- I really am a lesbian.
I don't really know what you guys want me to say.
I like to kiss girls.
I don't know.
(women laughing)
- [Announcer] We brought together seven lesbians.
- I'm a lesbian.
- I am a lesbian.
- I'm a lesbian.
- I am a lesbian.
(upbeat music) - One is a liar.
If the group discovers who the liar is,
they'll win a cash prize.
If the liar survives, they win the cash prize.
This is "Odd Man Out."
(upbeat music)
- I'm going to listen to my gut,
listen to my gaydar, listen to my intuition.
- I dunno, I'm like, a little nervous
about how personal and raunchy the questions might get.
- I am curious as to what everybody's sign is,
which I think is a pretty lesbian question to have.
- I wanna know their coming out story.
Is it good? Is it bad?
Is it sad? Is it funny?
Is it crazy?
(upbeat music)
- Hi everyone. - Hi.
- Okay. Who likes wieners?
No, I'm just joking. (everyone laughs)
I'm just joking.
- I don't even like hot dogs. (everyone laughing)
I want none of it.
- Is everyone single, taken?
- Single.
- I have a partner.
- Taken. Same.
- Yes, I am taken.
- When did you guys realize your attraction to women
and how did you feel about it?
- So I didn't even answer the last question.
(everyone laughing)
I can't ask it and not answer it.
- That's 'cause when you're a lesbian,
you're just always in a relationship,
but also never in a relationship at the same time.
(everyone laughing) - Yeah, that's true.
- I knew at 16.
My mom, like, saw my text
between me and my girlfriend at the time.
So I forcibly came out of the closet.
- I also came out,
well, I knew around 16.
- Me too, 16.
- I'm sure a lot of us have come out multiple times.
- Oh yeah, to everyone. - Yes.
- Like 1000 times.
- It feels like you come out every day, honestly.
- Coming out is a lifelong process.
- I came out, like, six months ago when I was 19.
I read the essay, "Compulsory Heterosexuality,"
and went, "Oh my God."
- Well, welcome.
- I came out as bi when I was 15,
and then to myself when I was around 17.
Yeah, and then I came out to my whole family
two years ago exactly.
- So I basically realized it
when I was a junior in high school,
but I also thought I was bisexual,
because I never really questioned my attraction to men.
And also 'cause I'm Indian,
which is, like, heavily stigmatized in my community.
That both, I guess, kept me in the closet for a long time.
And I actually just came out to my parents
like, two weeks ago. (laughs)
- Oh wow. - Congratulations.
(all applauding and cheering) - That's amazing.
(bell dinging)
- Yeah, I love that "Compulsive Heterosexuality"
got brought up in round one.
It's such an important topic to talk about.
- I don't know.
I'm the most suspicious of myself,
like, is my gaydar broken?
- It kind of did look like
Anandita was reading off of something she wrote out,
but it could be just because she's nervous.
- I'm gonna have to vote for Rachel.
It's just a hunch.
- I think I'm gonna vote out Madeline.
- I am gonna vote for Rachel,
just because she said only one really big thing.
- I'm probably gonna vote out Olive.
- Anandita had the questions
and had her answer almost memorized.
- I'm sorry, Olive, but I'm gonna vote for you.
- [Announcer] The votes are in for round one
and we have a three-way tie
between Rachel, Olive, and Anandita.
Each person will get 15 seconds to state their case.
Rachel, we'll start with you.
- Okay, so I came out 12 years ago now when I was 16
because I started dating my first girlfriend.
The only gay people at my high school were me,
my girlfriend, and her ex-girlfriend
which I came to learn was a very lesbian situation to have
as I got older. (bell dinging)
- So I started dating my girlfriend two years ago.
We're about to move in together,
hopefully in the next few months.
In my free time I volunteer for the Trevor Project.
I'm like, a huge advocate for LGBT rights and everything.
I know I didn't talk that much in the first round.
I know that's why y'all voted for me.
(bell dinging) (Olive laughs)
- I did really hardcore struggle
with being a femme presenting person,
because I do love femininity,
I love being a feminine woman,
but I also struggled with compulsory heterosexuality
so heavily that I kept it guarded for myself for years.
And it's especially hard because as an Indian woman,
I've been conditioned my whole life
to be married to a man and have kids.
(bell dinging)
- So I think I'm gonna vote for Rachel.
- I think I'm gonna go for Anandita.
- I dunno. I still have a weird feeling about Anandita.
- I think I'm going to vote for Rachel again.
- [Announcer] We have counted all the votes
and there is still a tie
between Rachel and Anandita. - Oh my gosh!
Each of you will get 10 seconds to state your case.
- Okay, well clearly I think you can be
a very feminine-presenting woman
and also be lesbian at the same time,
which I think I've also dealt a lot with
in the lesbian community
from masculine-presenting lesbians that I-
(bell dinging)
(Olive laughs)
- Okay. So I have a master in sexuality studies.
I study lesbian moms.
I'm a queer cultural competency educator.
This is all my queer collection books.
I can pull out my publications for you.
(bell ringing)
- This is impossible. (laughs)
- Rachel's story about her girlfriend in high school
is really sticking to me.
