Men, I want you to be successful on your dates.
I want you to get what you're looking for.
So, I'm going to lay out for you the easiest ways
to impress any woman on the first date.
My name is Stephan Labossiere
your life, dating, and relationship coach
providing you today with
dating advice for men, all right.
We're going to be talking about again, the easiest ways
to impress any woman on the first date.
As always be sure to like this video,
share it, and comment below
tell me some of the things you feel are easy ways
to impress any woman.
Now, listen, what women like
and need can vary in very, you know
from woman to woman.
However, again, what I'm going to lay out for you today
is pretty much universal.
It's going to be very difficult
to find a woman who wouldn't find it at least,
a nice thing
to see a man doing what I'm about to tell you, all right.
So, be mindful of these things.
Now, let me make this real clear,
I do not want you to be something you're not.
I do not want you to do these things
if you're not going to become the man
who can do them consistently.
I don't want you to look at these as tricks
to manipulate the situation
that's not what we're here for.
I'm trying to help you succeed
so you can have healthy relationships,
healthy successful dating experiences.
I'm trying to make things better in a positive way.
So, any kind of manipulation
and game playing, we're not here for that, all right.
So, let me lay out for you
the easiest ways to impress any woman on the first date.
Number one, plan the date.
Now, listen, I'm not going to lie to you all
I'm a serial non planner okay,
like, it doesn't matter if it's dates,
if it's my tour events.
I'm not the greatest at planning,
but though that is a weakness of mine
I can still acknowledge the power
of a man who is willing to plan
or at least, the power it has on impressing that woman.
You know a lot of women view
your willingness to plan and your ability to execute
as good leadership,
as effort, as genuine desire for her.
She translates that
into a lot of positive attributes.
Now, we can make some arguments on like,
I've heard some people say well,
you can't plan a date you can't lead.
I don't agree with that.
However, I do agree that
it's going to communicate good leadership skills
when you can plan it on your own.
A lot of women are tired of the
okay, what do you want to do?
I don't know where do you want to go?
Like you're asking the woman out on a date,
but you have no vision no plan
now I understand some you guys may be concerned of
well, I'll make plans and what if she doesn't like it?
Listen, the smart thing to do is you create your plan
but you have a plan B
or you have some alternate routes
you can take if let's say this isn't her cup of tea.
So, for example, let's just say
you plan a date to the zoo,
just an example, all right.
And you find out after you get to the zoo
she is terrified of monkeys okay
or whatever animals are in that zoo.
And now you're like, you know, what am I going to do?
This was the date.
So, in a scenario like that
this is where you want to have alternate routes
just in case the first one fails
and in this scenario,
this is where you can also invite her opinion of
hey listen, what would you like, you know.
Or you can always take the approach of
my plan is to take you so and so,
but if you prefer anything different let me know.
So, you're still showing her I am planning,
I have a vision, I have everything set up,
but I am open to the fact that
you may not like that
and if you want to suggest something different
I am flexible.
So, now you've covered both bases of
showing that you can plan
and impressing her in that way,
but also leaving it open to
be flexible and make some adjustments
because you understand that sometimes
our taste does not align
and she may prefer something different, all right.
So, planning the date
very, very easy way to impress
again, pretty much any woman, all right.
Number two is dress well.
Now, I know that sounds so obvious dress well,
but let's go a little bit deeper into this, all right.
I hear a lot of stories from women
of men coming to these dates
looking a hot mess, all right.
Clearly either getting your homeboys opinion
or your own opinion that does not really know how to
dress you up in an effective manner,
that's the key here.
We got to go on these dates trying to emphasize
or trying to bring out our best
in the sense of again,
how do we best present ourselves on this first date.
Now, like I mentioned in the very beginning
I don't want you being something you're not,
but I want you to identify
your style and even
not a date uniform so to speak,
but understanding that
what's a good style for you on dates to use.
And so, one of the best ways to find that
is to ask the opinion of other women.
So, before you even go on another date
start doing your homework now.
Start getting the opinions of
friends, family members, whoever that are women.
Even if you have social media followers
do a picture where you have you in three different outfits
and say hey, pick one A B C.
And now you're starting to see
how women see you
in these different styles and outfits
and now you start to see what is working for you
is going to be most effective.
So, this is what I mean by dressing well
it's really about dressing effectively
for what's going to work more in your favor
on that date,
but here's also a key to always remember,
your shoes are important.
So, a lot of women evaluate men
based on their shoes.
They are checking them shoes out
and if they look bummy, they look old
that can work against you.
So, you want to make sure you have...
You don't need expensive shoes,
but they need to be clean, they need to be nice.
And again, this is where you get the opinions of women
because your homeboys might say
men, them shoes are great those are on point,
but that doesn't mean women view it the same way.
And you're not going on a date to impress the men
you're going on a date to impress the woman.
So, find out what other women like, all right.
So, dress effectively
and pay attention to your shoes.
Number three on the list of
easiest ways to impress any woman on a first date
is smell good.
So simple like yo, this is...
Again, easy just easy
now, let's just put it out there right now.
Do not drown yourself in cologne, all right.
So, many of you all are going to kill her nose,
her sense of smell
because you're coming on too strong
and this is why again,
a lot of these things I'm mentioning
are things I want you to get a grasp on
before you go on a date.
So, what I mean by that with the cologne is
if you have a certain cologne
test out how much is too much.
Go to a friend maybe you spray three times and say okay,
how is the scent, the smell right now?
Now granted, you know,
different people have different senses of smell
and what may come strong off strong as to one
may not come off to another.
But you can get an idea of what's too much
and what's a nice good enough amount
that the smell is coming off of you
and it is having an effective impact
on the date and on that woman.
