The Topic Of Sabr Which The Well-Known Thing But I Think There
Are Sometimes There Are Some Misunderstandings In Our Community
About The Concept, The Nature Of Sabr What It Actually Means
And What It Doesn'T Mean As Well.
And Of Course It'S Especially Relevant And It'S Very Relevant
Thing At All Times, But Especially Relevant Of Course What
We'Ve Been Experiencing In These .....Of These Covid Days.
........................ In The Quran (2:177), We Were Told That
Bear Righteousness And Piety Is Not The Turning Of Your Head.
So Your Face Is In The Direction Of East Or The West. This
Is Not Just Going Through The Motions.
Yes, Righteousness Is Just Not As I'Ve Mentioned This Before
We Looked At This Before... That It'S Just Not Going Through
The Motions And Then In That Verse And Then There'S A Long
List Of What Actually Does Constitute Bear Righteousness
Or Piety.
Lots Of Things,
I Won'T Go Into That Now But Including Things To Do With
Articles Of Faith, Practices And So On The Towards The End
Of That Verse Was Mentioned And The Patience, One Of Those
Categories Of What Constitutes Bear Righteousness That The
Patience, Those Who Are Patient In Misfortune And Hardship
And A Times Of Peril Or Danger.
So You Can See How This May Be Especially Relevant Now, But
As I Say, It'S An Incredibly Important Area Of Our Being
We Know This.
Yes, That Is Fundamentally Important.
One Reason Is For Instance.
..... In Surah-Tul Asr Mentioned This Before As Well,
Of Course. By Time, Verily Man Is In A State Of Loss. That Is Our
Default State.
Then There Are Four Exceptions Mentioned: Except For Those Who
Have Faith And Do Good Deeds And Urge One Another To The
Truth And Urge One Another To As-Sabr/Patience
So You Can See How Important It Is
And In Fact At The End Of Surah Al-E-Imran The Very Last
Verse What Was Mentioned To Oh You Who Believe Be Patient.
Yes, But Also And Vie With One Another/ Compete With One Another
With One Another In Patience
Stressing About The Fundamental Importance Of This But As
I Said, There Are Some Misunderstandings Even Including Us
Using The Word Patience Or Sabr; That Is Part Of Sabr
But Really The English Word Patience Is Not Sufficient.
It Doesn'T Cover The Widespread Meaning Of Sabr
So We Might Use Other Words Like Perseverance.
Patience/ Perseverance; This Is Sabr, Hanging On In There
Steadfastness, Consisted Or Constancy To Keep To Maintain
Something, Restraint And Also Includes Restraint That Is Also
Sabr In Certain Situations, There Are Much More Widespread
Meaning Than The Word Patience Because In English Patience
Has Certain Connotations, Which Really, It Doesn'T Cover
The Meaning Of So So For Instance, We'Ve Most Of Us Understand
That We Have To Have Patience Where Patience In Terms
Of Trials, Trials, Tests, Tribulations.
Yes, We Understand About Sabr Terms Of Calamities And
Disasters, But Do We Understand That Patience For Instance, Maintain
The Obligations
We Have To, Allah Subhanahu Wa'Ta'Ala That Requires Sabr
That'S Covered By Sabr
That'S The Quality
We Need To Get.. We Need To Pray Five Times A Day.
It' Not An Easy Thing For Some. It
Requires Sabr And Also To Stay Away From Things Which Are Prohibited
Forbidden And To Avoid Temptations That Also Requires Sabr
So Much More Widespread Meaning Also One Thing That Patience
Isn'T, I'M Sorry, Sabr Isn'T But In English The Word Patience
Implies It Is The Sort Of Passive Acceptance.
That'S Not Sabr, Not Just Passively Accepting Something And I'Ll
Give You A Couple Examples; Personal Examples Of This. Many
Years Ago
I Was In A Queue
I Think It'S Was In Saudi Embassy; For I Think It Was
A Visa For Either Umrah Or Hajj
Yes.
It'S Many Years Ago, And I Was In The Queue Waiting Patiently
And People Were Pusing In... Now I Started To Feel Annoyed About This.
Yes, I Noticed There Was A Number Of People Just Pushing
In To Get To The Front.
Now, Of Course, We Know That In Some Ways
.. A Unique Culture In This Country Where We Believe
In Queues. A Lot Of People Around The World Don'T Believe In Queues . But Nevertheless
This Was In The Uk.
I Was Getting ... I Was Much Younger Then... I Was Getting Angry
About This Because I Was Waiting And What You See And People
Pushing And Pushing In And Then Finally Someone Pushed In Directly
In Front Of Me And I Said Something And I Said It Angrily
I Said Something What, I Can'T Remember The Details....Something
Long Time Ago
Why Can'T You Wait In The Queue Like The Rest Of Us Or You
Know, What Makes You Think You Can Just Push In In Front?
Now, Possible That These Were Travel Agents And ... Someone
Maybe .... They Have That Right?
I Don'T Know.
But The Thing Is That The Brother Who He Was Affected By
My Speaking To That, What He Said To Me And This Really That
Amazed Me At The Time.
He Said Have Sabr, Brother. Now, I Thought The Time This
Is So Cheeky.
This Is Just So Yes.
He'S The One Who'S Pushing In ..... I'M Protesting And Maybe
I Shouldn'T Have Raised My Voice Or Whatever But He'S Complaining
Or He'S Telling Me To Have Sabr
So We Can'T Use Sabr As A An Excuse For Bad Behavior.
That Was In Some Ways A Comic Or Funny.....
A Serious Example Many Years Ago Again In The
Different Masjid.