So I think I'm gonna go with Anandita again.
- I'm gonna vote for Rachel again,
but if it's Anandita, I'm gonna be mad.
- Anandita just said the same thing again.
Like, she didn't bring up anything new.
- I'm glad I'm safe.
I'm sorry, Rachel.
- Just because you studied it
doesn't mean that you are one,
and you could just know the right things to say.
So I'm voting for Rachel again.
- [Announcer] The votes are in
and the person eliminated in round one is...
Rachel. (buzzer sounding)
(competitors groaning) - Rachel!
- Honestly, what's more disappointing
is that it came down to the two most feminine people
on the call.
(upbeat music)
- That was crazy. - That was intense!
- That was really, really, really crazy.
- Wait, wait, wait.
I'm gonna ask the first question,
because I didn't talk that much in the last one
and I'm not getting voted out.
What's your favorite lesbian movie?
- Not my favorite one,
but did anyone watch "Happiest Season"?
- Yo! (women laughing)
- I was gonna say "Happiest Season" also
because okay, little name drop,
I'm in a band and our song is in the movie.
- It's in the movie? (women exclaiming)
- You famous! - Oh, my!
- Yeah, I wish I was famous, but anyway (laughs).
First of all, just like, watching a queer holiday movie,
chef's kiss.
- That's why when I was watching
"Haunting of Bly Manor,"
and I was like, "A femme lesbian!"
(women laughing) - Yep.
- And I was like, oh my God, she dies.
- Oh, always
- Spoiler!
- I kind of have a specific question.
What are some of the negative experiences that you've had
with other lesbians within the community?
- Oh, you're getting deep, deep, deep.
- Well, I'm trying to play the game!
- Kind of coming on a little strong
with the questions.
I don't know.
- Well, I've had a ton of negative experiences
with men as well,
who don't believe me, which totally sucks.
Having men turn lesbianism into a performative act for them.
- Yep.
They're definitely like,
"Oh, you're too cute to be a lesbian."
Like, what does that even mean?
- I hate that. - Ew!
- "Oh, I can turn you straight."
You can't.
That's why I'm here. (women laughing)
- Did anyone have any negative experiences
just overall, like anything scary that happened to you?
I could start off.
- I had a beer bottle thrown at me.
- Jesus.
Yeah, that sounds like something somebody would do.
- That's scary.
- I post a lot on TikTok, lesbian TikTok.
I mean, I'm coming outta my car to go into my house
and a bunch of teenage boys are walking by me
and I'm sitting there and I'm like, "Oh no."
And then they just start screaming my name.
And I'm like, "Oh."
And then they start screaming,
"(bleep) you effing (bleep)" - Ew!
- And I'm like- - Wow.
- I haven't had a ton of it,
'cause I came out six months ago
and corona's a thing,
so I haven't gone anywhere in the last six months.
And like, did not look like this a year ago.
It was very much a quarantine,
gender performativity no longer a thing.
So I look like this now.
- Have you read that lesbian master doc?
- I have, yeah.
- Have you guys all read it?
- I knew I was a lesbian.
I didn't need to read a doc.
- It's basically like a checklist.
Like, do you do X? Do you do X?
- I can tell you I do everything.
I don't have to read it.
I do everything. (bell dinging)
- Oh, that was so scary.
I feel like I didn't get to talk til the end
'cause I didn't wanna interrupt anyone.
- Isabelle's music was in "Happiest Season"
and the director is a lesbian.
So it makes sense
that they would look for other lesbian artists.
- I still have that weird feeling about Anandita though.
Kind of giving me a mole-y vibe.
- Anandita, she just snapped, being like,
"Just 'cause I'm femme doesn't mean I'm a lesbian,"
and I'm like, I'm femme.
I don't think that's what everyone was voting her out for.
- She's a baby lesbian, but I'm kind of suspicious of Mel.
- Olive.
- I am gonna go for Desire.
- I fully trust Isabelle and Madeline.
They're Canadians. They wouldn't lie to me.
So I think I'm gonna have to vote Desire.
- [Announcer] And we have another tie
between Desire and Anandita. - Another tie!
(Desire gasps)
- [Announcer] Each person will have 15 seconds
to state their case.
- Okay, well,
I don't know what else I can say
to convince you guys.
Look at my fingernails.
- I knew she was gonna do that!
- I'm just a feminine lesbian.
I'm sorry, guys.
I'm sorry I don't look like
what you think a lesbian should look like,
but I just dunno what- (bell dinging)
- Okay, so clearly, she pointed out her nails.
I can't point out my nails 'cause my nails are long
but long nails don't mean anything.
You just gotta take your time.
Just, I really am a lesbian.
Like, I don't really know what you guys want me to say.
I live with my significant other right now.
My partner is non-binary.
I like to kiss girls.
I don't know! (bell dinging)
- Ah! (giggles)
- I don't know what else to say
'cause I can't say nothing X-rated.
- Why do they keep voting for Anandita?
I'm gonna vote for Desire.
- I have weird feelings about Anandita.
- I think I'm gonna have to stick with Anandita.
- I sent in my Anandita vote.
