Hi everyone, George Lizos here.
It seems to me that sometimes the spiritual community bullies negative emotion.
I mean, don't get me wrong, it's great to be positive and look at the bright side of
life, but there's a thin line between being positive and being in denial of your true
feelings.
It feels that by overspiritualizing our lives with positive affirmations, crystals, angels,
flower essences, all these wonderful tools and concepts we have in the new age, we may
fall into the trap of sacrificing being real.
That feeling of being in tune with the moment to moment way you feel and using it to direct
yourself into a more positive state and the reason behind that is because we are spiritual
people.
We're supposed to be positive and bright.
People and friends and family look up to us for support and guidance and therefore, we
feel this pressure to maintain the stereotypical image we've worked so hard to create, that
prevents us from embracing negative emotion.
So the question really is, how can we move away from this limiting perception of negative
emotion so that we can really heal and transcend it into something more positive?
And the answer is much simpler than you might think.
All a negative emotion wants is to be heard, after which it completely loses its power.
Stay with me, I want you to visualize that negative emotion is like a glass full of water.
The more you are curious about it, the more you interview, the more you interrogate, and
the more you express that negative emotion, the faster that glass empties, after which
it completely loses its power.
And then you're faced with two choices: you can either go back and replay the negative
situation and therefore refill the glass with negative emotion, or you can start practising
a new, positive story and therefore create a positive emotion and nurture that.
The reason most people are afraid of negative emotions is because they've had a history
of making the first choice.
And really, it's your choice now to make a better choice.
You can start telling a new story.
So now, you know this conceptually but we learn through experiences.
So I've designed a simple three-step process that will allow you to resolve any negative
emotion and transform it into something more positive.
And we're going to do this together right here, right now.
So I want you to close your eyes, take a long deep breath in, allow yourself to be mindful
of the way you're feeling.
So now I want you to go back to a negative situation that's been troubling you in the
past few days or weeks.
I want you to allow yourself to feel the negative emotion created as a result of this situation.
And as you're feeling this emotion in your body, I want you to situate it in your body.
So that's step number one: situate the emotion in your body.
So is this emotion in your stomach, is it in your gut, is it in your heart, maybe in
your throat, or your head?
I want you to feel for that emotion in your body.
Don't second-guess that, just go with the first thing that comes to your mind.
And when you've situated the emotion, I want you to place your hand on that place of your
body and breathe into it.
So what you're doing right now is you're giving your negative emotion a platform.
You are acknowledging it.
You're no longer hiding it or being in denial of it.
You're saying hi, I'm here for you.
So in that state, we move into step 2, which is let the negative emotion speak.
Ask the negative emotion, why are you here, and listen.
What are you here to tell me, and listen.
So what we're doing right now is we're being curious about the negative emotion.
We're not suppressing it, we're allowing it to express itself.
So if you want to pause this video right now and go break down in tears, or journal, or
do some mirror work, by all means, do it.
Use your own way to express that emotion fully.
You're no longer hiding it.
You have permission to be negative.
And when you're done with breaking out in tears, come back to this video and we're going
to move into step 3, which is start telling a new story.
So what you'll probably find as you've expressed all this negative emotion is that you've reached
a state of emptiness.
You've created a blank canvas that you can start painting a new picture on.
You've no longer been in denial of it, you've no longer suppressed the emotion, you've let
it speak.
And now you're empty and you find it so much easier to start telling a new, positive story
from this empty state because you don't have the negative emotion trying to get out.
So let's start writing a new story right here right now.
I want you to go back to that seemingly negative situaton and ask yourself: how has this situation
made me stronger?
How can you use what you've learned out of this negative situation to help others?
What can you create as a result of coming out of this alive and stronger?
Do you see what we're doing here?
We're taking lemons and we're turning it into lemonade.
We're seeing the positive out of this negative situation and it's so much easier to do now
because we're no longer hiding.
So you can pause this video and do that in more detail, and when you come back, you can
put your hand down.
So there you have it, three simple processes that you can resolve any negative situation,
any negative emotion, and transcend it into a more positive state.
Step one: situate the emotion in your body.
Step two: let the emotion speak.
Step three: start telling a new story.
After you're done with this process, I want you to go to the comments right below and
let me know from a scale from 0 to 10 how easy was it to start telling a new story having
expressed the negative emotion first.
Thank you so much for watching.
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