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How to deal with social situations.
Here's three tips that you need coming up.
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So in this video, I'm talking about how to deal with social situations.
In high school.
High school can be a really stressful time for people on the autism spectrum.
And that being said, I think that that are worthy tips that you could
use to maybe help kind of gain a, an upper hand in social situations
where you may feel kind of inferior.
Um, because you know, autism coming into full force is a communication disorder.
Well, just do people will have issues with social communication, social
anxiety, and general social rules of engagement, like the, the unwritten
rules of socializing, you know, and all those things that people will just
pick up naturally, because they're just in tune with social communications.
But in this video, I'm talking to you of ways that you can implement these
strategies to help you, um, become more charismatic in situations, I guess, to
achieve a better social, um, Environment all around when you have dealing with
friends, friendships, and other people in social circles, especially in high school.
All right, let's get it.
Jenna.
Okay.
So first one here is be polite.
I know it sounds kind of like an obvious one, right?
But it's not, it was obvious because, um, you know, being polite and nice to people
in social situations, um, is cause you want them to know that, but you're a nice
person and you're, you're a polite person.
They, they want to get to know you.
As soon as they can, first impressions always make a huge,
huge impact on how people see you.
So as nice as you can be just being yourself, you're lovely,
bubbly, nice, happy self.
Um, and being polite will go a long way because by practicing being
polite, etiquette and niceness, we'll let that other person know that your.
A cool person.
You're a nice guy.
You're a nice girl or whatever.
You're a nice person that they just want to hang out with.
That is very good.
And so people will want to become friends with you because you're nice.
Um, you know, and that's kind of like, we all have affinity
towards people who are nice.
Nobody wants to have a tendency towards people who are horrible.
Nobody does offense.
These people who are horrible and it's, you're horrible yourself.
But then that's weird, isn't it?
It's kind of like a self hate thing.
Anyway, regardless of that bizarre.
No, the conversation being polite pays off.
Remember that?
Okay.
So number two is strike the interest now, um, striking out an interest of matching
a conversation is key, uh, you know, in, in, in creating good conversation,
finding people who share the same interest as you to strike up a conversation.
So, um, you know, I'm really into like, Um, I don't know,
science and scifi and stuff.
So I love star Wars or star Trek and science.
And I like skateboarding.
I like music.
So I would kind of find people who'd resonate towards those circles and strike
at the key part of interests with them.
So if I knew there was a, um, uh, a club, uh, like a scifi club or a
Snapchat clubs, I go to the stature club and I'd bring up a conversation
like, who is your favorite captain?
If you don't say James T.
Kirk, we can't be friends.
No, I know a lot of people will say like, Oh, picado Pike anyway, again, this isn't
the conversation for now all the time.
If you think that you prefer Jean-Luc Picard to captain James Tiberious Kirk
leaving a comment down below, let me know which one you, if Jim Kirk or,
uh, Jean-Luc Picard, let me know.
Who's your favorite captain.
And if you don't know what I'm talking about, don't worry.
You can skip over this part of the video.
Nice.
Okay.
So striking up a conversation within that setting gives them the, um,
the knowledge they need to know.
Well, this person's a nice person.
They are into the same things as me.
Hey, this is a good basis for a friendship.
This is a good basis for being social with somebody I pays off.
This will go a heck of a long way.
Believing me.
Okay.
So number three is peer pressure.
Like the most important thing in situations of social groups is that
you do not feel comfortable with the situation and you don't do that thing.
So being aware of peer pressure and peer pressure is when peers, other
people within not social circle will put pressure on you and, and to do something
that you may not want to do because they feel like it would be a good thing.
But it may be a good thing for them, but maybe it's not a good thing for you.
So in situations where I'm, I'm not an alcohol drinker, I don't drink
alcohol, but if I was around friends and they were like, Oh, we all have to
have a beer and we all have to drink.
And I'm like, no, I'm okay.
And I'm like, no, no, you have to drink.
That is kind of peer pressure.
And it's like purest form.
And then you may be obliged to say, okay, yeah, I'll drink.
But the consequences of doing that is immoral to yourself
and could be destructive.
You know, if you're on medication where you count drink, then maybe
there's good reasons for it.
So being aware that peer pressure could be a thing, but just never do something just
because you want to impress your friends.
Don't do that.
You know, impressing friends with things through peer pressure.
It doesn't work because.
They're not real friends.
If they are forcing you to do something that you don't want to
do, they're not really friends.
What you want to do is find friends who accept who you are and accept what
you want to do or don't want to do.
And that is how you make lasting long friendships, because I've used these
tactics and this kind of rule of three every single time I've been in any
social situation where I'm not sure what to do and you know sure as heck.
This works, this works for pretty much every time I've been in social situation.
And it also helps root out the people who are not true friends and are good for you
because as soon as they make themselves known, you'd like disassociate from them.
And then things get a little bit happier.
Uh, you can move on to people who actually do care and people
who actually are friends, people who actually really do like you.
That is golden.
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