So, find and also,
even when it comes to the cologne
again, get the opinions of a woman.
Any time I purchased cologne in the past
I would get the opinions of a woman
and it would work every single time.
And when I say it would work meaning
when I wore that cologne
I got compliments on that cologne.
I got you know, attention from that cologne.
You want to tap into the mind of a woman
if you're trying to be more successful with women
and that's the whole...
That's what this whole video is about
how to impress any woman
and I'm going to say something about the whole impress part
at the end of this video.
So, be sure to watch all the way through,
but bottom line is
smelling good always going to work in your favor,
but don't drown yourself in it
get the opinions of other women
on what's going to work on your body
and what is too much or even not enough cologne
to make sure you hit that sweet spot.
The number four key to impressing any woman
or number four easiest way
to impressing any woman on the first date
is don't be the one to bring up sex.
Listen, women are already on guard
and again, let me throw out there,
we're talking about having healthy dating
successful serious intentionally minded men
trying to make
a relationship, a positive healthy one happen, all right.
If you are about just trying to have sex then clearly
this won't apply to you,
but if you're about trying to take
the situation very seriously
then yes, do not be the one to bring up sex.
That can be a huge turn off to a woman
even at times where she seems to
continue along with the date
or not be bothered
it's actually playing a head like,
dang! We just met
and this guy is already talking about sex.
Don't be that guy.
Don't be that guy now, if she brings it up
that's a completely different ball game
and I will leave it to you to determine if you want to
entertain that conversation,
but don't be the one to do it.
So, you want to learn how to have good conversation,
but you want to learn how to stay away from the topic of sex
because it's very easy for a lot of men
especially if you as a man
don't know how to
hold a good conversation,
sex becomes an easy topic
to just default to, all right.
And again, you may think it's okay
because she's showing you a certain vibe,
but don't always mistake
her even being flirtatious as
oh, she's trying to go there right now.
It's the first date
just focus on getting to know her
leave the sex talk alone.
Again, if she brings it up that’s different
you know what I'm saying, sometimes that happens,
but don't be the one that brings it up, all right.
So, you want to impress her don't bring up sex.
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to impress any woman
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So, again, back to number five
fifth way, fifth easiest way to impress any woman
is be chivalrous.
Now, I know people will say chivalry is dead
and some people say is dead because women killed it
and I'm not even going to argue that right now.
I'll leave that for a different video.
However, it is still appreciated
by a lot of women
and it still helps you stand out.
let me give you a quick story.
There was one time I'll never forget
I went to go speak in
I forgot the island St John's or something, all right.
Now, this wasn't a date
I went there to go speak,
but I was with the organizer we went out
to get something to eat.
And while we were walking
she was walking on the side closest to the street
closest to where the cars are coming
and I'm on the inside of the sidewalk
so, I politely slid her over
to the inside of the sidewalk
and put myself on the outside
and it shocked her.
And she was like,
I've never had a man do that for me
and in my mind I'm thinking this is just second nature.
This is just what it is
I'm not even trying to impress,
I'm not trying to do anything,
that's just my mannerisms by nature,
but I saw how powerful it was
as far as what it meant to her
to even experience that.
And so, there's a lot of women who aren't
treated with chivalry.
There's a lot of women
who don't get to see those gestures
and when they do, it is very powerful to them
and even those who see it they still enjoy it.
Now, granted for any woman watching this video
make sure you show appreciation
when a man is chivalrous, all right.
Like, say the thank you
because you won't believe
how many women don't even to say thank you
to an open door
or a pulling out of the chair and things of that nature.
So, make sure you show appreciation,
but regardless men
the focus is on you right now
and I want you to implement those things.
So, stuff like pulling out the chair,
opening her door,
again, if were walking outside
putting her on the inside of the sidewalk.
Think with a chivalrous mindset
this is going to...
This is very likely
going to impress her, all right.
And you will see a positive impact from it.
So, those are some of the easiest ways
to impress any woman,
but I told you
I want to say something about the word impress.
So, here's the reality,
like I was speaking the other day on this app
and we're talking about first dates
and they asked the guys what's your mindset,
your approach to a first date.
And I did say on there to be completely transparent
I'm not trying to impress anyone.
Now, when I said that what I mean is
because I'm over here giving you a video on how to impress women,
what I meant by that was
I'm not going to go outside of my norm
if that's not who I really am.
I'm also not going to put a heavy emphasis on
I got to spend a ridiculous amount of money,
take you to the fanciest restaurant
or put on this extravagant date, all right,
in order to impress you
because I need you to
appreciate who I am as a man
and I need to see do we vibe?
Do we have a connection?
And it's not about all the hype of the date.
So, there's nothing wrong
and I would even encourage men to consider that.
I don't want you going all out
trying to impress her in that way, all right.
I don't want you setting a standard
that you can't keep up,
but I do think that the things I mentioned here today
are simple easy things
that you should want to continue.
You should want to be a man
who can smell good for your woman
or in general, period for yourself.
You should be a man who
can hold a conversation
and not just be controlled by your sexual desires.
You should be a man who should be chivalrous
like I told you my story
I was chivalrous not on a date
I was chivalrous in general.
I would want you to implement those things in your everyday life
regardless of who you're with
and all the other things I mentioned.
So, I want you to understand
that difference between
trying to put on a show for a woman
versus trying to embrace and implement
very powerful...
Very healthy practices that are going to be good
not just the date, but for you in general in life
so, again,
those are the easiest ways
to impress any woman on a first date.
If I missed anything
leave your comments below
on what other tips you would add to this list.
Be sure to like this video, share it,
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