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Hello Aluxers, how great it is to have you back for a Sunday motivational video.
This one is gonna hit some of you like a brick and if it doesn’t, you surely know someone who you can toss this brick to.
You might not like it, but we’re calling some of you out.
If this new year new me is to work, we might as well address one of the biggest elephants in the room.
The smart will learn from this, while the haters will be triggered.
Best of luck! Here are 15 signs you’re a hater!
When you were young you believed the sky was the limit, that you were destined for greatness,
that you were born different and was supposed to be the hero that slays the dragon…
well.. At least that’s what you’ve been led to believe.
Everyone told you about your great potential, that you were meant to do great things, but the great things never happened.
Life didn’t go the way you thought it would.
One small failure lead to another, the business idea never took of the ground, you never finished writing the book,
painting the painting, singing the song, traveling the world, giving back, your plan to follow your passion got traded for the security of a mediocre existence.
You believed it was just temporary and at some point you’ll get back to pursuing your dream,
but year after year passed and you’re still nowhere near your goals.
You find comfort in the people around you who themselves are in a similar state with yours.
When you tell them about your dreams and goals, they tell you about theirs and then you go back to being the same mediocre person.
You’re all well aware of it, even accepted it as part of life, but deep down you always wondered what your life would’ve been like if things went your way.
This feeling of unrest has been with you for a while now and it almost feels unfair, because you know what you’re capable of.
That’s what makes us humans such interesting beings;
You want others to fail, not because you want what’s worse for them, but you want them to validate your inabilities and insecurities.
If they fail as well, it means that your own failure is somewhat justified.
The goal is obviously unrealistic and even impossible to attain.
The success of others doesn’t inspire you if you yourself failed, instead it makes you annoyed,
you know how hard you worked and you assume that others obviously didn’t care as much, yet got the result you were after for.
In your opinion, the game is rigged against you.
In the words of high-school student Kevin Chang:
but what happens when you don’t succeed?!
Not making it is somehow justifiable as long as nobody else makes it.
If you grew up in the easter europe you might be familiar with the expression:
- a common saying about how one would rather have everyone live in misery than others having more than themselves.
But what if others deserve what’s coming to them, what if you were simply not good enough,
not smart enough.. You didn’t work hard enough… and they did...
Everybody knows at least one person like this, some might even identify yourselves.
They always talk about how they had this amazing idea or intent, but because of an external force, they never got to make it a reality.
The economy turned, the customer didn’t get it, the investor didn’t get it, the boss didn’t appreciate you,
your partner didn’t appreciate you, the time was never right, you were not born in the right country, in the right family and so on…
It’s always someone or something else, it’s never you!
You actually got pretty good at using excuses to get out of problems and you even began abusing it.
Now.. you’ve justified it so much that you ended up believing your own.. Bull-manure - to hopefully keep this video monetized.
Of course you are the person most deserving of praise and because of the previous mentioned excuses you never got to fulfill your full potential...
Everybody else just got lucky.
They had help you never had access to, people who opened doors for them and served them what was rightfully yours on a silver platter.
They didn’t have to deal with what you’ve had to deal with, they didn’t have the start you had so... Obviously, they shouldn’t get it.
Your own personal experience is blinding you to the point where you are unable to see beyond the surface.
You are judging others based on your assumption of what their life is.
You might even be right to some degree...
Some people have it a lot easier than you did, but that doesn’t take anything away from them still putting in the work.
We are responsible for making the most out of the hand that we’ve been dealt and their success doesn’t take away your ability to improve your own life.
Here’s a big take-away we want you to remember:
How many times have you heard people looking at a Rothko painting worth tens of millions of dollars saying: I could’ve done that!
How many people watch a stand-up special and feel like they could do it themselves?
This happens even in the business space, once you become successful,
people you were surrounded by in the beginning might think they could’ve done the same thing… hell knows, you might even be one of those people yourself.
It’s easy to look at a Rothko, a Joe Rogan, A Chiara Ferragni and think that would’ve have been possible for you as well,
because it’s true, the opportunity was there, you just didn’t have the discipline, the focus & the drive to make it happen.
These people, and the likes of others have simply put in more work than others and focused on improving over time.
It’s easy to look at a single piece of the puzzle and think to yourself that you could do it,
but that piece alone is not why successful people end up where they are.
