- You know, I think that millennials
put too much pressure on themselves
to get the gifts that they think their partner wants
because of the impact of social media.
- Yes, that's what I was gonna say.
I've seen people affected more by a card
than by a bottle of perfume.
- Hey, what's up everybody?
I'm Skyh.
- And I'm KJ.
- And this is Millennial Love Stories.
(smooth jazz music)
Let's see, a little bit about how we met.
I first met the lovely KJ, lovely,
talented KJ Smith, season two of Sistas.
I think we actually have the day we met
documented on Instagram.
And, I'll tell y'all later how she played me.
- No, tell that story.
Okay, so what happened was, I was blogging at the time
and we were getting ready for season two
and he was a new cast member and I was
kind of like just blogging my experience
and he was the first person that I walked up to,
and I was like, hi, what's your name
and what character do you play on this show?
And he said...
- Hi, I'm Skyh and I play Jacobi.
- And then proceeded to say,
- Jacobi comes in and, excuse my language,**** shit up.
- And I was like.
So then I slid into his DMS.
- No, no, no, no, no.
- I did.
- Let's stop, let's stop.
There was a curve before the DMS.
- Ladies, ladies, I slid into the DMs.
- So we were talking one night about
just our grandmothers and our family
and how much we love family and
this, that, and the other, and
I was like, hey, I'm about to go over here
with one of the castmates and, you know, chill,
and she said, oh yeah, well hit me up on Insta.
- Which, which I proved is a viable resource
because I hit him up.
- I thought it was a curve.
- I hit him up on Insta and voila.
What do we have here?
- Will you marry me?
- Yes!
So when I said, hit me up on Insta, I meant that,
and I was waiting for him to hit me up and he never did.
So technically you curved me.
- No, I had to keep my job, dude.
- Technically, you curved me, so anyway.
That's that on that, and we're here.
- [Skyh] And now we...
[All] She said yes.
- The first meaningful gift KJ gave to me
was my alto saxophone.
It was beyond meaningful because I
pawned my alto sax to move to Los Angeles originally.
And my grandfather who raised me,
I was raised with my grandparents.
My grandfather bought me that sax when I was 11 years old.
He told me that, yo, if you get good enough,
'cause I was in the band,
if you get good enough to play
Kenny G.'s, In The Still Of The Night
I'll buy you a sax, a brand new one.
And I studied and studied and studied,
and I was, and you know, and won competitions
and he bought it for me.
So by cut two, when it's time for me to move to LA
my parents weren't the happiest that I was going,
but I was always headstrong.
But I pawned my sax, 'cause I said, I wanted to earn it.
I pawned my sax to buy a ticket to LA
and when my grand, and I always said
I would repurchase the sax after my grandfather passed.
And I was talking to her about it on the phone
when we first, first started dating
she found the sax and bought it.
And I was in awe.
I mean, like I just had tears down my face.
She has a video on Instagram of me playing the sax.
That was the day she actually gave me the sax.
- Yeah.
- Last year for my birthday.
- The first gift, the first, most meaningful gift
that he gave to me was, he threw me this
big birthday extravaganza that I had no clue about.
It was only my close friends.
It was a whole ordeal.
It was like a, a photo shoot and a surprise
and like breakfast the next morning,
and it was just beautiful.
And again, like I'm a planner,
so I'm used to like planning things.
I'm not used to someone like doing something for me.
So it was so meaningful because I literally just
showed up and I had no idea about it,
and he orchestrated all these things behind the scenes
and it was just so beautiful and thoughtful,
and I just was like, I was, it was like amazing.
But this is the most meaningful to me
because this is symbolic of our future,
is symbolic of where we are and where we're going
and the unit that we're building
and the partnership and the friendship
and the love that we have.
So this one is by far the best and most expensive.
(KJ laughs)
- Gift that he's given to me.
- You know, I think that millennials
put too much pressure on themselves
to get the gifts that they think their partner wants
because of the impact of social media.
- Yes, that's what I was gonna say.
- So, I would say this, like
obviously Kay and I are together Valentine's Day.
And I was saying, dang, what am I gonna do?
And da, da, da, da, and I was working.
I was like, well, I see this, and I see that,
and I see, and I was like, stop.
Like, what is thoughtful?
What means something to the both of you?
Yeah, there are roses, but it was like, okay, cool.
What does roses mean?
Like what does it mean?
What do you, if you know your partner,
like, yeah, I know she likes roses,
but if I get a rose for every day we're together,
that means more.
- [KJ] Yes.
- So it's easy to go out if you, especially
if you have it take and take your girl
to dinner or buy her like some expensive jewelry
or, but we see that on Instagram.
- Yeah.
- And we are trying to live for that,
'cause we may think our partner want that,
and sometimes it's just like, yo, just listen to me.
And that would mean a lot more
if you got me something that I actually
would've never gotten myself or
that you put thought into it
- Yes, I think millennials, you know,
get caught up in...
- The show.
- In the show, and a lot of people, honestly,
they just give up.
I've seen people affected more by a card
than by a bottle of perfume, you know?
So I just, you know, I really,
we are mastering listening to each other
and it's done wonders because you know,
I have to step out of my brain and say,
what, what did he say?
Didn't he say he liked?
Okay, what's the musicians?
Like we are so like, I write, I have a note tab
where I'm like, what is your favorite musician right now?
Okay, that song, what's that song he likes?
Okay it's, you know?
And like, I'm always like, you know
because even if I don't do it today,
I have my note pad
and when it's to time to do it, when it's a holiday
when it's, you know, I'm meeting his family
or when it's, I'm like, oh yeah, that's auntie, oh yeah.
So this is the auntie and this is his cousin.
Like, you know, when he's telling me stories
because it's those things that matter.
The problem is, people get stressed out
because when the big day comes
everyone's like aahhh!
You know, everyone's at the mall,
everyone's, and most times the gift isn't there.
The gift isn't there, the gift is something
that we've discussed intimately.
It's something that his friends have access to.
It's something that a friend of a friend
knows about, you know?
And you have to listen in between the moments,
and then that's, that is going to work.
- With KJ, I know, honestly, if I really wanted
to make her happy after she wrapped the gift
that I would buy her.
Out of everything, and I know
she's not going to need anything else
would be chicken wings with French fries
an assorted chicken wings and French fries.
- That's my favorite food.
- And that's not expensive.
- No, it's just my favorite, it makes me happy.
- You feel me, but it's, yeah,
it's just like you observe your partner,
and after, and if you really are in tune
and really wanna make them happy and not
and it's not about you feeling validated.
- Mm.
- 'Cause that's a lot of times we buy gifts
for other people, for us.
- Mm, tell 'em Daddy.
- Instead of for the person.
I wanna feel validated, so I'm gonna
spend this $500 on this perfume.
Yeah, I just bought you some Baccarat.
Cool, but what if she doesn't like the scent, bro?
- Ooh, that's good, baby.
- You feel what I'm saying?
Or, I got you some YSL heels, but she wears sandals.
- So my advice is, listen in between time
because honestly every moment is special
with your partner.
For us, every freaking moment is special.
That's why even on Instagram,
I was like every day is the 14th.
I never feel like, oh, this is a big day.
Because every day we celebrate each other
and this is no gas.
This is straight facts.
Every day we celebrate our love, every single day.
Like that's just not something that
we're gonna go without doing, because that's a gift.
Like him being in my life is a blessing every day.
- [Skyh] I agree.
and the only thing I would piggyback on that and say is,
as you listen, observe.