- [Amanda] Hey, Psych2Goers.
Welcome back to another video.
Be honest, how attractive do you think you are?
Without a doubt,
you are a catch.
But if you want
that teeny tiny boost
to up your attractiveness game,
then you've certainly come to the right place.
Here are eight little habits
to make you more attractive.
Not that you need it.
Number one, eat at least one good meal every day.
Remember, we're talking about little habits.
Not outrageous ones.
Sure, it's nice to have a healthy diet overall.
It promotes heart health,
reduces cancer risk,
and improves mood.
But let's be honest,
depriving yourself of that ice cream
is not worth it.
Food restrictions and deprivations
are shown to have psychological manifestations
such as preoccupation with food and eating,
increased emotional responsiveness,
and distractibility.
That's why it's better to start
with one hearty meal
of carbs, veggies and fruits every day
to at a happy boost
to your beautiful, attractive self.
Number two, substitute your bad thoughts
with affirming ones.
I'm gaining too much weight.
My wrinkles are showing a lot.
Why can't I be more independent?
How many times do you comment
on your appearance or personality every day?
Is it mostly good or bad remarks?
One large scale study found
that rumination and self-blame
over negative events were linked
to an increased risk of mental health problems.
You deserve so much in life
and these unpleasant thoughts
are not worth your time.
When you say something negative to yourself,
why not try to shift it into a better,
more self-appreciative direction?
Such as, "I'm bigger than I was before,
"but that's okay.
"It's a normal part of life
"and I love my body for working so hard.
"I wouldn't be here if it wasn't for me."
It may feel weird at first.
You may not feel better immediately,
but you're slowly giving yourself
the appreciation it earned.
That's a step forward
and it will help a lot over time.
Remember, you are everything you need to be.
That's gorgeous.
Number three, know your basic etiquette.
This means smiling,
saying thank you, excuse me,
And being polite.
These actions may seem small,
but they help a whole lot.
They're powerful enough
to brighten a stranger's dark day.
Researchers Sara Algoe
at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill
and her colleagues studying gratitude
have found that being thankful
and expressing it to others
is good for our health and happiness.
Not only does it feel good,
but it also helps us build trust
and closer bonds with others.
So don't be shy.
A person will always appreciate your kindness.
as Brittany Candau, author of
"Have Courage, Be Kind: The Tale of Cinderella," says,
"You must always remember this.
"Have courage and be kind.
"You have more kindness in your little finger
"than most people possess in their whole body.
"And it has power.
"More than you know."
Number four, take time to reflect.
When you know you've made a mistake,
you accept it and move on
or find ways around it.
Life is full of lessons and experiences,
and holds the value of the past.
From the moment you were born,
you've created a ripple effect
that influenced the lives
around you and beyond.
That's why it's important
to look back and contemplate,
and think about today.
Who have you helped?
Who have you hurt?
What will you do next?
These little self-reflections
will guide you to become who you wanna be.
It sounds complicated,
but it's as simple
as what you're going to do
in the next moment or the next hour.
Be tolerant and open
in admitting your mistakes.
With that, you're wiser and more mature
every step forward.
Number five, check up on your loved ones.
With life as fast paced as it is now,
people are often so enraptured
with their own lives
that they forget to stop for a moment
and cherish the presence of those with them.
Even the simplest,
"Hey, how are you?" will do.
People appreciate being checked up on.
It shows them that you're thinking of them
and care enough to leave a message
or even go visit them.
When was the last time you spent a moment
with someone gadget free?
According to Griffith College,
switching off technology can provide
better sleep, less anxiety,
and quality experiences.
So if your answer is "fairly recently,"
then congratulations!
You are surely more attractive.
Number six, stand up for your actions and words.
An attractive person is an assertive person.
Assertive communicators can express
their own needs, desires, ideas, and feelings
while also considering the needs of others.
The point is that confidence is sexy,
but too much of it may make you an egomaniac.
And that's kind of straying off
the attractive path.
When you live up to your actions and deeds,
people see you as trustworthy
and trust is a major trait
people seeking a partner.
So attractiveness, big check.
Number seven, listen to understand.
Author and inspirational thinker,
Stephen Covey said,
"The biggest communication problem
"is we don't listen to understand.
"We listen to reply."
Which one are you?
Listening to reply is the standard way
that most people communicate.
We're humans after all.
It's only normal to exchange words, right?
Well, not so much.
When you're listening to understand,
you're giving them your undivided attention.
Your eyes are focused.
Your body is leaning in.
You're smiling at the right moments.
It provides intimacy,
which the other person can find attractive.
This is because sometimes
people wanna have meaningful conversations
and you can't achieve that
by listening half-heartedly.
But becoming an active listener takes practice.
So here are some tips to remember.
Listen, don't interrupt,
understand, try not to judge, respond.
Plus one for attractiveness.
Number eight, be supportive in life.
You are the main character.
No doubt about that.
You're a star, but that also means
you're someone else's supporting character too.
When you are with the people you love,
you root for them with all your heart.
Being a part of someone's social support system
helps their good physical and mental health.
The ability to show your care
for another person is truly attractive.
You're building a deep connection with them
and involving them in your life.
If they don't find that attractive,
then who knows what they will?
I'm just kidding.
Remember that you're already so attractive.
These are only little tips
to make you even more irresistible.
Out of all these points,
which do you agree with the most?
Who's the most attractive person you know and why?
Share your stories in the comment section below,
and remember to like and share this video.
As always, the references and studies used
are in the description below.
Until next time.
Thanks for watching.