Matt: Can a four-word text really revive almost any dead number? Well, watch and
find out! Because it's so annoying when you meet a girl that you really really
like and it seems super on. Your texting back and forth and then, wham, out of the
blue, she doesn't text you back. You probably start over-analyzing your
last text and second-guessing yourself and try not to freak out and hopefully
you don't send a lame text like "did I say something wrong?"
Further sealing your fate of being forever ghosted. Watch to the very end
and I'll give you my simple three-step system to get her to reply back and the
forward text that I send to revive even the most dead number. My name is Matt Artisan
from The Attractive Man and this is what to text a girl when she doesn't text you back.
Berkeley psychologist found that receiving a text message makes people feel more connected
and elevates their mood. No shock there but this might surprise you; that the open rate of SMS
messages is 99%, yet the reply back rate is only 45%. Which is why I'm
first gonna give you three crucial tips that you need to start implementing right now,
anytime you don't get a reply back. Tip #1 is don't stress out
about it. So many guys freak out because they have one itis. They're putting so
much importance on this one girl that they're texting and that if she doesn't
reply back, then they're really affected by that. So instead, I recommend have at
least five, if not even ten girls that you're texting that might seem like a
lot. But remember, it doesn't mean you're dating all of these girls, these are just
girls that you're interested in and that you're trying to get a date with.
You might only get dates with like three or four of them but the point is if one
doesn't reply back, you still have a few other options. And not only that but make
sure you have an interesting lifestyle, a cool lifestyle at least have a job and
other things that you're focusing on so that getting a date with this one girl
or any of these girls that you're texting isn't the most important thing
in your life. Make sure to have other things that are more important than
girls. Now, it's one thing if she's your wife or a long-term relationship but I'm
talking about girls that you've just met, that maybe you haven't even gone on a
real date with and just the fact that you're worrying so much about it makes
you needy even if she doesn't see that you're pacing around your apartment,
waiting for her to text you back. She doesn't see that needy behavior but
mentally you're still putting her on a pedestal. You're becoming more and more
needy about this particular girl and when you eventually do, either write back
to her, you might end up sending a really needy text or when you finally end up
seeing her, you've put so much investment and mental energy towards her that you
might end up being really needy and push her away. Because the fact is she might
just be busy, maybe she's on an African Safari and she doesn't have
cell reception or maybe she saw your text and she had every intention to text
you back but she just didn't feel like it at that exact moment and then just
forgot about it. One time I was hanging out with my girlfriend and she got a
text from her best female friend and she had every intention to text her back but
just didn't feel like it at the moment, I forget we were doing something else at
the time and she didn't end up replying to her best friend for an entire week.
And that's her best friend who has a lot of value and importance in her life so
imagine you the new guy in her life you don't have that much significance so she
doesn't really have a lot of obligation to text you back. Remember, women base a
lot of what they do based on how they feel in that moment so she may not feel
like texting you back, so what? Try again and maybe next time
she'll feel like texting you back, which brings me to the next point:
Don't text back immediately. What happens with most guys is they're texting back and
forth, maybe every 5 or 10 minutes. It's going great,
it seems super on, a guy is getting super excited, then girl just starts doing
something else, she gets busy or she doesn't have cell service and the guy
starts freaking out, 30 minutes have gone by, an hour has gone by so he texts her;
"hey, are you busy?" And 30, 40, maybe an hour to goes by, no reply and he texts; "okay, cool"
Which obviously means it's not cool and
that he's a little bit affected by it. Instead, I don't even do a lot of back
and forth texting, I just use texting to set up the date, not to get to know each
other and have all this banter back and forth that just uses a lot of time. And
you should have other things going on in your life like I said before instead of
just texting girls all day long. So, I recommend you send the text and you
forget about it. You put your phone on silent and then you check it when you're
free. Go about your day, do other things beyond your mission and purpose and then
when you're bored and relaxing, then you check your texts and that will really
help you from ever over texting her. And then, if you don't get a text back just
wait a day or two and send another text. And I'll talk about those exact texts
that you could send just a second and a good rule of thumb is; if you send a text
and you don't get a reply back, then you wait a day or two to text her. Again, don't
keep texting her and asking her what's wrong. Now, I understand if it's your
long-term girlfriend, that's a little bit different but again we're talking about
new girls in your life here. They should not be that important and if you catch
yourself stressing about some new girl in your life, do other things. Occupy your
mind and one of the best things is get out there and meet more women so you
have more options. But just because she didn't takes you back one time, don't
give up and delete her number. And balance is key here. Just because she
didn't reply back, one time doesn't mean all is lost.