It’s because of all the pieces, slowly built and polished over the years!
If you finally want to break free of this jail of delusion you’ve built for yourself, we strongly recommend picking up Extreme Ownership by Jocko Willink.
To give back to our community, if you go to alux.com/freebook and sign up, you'll get the audiobook for free,
thanks to our friends at audible who were kind enough to support our efforts.
It might just be the book that cuts through all the bull that you've been telling yourself for years.
Whenever people come to you with a new idea you’re quick to shut them down.
It makes you feel smart.
You take the slightest chance of failure and stretch it like chewing gum.
You might even follow up with some personal examples of how you wanted to do the exact same thing or something similar and it just didn’t work out.
Plus, can you imagine what other people will say once you fail?!
This is a hater-mindset. You’re not being constructive, you’re not helping.
All you’re doing is making other people feel small. We’re sure you can relate to this point!
If you were not the one who was putting others down, you definitely have been at the receiving end at some point in your life.
Either a parent, or teacher or friend has made fun of your goals and dreams.
Haters never understand that failure is actually part of the process of becoming successful.
In order to achieve your goals, you have to accept failure as part of the journey and keep moving past it.
Because of the way a hater’s mind works, they always look at failure as final, as embarrassing and something you should completely avoid.
This is the exact reason why haters never get to experience what true success feels like.
You spent a long time watching others doing their thing rather than doing your own.
To some degree, you feel like you understand what’s happening and that your opinions are as valid as facts.
So what do you do?
You take every opportunity to attack, especially now when you can do it online with almost 0 repercussions to your answer.
Your only goal is to earn internet points or cause the most harm.
This is how the cancel culture that’s in full bloom right now got to where it is.
Haters are out for blood, they fail to understand that people can grow, that they can change because their lives haven’t changed enough.
Go to any review page and you’ll see people giving their opinions on things they shouldn’t.
You know what they all have in common? They’re spectators, not participants.
How many people sitting in the sidelines talk about what the correct strategy for the game should be?
How many are quick to talk about how others should behave, act, invest or live their lives.
Guess what, unless you’re able to alter the outcome or get to vote with your wallet, you don’t have a say in this!
What would life be, if you couldn’t peacock a little bit, especially when it comes to the people around you.
Truth be told, you’re likely living a pretty mediocre life, it’s just that some of your friends have it worse.
In every group of friends, there’s that one person who through variable circumstances has a 10% better live than the rest,
but acts like he’s in a completely different league.
All your life you’ve benchmarked your existence to the 3 friends you grew up with.
For your ego, doing better than they are is more than enough.
You put them down, you rarely encourage them, love to talk about yourself and how amazing you are.
Truth be told you probably never met someone who’s actually successful.
You’ve been living in a small bubble scared to face the fact that you excel only in your mediocrity.
You know you are the sum of the 5 people you spend most of your time with…
if you take pride in your friends being weaker than you are… you might need to reconsider your position.
If you want to be successful in life please keep this in mind.
The exceptions to those moments when you’re giving a ted talk or you enter any time of negotiation!
We told you we’re gonna call you out on your BS.
If you really didn’t care about someone, why spend any amount of time, effort and energy on them.
Truth be told you have a fascination with them, something about what they’re doing is appealing to you
but the general consensus among your peers is that you’re not supposed to like them, so you pretend not to.
When you’re by yourself you spend your own time consuming what they are putting out.
People bash reality TV as being nonsense, yet some of these shows have the highest viewership.
If you need a reality check, Keeping up with the Kardashians has been going on for 17 SEASONS! Seventeen!
Why hide behind a curtain of hate to justify your fascination?!
The highest level of hate is when
we could’ve ended this right here, but what the hell, let’s keep digging shall we?
It’s just you and us here right now... So we can keep it honest between us can’t we?
When you’re alone and scrolling through their feed, you look at their holidays, at the things they have,
the respect people give them, the attention, the events, the glam, the success, the wealth… You want all of it.
Of course, you would make some changes, you’d keep true to yourself...
Your life would be a lot better if you were living like they are.
This feeling, this realization you’re experiencing right now is conflicting.
On one hand, you’re annoyed by the fact that you believe they’re not worth the success they have
and on the other, you understand that you’re probably never going to get there.