- [Announcer] We have counted all the votes
and the person eliminated this round is
(buzzer sounding) Anandita.
- Yes! (women groaning)
- I told you.
- Not super happy about that,
but I get it, you know?
(upbeat music)
- I'm so mad at all of you!
- Desire, I love you.
- I don't think it was Anandita, though.
- It's not me.
- I know, but somebody was voting for her
over and over again.
So I'm a little questionable.
- I kept switching because your answers were really good.
- Yeah. So did I. - This is impossible.
- I'm gonna ask a question.
- Yeah, go ahead.
- What was the hardest part about coming out?
- Yeah, so it was like, '90s, early 2000s for me.
There was no representation
in TV, movies, nothing.
I never saw myself anywhere.
I think the hardest part was coming out to myself
and just being terrified.
Like so scared, feeling so alone, so isolated.
It was like, how the hell am I gonna move forward now?
- I feel very lucky that I grew up in a time
where, like, it's not perfect by any means,
but definitely in comparison to decades before,
I have a lot to work with.
And I knew that I was queer within high school,
around that time,
but I never felt comfortable with a label.
Then I went to university,
I met a lot of really amazing queer people.
I was president of my residence's pride collective.
And then, world shut down.
I came home and I was like,
me on my own in my room,
was forced to examine what queerness meant to me.
And that's when I was like,
"Okay, I feel confident calling myself a lesbian."
So it's been a very new-ish journey.
But in the last year,
there has been some really good representation out there
that I've been fortunate enough to be like,
"Yes, we love to see it!"
- My coming out in general was super, super bad,
'cause I got caught doing something
that I shouldn't have been.
And then once I graduated college,
I started second-guessing myself.
Like, is this really right?
You know, religious things.
So then my hair started falling out.
So that was really like a wake-up call.
And then once I accepted myself
and my mom was like,
"Girl, shut up. I love you."
I was like, "Oh!"
Then my hair started growing back.
So now I'm happy.
- I'm Latina and I was raced Catholic
and my mom, she was raised in the way of, like,
"I need to get married to a man and have children."
That was her life.
Like, there was nothing else.
So I knew coming out to her was the thing.
There was a whole other thing
when I came out as non-binary.
That was a whole, like,
"Well, now I'm letting you even more,
I'm not even a girl." (laughs)
So it's like...
She's met my partner now,
which is crazy to think of that happening.
- Like, when my mom met my first girlfriend,
I was just like, "Oh my God, how is this gonna go?"
- Yeah, totally. - She's just like-
(bell dinging)
- Hearing everyone's stories is really nice
because there's a lot that,
even if I didn't have the exact same experience,
I can identify with it a lot
because I have those same feelings.
- I think I'm gonna vote for Mel again.
- I'm gonna have to vote for Madeline.
- I think I'm gonna go for Desire.
- I have to choose Mel.
- Simply to avoid a tiebreaker,
I'm gonna vote for Desire again.
But if I love her so much, why am I voting for her?
Should I switch to Mel?
I'm gonna switch to Mel.
- [Announcer] We have counted all the votes
and the person eliminated this round is
(buzzer sounding) Mel.
(women groaning)
- Oh my God. - Oh, no, Mel!
- This is really sad.
This means the Canadians betrayed me.
- [Announcer] Do you want to continue the game?
Give me a thumbs up
if you wanna go to round four.
Give me a thumbs down
if you think you caught the mole
and want to end the game now
- Oh, I don't know!
- [Announcer] Three, two, one.
Majority has voted and we will end the game now.
(upbeat music)
Now if the color turns green, you all win.
If it's red, the mole is still in the game and you lost.
- I will destroy you. (women laughing)
- Don't tempt me with a good time.
- [Announcer] In three, two...
- Oh my god, oh my god, oh my god.
- [Announcer] One.
- (gasping) No!
- No, no, no, no, no! - What?
- Desire, I swear.
- It's not me! I promise. - I swear.
- It's Madeline? - No!
- Oh my god. Now we're turning on each other.
I don't like this.
(upbeat music)
- [Announcer] The game is over and the lesbians have lost.
That means that the straight woman
will be receiving a cash prize.
And we're also going to be gifting her
the Akinto experience,
where she'll get to pick her favorite basics
from our new interactive apparel brand.
Will the mole please raise your hand
in three, two, one?
(tense music)
(women gasping)
- Oh my god! - No!
- I literally-
- I'm so sorry.
- I believed in you!
- Did not see that coming. - Me too!
- Did not see that!
- It is true I'm in a band.
We are called Caveboy.
My band members are women and they are queer
and they are my best friends and I am an ally
and I love them to death
and they have taught me so much about their identity.
And I'm so sorry.
Can we all be friends? (women laughing)
- Right off the bat, I was like,
"Oh, I trust her," to my camera.
I'm like, "I trust her!"
Now I look like a dumbass. (laughing)
- Oh my gosh.
- Gaydar is not a thing.
People can identify any way and also look any way.
- Being out, being proud in who I was
allowed me to continue to pursue a life of authenticity.
- I love being a lesbian. (laughs)
(upbeat music)