I Remember An Imam Saying In A Gathering... Just A
Sort Of Gathering, Some Sort Of Circle And He Was Praising
A Sister That He Knew A Woman, Muslim Woman That He Knew Whose
Husband Was Violent And What He Was Saying Is Mashallah, She Has
So Much Patience, You Know, He'S Doing This And He'S Doing
That She Doesn'T Call The Police.
She'S Just.... She'S Being Patient.
Now Begin, I Was Quite Struck By This.
I Was Quite Shocked, I Spoke To Him Afterwards ....I Said,
What Is This?
Because And I'Ve Got ....Come Across This Little Example Subsequently
In Our Community,Look Sabr
It'S Not Look...
It'S Not A Virtue To Be A Patient Victim Or A Passive Victim.
We Shouldn'T Be Praising This Behavior, You Know, Really
If That Imam
He Knew That This Was Going On.
The Obligation Was For Him To Do Something About It, Imam
Not To Expect This Poor Woman To Be Just Putting Up
With Violence.
Now, This Is Something We'Ve Got To Be Clear About.
You Know, We'Re Not.... In Islam
We Don'T Have A Victim Mentality.
We'Re Not Victims, Whatever
The Situation Is, A Situation Like That Really We Need To
Take Action.
We Know The Hadith. The Hadith That If You See A Munkar / An
Evil Then Stop It With Your Hand, As I Take Action If We'Re
In A Position To Take Action.
I Need To Make This Clear.
We Don'T.... We Don'T Go Around Just Applying This Without Thought.
Yes, And We Don'T Even If It Creates Greater Trouble Than
The Benefits You See, It'S More Subtle.
But Anyway, If We See A Munkar We Are Supposed To Stop
It With Action... If We Can'T Do That, The Hadith Goes On, If
You Can'T Do That And Stop It With Your Mouth Or Your Tongue
With Our Speech, So We Can Speak Out Against It And If You
Can'T Do That Stop It With Your Heart.
It Means... Don'T Accept This, Don'T Accept This
Wrongdoing, At Least Hate It, The Wrongdoing
The Prophet (Saw) Went On Saying That Is The Weakest Form Of
Faith. ......... So We Should Be People Who Actually
Speak Out ... Against Oppression Or Injustice Or
Wrongdoing. It'S Not A Virtue To Be Patient About It In A
Passively Accepting Way.
... For Men Or For Our Sisters.
As We Take Action.... One Of The Situations I'Ve Seen This
Or Heard About Time Many Many Times
Yes You Heard
.... I Came Across In My Work Is In As A Psychotherapist
When There Are Families Where There'S An Elder...
Yes, Elder Supposed To Be Respectable Member Of The Family
And He Is Committing Or Maybe Sometimes She Is Committing
Some Sort Of Abuse Whether It'S Physical, Verbal, Sexual... That'S
All Sorts Of Abuses..
But People Can Perpetrates.
Now What Happens, In Some Of Those Families Now Come Across
A Number Of Times Over The Years.
People Don'T Say Anything.
You See, They Don'T Say Anything Because It'S Their Grandfather
Or Maybe Their Parents And There'S This Idea That We Have
To Be Respectful. Now....
Yes, We Have To Honor The Elders But Not When They'Re Doing
Something Dishonorable.
We Don'T Honor Abuse.
You See That'S Not A Situation Where Where Should Be Patient.
No, We Take An Action, That Is Necessary Or Speak Out At Least Or Hate It In Our Heart
We Sometimes We Mistake
Expression Of Feeling For A Lack Of Sabr
You Know People And Again It'S Only In Some Sectors Of Our
Community, But We Have The Idea That If Someone Is Expressing
Grief For Instance, That'S A Sign Of Not Having Sabr, You
Know And People Very Quickly Say Things Like Have Sabr, Brother; Have Sabr, Sister.
This Is Correct Teaching In Terms Of ....We Should Be Recommending
To Each Other To Have Sabr..
But We Also Need To Have Some Understanding Of The Context
Some Empathy.
You Know To Say To Someone, You Know, Be Patient.
Or Have Sober After We'Ve Heard Their Story, Actually Heard
What They'Re Going Through And I Maybe Empathizing What They'Re
Going Through And Then Saying It... That'S Very Different From
A This Sort Of Immediate Response That Some People Give, Just
Have Sabr And Also Some People Ask How Do You Just Have
Sabr And We'Ll Look At This Next Time In Sha Allah
But It Is, You Know, The Prophet (Saw) He Wept When He
Was Burying His Son Ibrahim;
His Young Son.
He Wept, He Was Crying..
The Prophet (Saw) Wasn'T A Lack Of Sabr Or A Lack Of
Eman Or A Lack Of Understanding Of Qadr (Decree) That Was An Expression
Of Emotion, Maryam (A.S) When She Was Giving Birth And
She Was About To Give Birth To Isa (A.S)
What Does She Say?
She Says Would That I Had Died Before This And Been A Thing
Forgotten, Utterly Forgotten
That'S A Strong Words, But It'S Not A Lack Of Sabr Faith Or Of ... Gratitude.
Yes, It'S An Expression Of Pain.
She Was In Extreme Pain: Both From The Physical Aspect Of The Child Birth.
But Also From The Way That Her Community Might Behave Towards
Her. You See, So We Need To Look At These Examples And Think
Yaqub (A.S)
He Was So In Grief About Yusuf (A.S) And His Eyes Went
Wide... Some Say That He Went Blind.
That'S Not A Lack Of Sabr, He Had A... Beautiful Patience.
So We Need To Understand The Subtleties / These Nuances
You See We Don'T Want It To Be Black And White And Because
Then We Might Make Mistakes.