never make a bad choice ever again stay tuned hey this is Damon Cart from
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videos on a regular basis we tend to think of bad choices as choices that
we've made and things didn't work out the way that we wanted them to but maybe
you made good choices but the outcomes were bad or things just
turned out bad I'll explain so as some of you know I
was recently in Asia I was shooting some videos there when I was there I went to
Hong Kong Macau Vietnam and Shanghai China and on my way back from I was
flying from Shanghai to San Francisco we about two hours into it two hours into a
12-hour flight we started experiencing really bad turbulence where the plane
felt like it was doing these sudden drops and it was shaking back and forth
and not only was it making me nervous it was making a lot of other people in the
plane very nervous now most of the time after you've taken off and you've been
in the air for a while turbulence though it doesn't feel good it's really rare
for a plane to crash because of turbulence usually it's other reasons
like engine failure or something like that but so I knew that I was everything
was fine I knew it was all gonna be fine but it still made me nervous so I'm
still gripping my seed breathing deeply and calming myself down I started to
think though if what if the plane did go down and that was the end of me what I
think that I made a bad decision by going traveling to Asia and it me don't
like immediately I thought to myself well of course not I had an incredible
time first of all in Asia I love Asia was flying also a good choice well of
course it was I don't know how so would have gotten there in such a
short amount of time and flying is relatively safe it's safer than driving
so when I thought about when it's um when I think about my decision to go to
Asia everything about it was aligned with my values it wasn't overly risky in
the sense that I wasn't risking my life and so it was a good decision but a bad
outcome could have happened what if that plane would have gone down it wouldn't
have gone down because I've made a bad decision it would have gone down because
of factors that I had no control over so think about that for a moment how many
good decisions have you actually made that had bad outcomes so how do you know
if you made a good decision well if you checked in with your values before you
made the decision and you realize that the decision you were making was not
because of pressure from someone else that you were making the decision based
on your own values meaning that it was going to it would fulfill you and you
checked ecology and an NLP of what we mean by check ecology is I look outside
of myself or my decisions and especially me getting what I want
does it hurt other people will it hurt relationships will it throw off the
balance of my life externally thank ecosystem so I check ecology so if you
checked in with your values and you checked ecology and everything was good
and then you also gathered information you did your due diligence in the
decision and from all the information you could gather it was a good decision
and you made that decision but things didn't turn out the way that you wanted
them to that was out of your hands you made the best possible decision that you
could possibly make why it didn't work out had nothing to do with you why it
didn't work out had to do with circumstances you had no control over so
it wasn't really a bad decision they just had a bad outcome why is this
important to know it's important to know for many reasons that two of the big
reasons for this is first of all it lets you off the hook I used to carry
this the burden the weight of the burden of bad decisions on my shoulders even
when there was I did nothing wrong I made good decisions but they didn't turn
out well I would carry that burden of feeling like I was wrong like I had done
that had done something wrong or like I wasn't good enough and that is a heavy
burden to carry and it's completely unnecessary so when you realize that in
fact you made an actually a very good decision you can let yourself off the
hook the other thing that's very very important here if you made a good
decision but the outcome was bad and you take that on as you did something wrong
that's going to affect all of your other decisions especially the big ones what's
likely to happen is you're going to start making decisions out of fear and
scarcity of what might go wrong rather than moving toward what it is that you
want this is so so important because when you make decisions based on fear
hey I can almost assure you almost every time you're not going to get what you
want is going to backfire somehow but when you're making decisions good
decisions by connecting the decision with your values by checking ecology so
you're concerned for other people around you and you're gathering information
that is the best way to make a decision you can't make a bad decision that way
you can't go wrong what you can never do no matter what kind of decision you make
no matter if you make the decision from the best possible place or you make a
decision from fear what you cannot do is you cannot have control over things you
can't have control over there are certain things that are just out of your
hands and you need to let that go and when you're making decisions you have to
let that piece go if you want to make a very good decision otherwise you're
going to make a decision out of fear and scarcity and I assure you that is almost
always a bad decision even when the outcome is good it's still it's what
goes on inside of you that doesn't allow it to be a good decision because you
didn't make it from you you didn't make it from your values you didn't make it
as a way to fulfill your values fulfill who you are you made it for other
therefore it's never going to be a truly fulfilling decision so to summarize you
want to make decisions based on your values you want to check ecology and you
want to gather information and then if for some reason things don't work out
well take that as a lesson now you've got something good from this you've got
new information something new to consider that you had not considered
before so take the value of that lesson as part
of making a good decision my worst decisions in life have always
come from making it a decision based on fear or based on scarcity because what
that would often make me do or the decision I would often make from that is
to go with what was familiar what was more comfortable or what seemed safe and
that usually had to do with what other people thought was good or whatever the
people thought was right for me there are a lot of well-meaning people out
there but you will never be fulfilled by going after or making choices toward
getting what other people want for you you will always be fulfilled by making
choices that are in alignment with what it is that you want and what it is that
you value think about the type of results that you get from making
decisions based on fear and scarcity the results will be the results from fear
and scarcity and those are very negative states so you can imagine what will
follow what the results will be when you make decisions based on fear and
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