Tripp Kramer here from www.trippadvice.com.
I know what a lot of guys struggle with.
Whenever I'm working with a client, one of their biggest issues besides going over in
starting conversation is continuing the conversation.
What I want to do on this video is I want to give you 3 really awesome questions that
you can use when you're in conversation with a girl.
And each of them serves its own purpose so you can use all these if you want, in the
same conversation.
You can spread it out whatever you want, but use these.
I know that there's probably people who wrote them down down below, so you can just get
the questions.
But that's not going to help them and it's not going to help you unless you really understand
why these are important.
And it's important is to know the context in which you use these questions because clearly,
just using them out of nowhere doesn't necessarily help.
Let's dive into it.
We'll start with the very first question.
The first question is asking a girl what her sign is.
I know to many guys this sounds completely ridiculous but let me just explain the magic
of this question.
Here's the thing a lot of guys say to me, but Tripp I don't want to bring that up.
I don't want to talk about her sign and astrology and all that stuff because I don't care about
that stuff.
I don't believe in that stuff.
Well here's the magic of this.
It doesn't matter whether you believe in it or not, the conversation can go towards that
so it's a win win situation.
Let's imagine you do believe in that stuff.
You check your horoscope every day, you're diehard into it.
Great.
You ask her, she answers.
A lot of women are into that by the way, which is why I think this is a great question.
But you guys can talk about that and have a great time talking about it.
Let's say that you are not into signs you don't believe in it.
You think it's ridiculous and she is.
Well actually you guys disagreeing on that, and of course not going into an intense debate
an argument about it, but just the fact that you might not believe in it, but you're asking
her because you're kind of asking her if she does believe in that stuff.
That will create tension.
When I say tension, I don't mean tension in a bad way, but a good way.
It will create actual sexual tension because you guys are talking and you might not agree
on something and it shows that you're confident in who you are and what you believe in.
That's the second possibility.
Maybe you ask her and she's like, I don't know, I don't believe in that stuff and you
don't either.
Then boom, now you've connected on that.
Or maybe you believe in it and she doesn't, then you guys can have that debate and talk
about that and have just a fun conversation about whether or not it's true or not true.
You can't lose.
And like I said earlier, most women do believe in this stuff.
Don't believe me?
Try it out.
Talk to a lot of women.
A lot of women do believe in that stuff.
Talk about it a lot.
Of course, there's many exceptions who don't but a lot do.
It's always fun to bring it up and it really gets the conversation going.
It flows and makes you guys talk about it.
Whatever the possibility is, you guys can continue the conversation and you can bring
it to a more interesting level.
I talk about this a little bit more in my program called Hooked.
There's a section in Hooked.
It's a course that you can get online that teaches you about attraction and there's a
section called Effortless Flirting.
There's a video inside of that called Effortless Flirting that talks about all these different
flirting techniques and asking them about their sign is one of them.
If you want to get your hands on that, check it out at www.getherhooked.com.
I'll put a link in the description down below so you can get access to that full course.
All right, let's move on to the second question.
The second question is pulled from these 36 questions that make a woman fall in love with
you.
There is a study that has been done that came out where there was a set of men and women
who got together and they asked each other a set of 36 questions.
Maybe you heard of this.
I did a video on that.
I'll link to that also in the description down below this video.
But the 36 questions are questions for two people to connect with each other.
And they asked the questions in order for that connection to happen and they've shown
that when people ask these questions to each other, all 36 of them, there is a high chance
of them feeling more connected, which gives them a high chance of falling in love.
I've extracted one of those, which is one of my favorite questions.
And that is what are you most grateful for right now?
The context in which you ask this question might not be in a in an initial approach.
I would probably use this more on a date.
You guys are talking and you say, I'm curious about something I always ask people this.
What do you feel most grateful for in your life right now?
Really good question.
It's a good question because it gets people thinking about what they're grateful for clearly.
And that's what makes them happy when people are in gratitude.
When you think about the things that you have and the positive things you start to feel
happy with.
Why is it such a good question?
Why is it so magical?
Because if you're asking her that question and she starts to think about the things that
she's grateful for and she starts to feel good, she's going to associate those good
feelings with you.
Because you're with her and you guys are talking about that stuff.
And on top of it, it's a really great question.
It's deep, it's thoughtful, it's less surfacey.
It's not just doing that kind of small talk.
You're really getting to a level where you're really getting to know someone so you guys
connect.
She's getting all those positive emotions.
You're going to share what you're grateful for then she's going to say wow, this guy's
very optimistic even though you're just answering that question which inherently is optimistic.
That's why it's such a powerful question.
You can ask it in the context of when you first meet a girl.
If you go and do an approach in a bar and you're talking, you can just throw that out
there.
You can just start saying it out of nowhere, it doesn't really matter.
You don't have to follow it to be a perfect moment.
But I just think it's really good on dates because that's a little bit more of an appropriate
setting to get to know each other further.
The third question, and this is one of my favorite questions and I highly urge you to
use it and I try to get everyone I can to use it because not enough guys are doing it.
It's basically the question of asking the girl out.
It is so important.
Here's what's crazy about it.
Guys don't really understand this.
When you ask out a girl, of course, to say yes, she already has to be attracted to you.
But something funny happens.
There's an emotional spike when you ask a girl because all of a sudden, you're doing
the thing that is making you to connect even harder.
No bigger question exists in that in the courtship process, except for maybe will you marry me.
You asking her would you go out with me is going to create an emotional spike which gets
her even more attracted to you.
I want to be very careful here.
I'm not saying that that question is going to get her attracted.
She has to be pre attracted on some level.
But if you don't ask her out, nothing is going to happen.
Just ask her, hey when are we going to grab a coffee sometime?
Hey when are we going to grab a drink sometime?
Hey when are we going to do.
Whatever it is that you want to do, some sort of activity, whatever.
Asking her out.
Please don't forget this.
I have my coaching clients drill this.
A lot of guys are very scared of rejection and this is the question that can potentially
get you rejected because you're putting yourself out there.
I urge you if you're going out and you're trying to learn this stuff and you're actively
putting in the effort to going out and starting conversations and using the aforementioned
questions that we just talked about, you gotta throw this in there.
Even if you've been talking for five minutes and you're like, fight or flight mode, like
you gotta escape, you gotta leave, I still urge you to ask this question.
Get the rejection.
One of the things I tell my clients to do is to go out and get rejected.
That's the homework I'll give them in any given week.
I'll say all right, this week you're going out and you're going to get 10 rejections.
They say Tripp how do I do that?
It's very simple.
You're going to go out, you're going to talk to girls and you're going to stay in there
as long as humanly possible and then you're finally going to ask her out.
You'd be surprised how many guys end up getting numbers and not just numbers, but even getting
numbers that convert to dates when you just ask that question.
Sometimes the girl is already physically attracted to you.
Once you go and do the approach show doesn't even matter what you say.
She's gonna say yes.
Of course that's not every single time because women are more attracted to the personality
than your looks.
But sometimes with a little effort, all you do is you ask that question and boom, you
have a date.
It's very magical.
I urge you to use it.
If you want to learn more about how to get these women that you're talking to attracted
to you so we can go deeper than just a few questions about how to have conversation be
interesting and have it be where she's connecting with you and get rid of this fear of rejection,
check out the course that I talked about earlier which is called Hooked at www.getherhooked.com.
The link is in the description below.
Thousands of guys already have this program and they're raving to me about it because
they're using the material and it's getting them results in their dating life which is
resulting in an active dating life.
If you want that, check out the course.
It can't hurt and I'll see you on the next video.