You wanna know why?
Because you’re so busy obsessing about other people that you forget to obsess over yourself;
over your goals, over your desires, over what it would take to get to somewhere like where they are...
We spend an entire year building Mind Mastery and built a unique framework which teaches you how to break free
and focus your mind on these specific aspects of life.
How to use your mind to come up with answers that have a real impact on your life.
Last year we opened the doors twice to the experience and it’s been a massive success to everyone who made the investment.
This year, we’re leaving the doors open.
You can go to alux.com/mindmastery right now and invest in a skill that will stick with you for the rest of your life.
People who are emotionally and mentally strong, don’t hate on others.
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Go to alux.com/mindmastery right now!
Entitled people… where do we even start?
For some reason, they overvalue their own time and undervalue the time of others.
Yeah, you tweeted once at Rihanna and she didn’t reply… better leave 20 comments saying how she’s horrible right?!
For this type of haters, there’s nothing more important than themselves.
They’ll ask you to stop working on yourself to help them with their own thing, no matter what it is.
They expect you to put their problems above your own…
Some of them might even expect you to thank them for the fortunate position you put yourself in.
Back in the day, in order to have a conversation, you had to be in the same room with someone or at least have some private contact information.
One of the benefits of this system was that, you never heard from people who have no relationship with you, they did their thing, you did yours.
Today, you can be unemployed, neckbeard type of person and tweet the meanest possible things a person can imagine, to someone like Kevin Hart.
Twitter has democratized the possibility of being an anonymous bully.
If that’s you… maybe it’s time to re-evaluate everything about yourself...
How did you end up in this position doing anything you can just to get a reaction from someone who doesn’t care about your existence...
Gossip implies that you’re sharing demeaning information just to gain social power in a group.
You use other people to put yourself on a pedestal, without realizing that in doing so, you’re self-sabotaging your own image.
As a rule of thumb:
If someone is talking about someone else behind their back, they will do the same with you if the opportunity is presented.
Gossip and social drama are signs of an insecure and immature individual.
A big sign you’re actually a hater comes from the way you feel when you cut someone else’s wings - metaphorically speaking.
You take pleasure in causing pain and suffering, but justify it as being just physiological… because you know… you don’t think of yourself as a sociopath.
Respect is more valuable than fear!
If you really want to become strong and important, earn the respect of those around you, because when the time comes,
they will stand up for you & do whatever they can to help.
In a socially driven economy, it’s not the strongest individual who’s at the top of the food chain, but the one who has the most supporters.
Just because you might have AN ANSWER it doesn’t mean that there can’t be other answers, some even better than yours.
This is one of those things school mistakenly inserted into the mindset of the student, that there’s only 1 correct answer.
The more you experience the real-world your mind expands, you understand that an answer that works for you might not work for someone else...
We’re super complex beings wrapped up in an even more complex socio-economic system
and you’re sitting there trying to force your cube perspective into the circle whole that it everyone else.
The more you do it, the less time people want to spend with you.
Now Aluxers, please don't take this entire list as a personal attack!
Instead, we recommend you keep at least a couple of these, preferably the ones that related to your situation the most,
and try to be better. In an effort to improve our community and to keep it honest between us, we’re curious to know:
Let us know in the comments if you did and how you plan on addressing it.
It takes a really strong individual to be able to self-analyze and be honest with oneself, so congrats to those who do join the conversation!
And, of course, as a thank you for watching this long video until the end, here’s the bonus:
If everyone around you is a hater, if nobody is ever on your side, if you think everyone else is out to get you, you’re not where you want to be in life.
If you hate your haters, you’re probably a hater yourself!
You know why? Because happy people are busy living their happy lives…
oo busy to care about heaters or what other people think about them.
We strongly recommend you do the same.
We’ll give you the benefit of the doubt, maybe you got super-unlucky and are growing up in an environment where everyone is crazy,
but if you move and still run into crazy/negative people, then the problem is with you!
We want to take this opportunity to thank you for taking the time and investing in yourself!
We strongly recommend that you share this video on your social media accounts
so that others might find themselves in it and who knows, maybe you’ll change the world in the process, because that’s what WINNERS do!
Speaking of, if you watched this video until the end, please write the word WIN in the comments
so we know who’s too busy winning to care about what the haters are doing!
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