We've been living nomadically for a pretty long time now it wasn't until recently when
we reached out for help that we realized how much van life has ruined our lives
lately we've just had non-stop issues and it feels like we aren't alone with this at this point
we've gotten so deep into van life that we've become almost addicted to the pain and suffering
hi my name is Philip and I'm a recovering van life addict
Yeah man we stay busy here and here's exactly what we're talking about we tried to change the gasket
on the windshield and it came out fine hard part done then it broke going back in that's band like
problem after problem huge dilemma should have been an easy job but no it broke they're hard to
find we got quoted 500 to change it we don't have 500 bucks we had to go to the junkyard
get the windshield out of an old car the only one there got super lucky brought it all the way back
changed the gasket on the new windshield that we just bought for 50 bucks instead of 500 bucks and
that's van life all these problems and that just happened last week don't you get me started on
this man i have a whole list of things i got to do to this band yeah man we're working all the time
on all the vans they're vintage it's impossible to find parts so it's super stressful i don't know
how other people does it without working in their own vehicles a lot of people think that we just
have so much money and everything and honestly we barely spend three thousand dollars on this van
you know we do all the work ourselves like people with the sprinter ones and spending like 200k just
buying the van is no way we will pay 200k for a sprinter van and a build like that honestly
it's kind of counterintuitive if you're selling your house to move into a van or getting a huge
100 000 loan if we had that much money we probably buy a house and grow some veggies and stuff all we
can afford is a couple grand and you saw the last man build if not check it out couple hundred bucks
into it and we're going down the road yeah it's been pretty tough you know working on vans all
the time and then also creating all the content doing all this social media moves and yeah it's
just been rough trying to run a business together with no time separated from each other and then
finding a balance between work life and personal life because it's all just merged together right
now we're constantly overwhelmed and having all these vans breaking down doesn't help either it's
definitely great to have someone with a lending ear and some guidance through all of this mess
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and i'm just like you guys i have problems and sometimes all this social media and everything
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helped us improve almost all aspects of our life that's the thing van life can really mess you up
this lifestyle can get very volatile if you don't have good terms with your spouse one life could
potentially destroy your relationship if you want to be in a relationship and live in a van
you gotta take your relationship to the next level sometimes i don't even realize how crazy it is to
have a relationship in such a small space thinking that it's normal i don't think it's normal i think
it's definitely challenging you have to be really strong and communicate really well with
each other if you're not ready for that step in your relationship van life is literally going to
destroy and ruin your relationship if we have more money i would definitely have a house
and also have this and i feel a relationship will probably improve and we will have like
a happier life i'm not gonna lie i'm not regretting living this lifestyle because
we traveled in a lot of places but it wasn't easy and it will be heavy through the years
if you do it as long as we did it for almost eight years you know when you do it long term
it does have these weird hidden mental negative effects on your life so definitely something that
i want to bring attention to and definitely we've seen so many people that they broken up after they
did online for a couple months we do see a lot of people coming in and out of the lifestyle even
some youtubers are kind of famous they broke up after doing van life and it's just kind of crazy
because it does put your relationship to a taste when you do it long term like we have for years
all these little micro things and discomforts add up and it just really affects you psychologically
it's just a hard lifestyle for a relationship when everything is so much compromised living in a van
with your partner everything's gonna come to the light so if you're not in good terms with your
partner definitely this lifestyle is gonna make it heavy and right away you're gonna realize if
you are ready for one life or not my god we have therapy and we are trying to communicate and work
through all of our problems but yeah van life will definitely mess you up if you're like me and you
like routines and that makes you happy definitely bad life is going to make it challenging for you
and these lives are making it really hard for me to have a routine because every day is changing
your daily life can be greatly affected because you're always on edge you're kind of stressed out
a lot with all these little things that just add up and it's hard to have like a habit that you can
control every day so i'm working on that with my therapist and it's definitely changing slowly but
surely and that's definitely something challenging in our relationship and i know in a lot of
people's relationships with the living event also since one life became so mainstream it just became
so popular this lifestyle that seems like for couples like us that live in avon is like a extra
pressure being the perfect couple and looking like we never have problems and that you know
like we're just enjoying life all the time i feel like kind of a stress is a relationship like when
we're really not perfect we're like just people like you guys we always have arguments and things
that we don't agree with when you live in around definitely that's going to happen more often
and it's something you really need to be aware of van life has pretty big problems that you don't
realize until you're a few years into it when you're traveling in new places all the time you
don't have your family and friends close by and you don't have anybody else to talk to and that
could be very stressful and it's not just van life too it's RV life, bus life, boat life anything
that's tight quarters where you're constantly on the move and traveling with your partner
these things are gonna come out van life is not perfect it's not that dream life that is people
that has been very affected by it even die for it there's been mothers that have been suicidal and
you probably guys know the case of Gabby Petito two people went on a trip one person returned
still no sign of Gabby Petito it was like a crazy story yeah that was big news there's been a lot of
crazy things going on when you start living in a van because you want to start a youtube channel or
you want to blow up your instagram account social media is great but also it creates a lot of stress
Lee Macmillan has died the social media star died by suicide following a battle with depression that
really made us aware that the whole van life social media thing can really psychologically
affect you with this video we just wanted to share a little bit more the the bad side of like van
life because it can't really damage your mental health with social media and make you compare
yourself with others whenever you're exposing yourself definitely you're gonna get some haters
it's definitely taxing in your mental health in your body and with your relationships when you're
going on these trips dedicated to get the banger photo it becomes more of a job we have contracts
and deadlines and all this pressure and totally takes away the fun of van life when you're trying
to chill and camp i'm pretty sure there is a couple doing van life videos they argue a lot and
they don't put it in the screen because sometimes we scream outside on the parking lot sometimes and
we are definitely dealing with problems we're powering through it yeah and together
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