Eddie what is your gender
- I'm gender undecided
- I identify as a man
- Man
- I'm a boy
I identify as a male
I'm male I guess
yeah it's been a long journey and it's certainly not over
and as times gone on I've realized
I've actually rejected a lot of my masculine privilege
and I'm not comfortable with being a man necessarily
I like gender undecided because I haven't made a decisio
Some days I like dressed up as a bloke
but there are times when I like to be more female
i mean i was called sir at the airport but
we moved, it happens.
i kind of realized i found a really happy place with the identity gender-fluid
my family don't particularly like the whole non-binary thing
and they still call me but my birth name and use she/her pronouns
which just never connected with me
I feel like when everyone said she or her to me
it was like a punch in the chest
do you think gender is binary
uhh...
Yes I think I probably do
and I don't mind with you know I don't have any problem with
the transgenders and all the rest of it but I think that I think
you're probably one or the other
on one hand I want to say yes
because like growing up like this is what you're taught
right but then nowadays you're like
unlearning the things
what would you think if you saw a boy on the street wearing a dress
I would think it's totally normal
because they can wear what they want
there's even a book called the boy in the dress
last four years I've really started to realize
that I have privileges as a heterosexual male
which other people might not have
What does masculinity mean?
if you ask... like my parents
they'll probably say sort of the mainstream:
muscles beard good with their hands that sort of shit
like this is yourself now
if you say oh I'm masculine
and whatever that means to you then that means to you
it just means that you are yourself
What does it mean to be a good man?
People say oh he's a good man
and I always think to myself that it that means probably
honest honorable brave loyal
I think it means like be certain in your actions
and have a certain like sense of purpose
a good man is an ally to females
and marginalize genders, period
what does it mean to be a real man
it really depends on what kind of person you are
you can be brave you can be shy
you can stand out you can blend in
... like a heartbeat?
I dont know
how do you define toxic masculinity
I suppose being like kind of overly egotistical
like dicks swinging out from XXX?
where your idea of what being a man is and what masculinity is you enforce it in other people
how do you think masculinity is changing
I feel like it's changing in a way which is like
there's a lot more voices people have to listen
people carrying pain and trauma
you carry pain and trauma too long you're gonna fucking explode
a lot of people weren't very straight and strict definitions of everything in life
and I think there is no like fixed answer anything
there should be more to do to help people that are going through things
but I think a lot of men kind of close it all up and
kind of the image of boys don't cry
and stuff like that is quite detrimental to people
listen to the kids listen to the youth
because I think the youth have got something really interesting to say
what you want to beit doesn't matter about what anybody else thinks
just be yourself