems are his problems they're not your
problems to fix or solve you don't have to fix problems in his
life so that he can figure out how to marry you claim you
be committed and be that guy that you really really want him to be
the next thing i want you to consider before you allow your feminine energy to
begin healing a man is are you in love with his potential so
so often we fall in love with what a man could be
if only he finished his college degree if only he could get his ex-wife off his
back if only he could figure out his bills or
sort out whatever's going on with him or get over the trauma from his childhood
or his ptsd or his addictions or whatever it may be
we fall in love with that future man and this is where i say you're in love with
the god that you're seeing inside of him you are in love with the life and beauty
that you see inside of him and you love the person as well but a
woman can really see into a person and see what more they
have to offer or give so much so that we end up not living in
the present moment where the man really is this flawed
person we all have problems we all have things
that we need to tackle in our own cosmic karmic journey in life
and we definitely don't want to intercept someone else's cosmic karmic
journey this is for him to figure out this is
where he's at in life and it may not align with your values
you may literally be on a different plane of existence
than he is so sometimes we have to say am i
in love with who he could be or am i really really in love with what i've got
right now the way he's showing up right now now
what do these questions and tactics get you to do
they get you to peel your energy off of the man
when your energy is peeled off of the man you're in your own
feminine energy body you can get really clear about
what you're feeling inside your body when you're up in the masculine energy
world you're thinking you're doing you're making things happen
and the biggest thing you're problem solving now don't get me wrong you know
exactly how to put his life back together and solve his problems
but he doesn't want to hear it a man doesn't want to be controlled
or someone telling him how to do something it robs them of their
masculine energy i really wish things were different i
really wish we could just program men to do what we know they need to do to
fix their life or any problem but it doesn't work that way again his
own cosmic karmic journey it's his steps in life he has to take
even if you're raising children you understand at some point
you can advise your child but at some point you have to let them go
you have to let them make their own decisions so when you peel your energy
off of a man you allow him time and space to be who
he is and most importantly show you what he
can or cannot do and this is where you have
to sit back and watch and observe i want you to also
be willing to walk away i want you to have it in your energy
it's nothing that you want to threaten the man with
you don't want to threaten him like i'll leave you if this doesn't change
i want you instead to just have it in your energy that
i know that if this continues and we don't start making some improvements
i'm going to go somewhere else i'm going to figure out something else for myself
i know i'm going to be okay i'm a beautiful dynamite
powerful woman i know i'm gonna be just fine
if this guy's problems don't get solved and it's not what i want
so just have that in your energy have that in your vibe
that you're gonna be okay no matter what and believe me you will
now on to really healing the man and this is what i love about my feminine
energy work is that i really use some powerful
things that exist naturally inside of you when we step
away from thinking and doing and solving and you really get inside your body
you'll find that these steps feel really authentic and natural
they support good psychology they support
healthy spiritual connection and they're going to feel right and authentic to you
the first one i want you to be okay listening but listen
up to a point this is where you want to have a boundary
if the man is droning on and on every day when he comes home from work or he
talks about his ex-wife or his old pains and hurts there's a limit to
how much you can handle and really soak in and be there for him
after about five minutes of listening to him you
need to take a break you need to do something
else i don't want you to turn into his therapist
i want you to be able to have that boundary and be able to say to him
okay i've i've listened and i feel so terrible about what's going on
i trust you're going to figure it out and i'm always here for you
but i need a break for a little while you need to be able to have that
boundary so you don't merge or melt into becoming
his therapist instead of his hot sexy wife or
girlfriend another really important one when a man is
speaking or doing the talking give him your undivided attention put
away your cell phone studies have been shown even if a cell
phone is on a table while a conversation is being had
the importance is lowered the value is lowered of that conversation
so put away your cell phone look him right in the eyes
and nod and listen let him know you're there and you're not interrupting him to
problem solve or give your point of view or offer how
you would do it differently just let him have that moment
all of the focuses on him so you can be an empathetic loving and caring partner
i want you to make sure that you're always embracing the good
when there's a problem masculine energy is going to want to take over
and work on the problem and work on the problem and work on the problem and work
on the problem and work on the problem so that that's
all you're seeing is what's wrong and so often we really need to pause get
out of that loop untangle ourselves from that sort of
thinking about what is wrong and how do we fix it
and i want you to begin to notice what is going right your eyes will get
opened really wide to how many good things are
happening when he walks in the back door he
doesn't have to shut the door he doesn't have to wear a clean shirt he
doesn't have to shower he doesn't have to brush his teeth or
let the dog out to go to the bathroom these are all wonderful things that he
is doing that i want you to begin to notice no matter
how tiny or seemingly insignificant they are
remember women we can live in this place of masculine boy energy
and it almost becomes like a superpower for us where anything that we perceive
as wrong or needs fixing it takes utmost
importance in our thinking in our lives so we become hyper focused on
outcome and results instead of the beautiful life that we're really having
so i want you to be able to slow down and observe what really is working
where is your man really doing good stuff and make sure you tell him and
notice it this isn't about nurturing his ego
or making him feel better it's about focusing on the good that you do want to
have in the relationship the last thing i want to share with you
while your man is healing you've done all these wonderful steps
you have this mindset now you're really going in with within and
finding what you feel and you're not over focusing on him
i never ever want you to be fearful of asking him the following
where do you see us going this is a question it is your right to ask
you are investing your time to this person and this relationship
take a moment to ask where do you see us going
the past few months have felt amazing and i know we're still figuring things
out but it feels so wonderful to be wrapped up
in your arms and we have so much fun and i enjoy our time
together i just feel like every day's a vacation and i'm just
curious where do you see us going and be willing
to sit back in silence and observe the man
and see how he answers you and see how things begin to change
now don't be too scared if he for a couple of weeks
backs off a little bit that this question might really make
him reflect and when men reflect they go to the cave
and they need a little alone time and they need to make sure that you're not
going to freak out if they take this now remember dropping out of the
relationship for two weeks is not what i'm talking about
but definitely a little time encourage him to have this time alone
support him to have his own time alone men
need that time to recharge all right ladies i hope this video has been
helpful on how you can help heal your man and
heal the relationship to get him to chase you crave you want
to claim you again i hope you can review all the steps in this video you've made
good notes and as always if you want to learn more i have so many
programs out there including FEMM Tools for Dating it
stands for feminine energy mindset method as well as my ebook 500
ways to talk to a man all of these give you more resources and
more repetition there's always more to learn and develop
as you get in touch with your natural feminine energy
and as always give me a like hit subscribe and i would love to hear from
you in the comments section thanks so much for joining me today much
love, bye