Remember 45% of the time, people don't reply back so you need to be persistent
but without sending her a bunch of text and coming off as needy. By the way, if
you're not subscribed to this channel, make sure to subscribe. And tip #3 is
to use social media to your advantage. Because if you also have her
Facebook, Instagram or Snapchat, then she can see that you live an interesting
life. That you're traveling or that you're speaking on stage or that you're
hanging out with a group of friends or she might even see that you're with
other women, that you're going on dates and hanging out with other girls, which
can make her more interested. And it doesn't seem like you're just sitting at
home, waiting for her to reply back. You're living your life which you should
be. Plus, maybe she started dating somebody else and she's not really as
interested in you anymore because of her new relationship but that relationship
might only last a few weeks or even a few months and if she keeps seeing your
lifestyle, she keep seeing your pictures and your posts then you're on her radar
and she might just randomly text you back when she's single again. I've used
this to my advantage many times when I'm traveling and I see no point in texting
a girl when I'm not gonna be back in that city for a year or two but when I
do come back she remembers me and she asked me all these questions about my
travels because she saw all my pictures and it keeps me on her mind and on her
radar and it's like "keeps the fire still warm." It's not a full blazing
fire anymore but you just need to stir it a little bit and you can easily
reignite it. Alright now, we need to get her to reply back so here are three simple tips.
First, remember it doesn't mean anything, just wait a day or two and
then send another text. That next text shouldn't be like what
happen to you or anything like that it should just be something simple,
something short and something random it could be a fun question like "if you had
any superpower what would you have" or "we could travel anywhere in the world where
would we go?" By the way, I like the word "we" instead of "you" because it creates a
sense of togetherness or send her a random picture because remember, pictures
speak a thousand words. It can be a meme that somebody sent you. It can be a cute
animal that you saw or found off the internet. Because women love cute animals.
It could be maybe you're walking down the street and you saw a bum with a
funny sign. You can send her a picture of that or anything else that's interesting,
funny or exciting that has happened to you that day or maybe that week or you
can try a funny role play text like "hey I'm bored let's go rob a bank." I've used
that many times and it definitely gets a reply just anything kind of fun, not too
serious that just gets the conversation going again
so that you can go for a date and meet up with her. And I have even better
examples than this in my free texting cheat sheet, if you don't have it yet,
grab a copy. There's a link down in the description. Now, let's say, she doesn't
reply back. Now, you still might not be in damage control yet, maybe she's super
busy. Maybe, she's out camping and she doesn't have a good cell service, maybe
she lost her phone. Maybe, maybe, maybe. But there's also of course a chance that
she's just not that interested and there's only one way to really find out
and that's step #2 — Wait two to four days so that you don't seem too
needy or eager and then send a bait text. A bait text is just a text that baits
her to reply back something like "I think you have a confession to make..."
Now, she's probably gonna want to know what's that confession is. So
she'll probably write back and ask what is it and one option is to say "I think
you love me" and if she definitely doesn't love you or even like you then
she'll probably let you know and at least now you can move on or you can go
more the role-playing route and say "I think I saw you last night peering
through my bedroom window trying to sneak a peek, you're so bad." It's kind of
funny kind of gamy but if she laughs, if she's into it, that's great, you're back
on track. Or if she says "definitely not" then maybe she's not so interested and
you might want to cut your loss. Another example of a bait text is "I just
realized what animal you remind me of" and
she asked "what animal?" then send her a picture of a really cute animal. Now, if
that doesn't work, then you're definitely in damage control. Meaning, you know
there's obviously a good chance she's just not interested at all but it
doesn't really hurt to send one more text. Now, if she still doesn't reply back,
then you can still do a last-ditch effort if you so wish which is step
#3 — Wait four to six or seven days and send her these four words:
"are you still alive?" Just "are you still alive?"
You'll be surprised at how often you will get a reply back.
Oftentimes, it's just a reply like "yep" which means to delete that number, don't
text her back anymore and of course, if she doesn't reply back, then just delete
the number. But if she answers with "oh my god, I've been so busy" or "I lost my phone
who is this?" then, there's still a chance. Don't over text her but send her some
more fun playful text because that will boost the attraction. She'll see that
you're a fun guy which means she's more likely to meet up with you because she
knows you'll be fun in person and if you need more playful text to boost the
attraction along with challenging text and make her chase you a little bit and
even texts that turn her on then make sure to get a free copy of the free
texting cheat sheet. There's a link down in the description and to the right of
the screen. Make sure to subscribe to this channel, if you're not already
subscribed. And hit that bell notification icon and we also have live
boot camps all around the world so if you want to know how to meet women in
person, on the street or any situation, then check out our boot camp schedule.
My name is Matt Artisan from The Attractive Man. I'll see you in the next video!