Look, try it for a week, it's nothing,
and you might think, “oh God”. What you'll find if it works is,
a, you don't get nearly as upset about the things that used to upset you.
And that'll be a shock, you'll think, “God, I would have flown off the
handle because of that before, and now it's hardly bothering me”.
So that's a lovely thing. And and then the second thing is,
if something bothers you, you'll recover way faster.
The first thing I would do if you're highly emotional,
like highly emotional, volatile, fly off the handle,
a lot of mood variation, a lot of negative emotion,
the first thing you might want to think about is whether or not there's actually
something wrong with you. Like, physically, you might be ill,
because illness can do that to people, and so you should go get yourself checked out,
you know, you might have an inflammatory condition or something like that.
The next thing I would check out is like, are you sure you're not hungry?
I'm dead serious about this, I mean, with many of my clients
who have been anxious, like a lot of them,
“I'm so anxious, I'm so anxious”. I had this one client,
she'd come in and she'd say, “God, you know, I'm just,
I'm so dead at the end of the day and I'm just wiped out, I've got no energy at all,
all I can do is lay down”. She was like 24.
“All I can do is lay down and watch like the same movie I watched
the night before, is that normal?” I was like, “Oh no, it's not”.
And I and I knew this, I said, “well, what do you eat?”
And she said, “well, I usually don't have any breakfast,
and then I have like a little bowl of rice for lunch,
and I usually have something like that for for dinner”.
And I thought, you live on two bowls of rice a day,
and you're wondering why when you come home at night
after a full day's work, you don't have any energy?
I said, “well, have you considered the possibility that you're starving to death?”
I said, “OK, look, here's what you do”. “Get up in the morning and like, have two eggs”.
You don't have to enjoy them. You know, because people say,
“well, I'm not hungry”. It's like, why is that relevant?
That's not the issue here, it isn't like gourmet time,
it's not starving to death time. So eat your two eggs, and maybe in
three months you'll enjoy it, and until then, it'll be like
chewing down rubbery cardboard, but it's not that big a deal.
So, you know, we upped her caloric intake by a factor of about four,
and she came back and was like, I think she came back two more times.
It's like, “oh, I have lots of energy now”. It's like, “oh, good,
you're not dying of starvation”. And I remember telling you,
like, if you're a volatile person, if you're a volatile person, try this,
eat a high protein, high fat meal in the morning, no sugar,
and a big one, like have a steak, have something solid,
and it doesn't matter if you like it, who cares? Cook it the night before,
if you don't want to cook it then, just try it for a week and see what happens.
My suspicions, I've had half my clients, I would say,
have dropped their volatility levels 50 percent by eating a high fat, high protein breakfast.
And then also notice that if you are crabby,
you know, and volatile and touchy and you can't get along with anyone,
go eat something, like have two teaspoons of peanut butter
and wait 10 minutes and see if you're still a witch.
So for some people, and then if you are a volatile person,
like your your blood sugar levels tend to move up and down more
because you stress yourself out more, for some people, that really matters,
and so look, try it for a week. It's nothing right, and you might think, “oh God”.
What you'll find if it works is, a, you don't get nearly as upset about
the things that used to upset you. So and that'll be a shock,
you'll think, “my god, I would have flown off the handle
because of that before, and now it's hardly bothering me”.
So that's a lovely thing. And then the second thing is,
if something bothers you, you'll recover way faster,
and so that's a good start. And so try that, that's
that's no harm, it's not going to hurt you. Try getting up at the same time every day,
that's really important. If you're sleep, wake cycle is not regular
and you're a volatile person, biochemically, genetically,
having a sleep wake cycle that's dysregulated, it's going to be very hard on you,
so it doesn't matter quite as much when you go to bed,
although it would be good to regularize that too, but at least pick a time.
You can pick whatever time you want, like I would recommend like 8 o'clock or 7:30,
because that's what normal people do. And unless you have a really
good reason not to be a normal person, you should start by trying to be a normal person
if you're being an abnormal person. So try to get up at the same time and try that,
you can combine that with eating and see, like my suspicions are 50 percent improvement
virtually immediately with that. There's lots of things you can try.
Sleep, that might be number one. Food, that's number two.
Number three, talk to someone. A professional if it's really out of hand because,
what do you want to do? You want to suffer terribly for the next 10 years?
And plus, if you do have a lot of excess negative emotion,
it's really hard on you cycle physiologically because you produce a lot of stress hormones
and that makes you old. So it's dangerous physically as well.
Having dysregulated negative emotion is no picnic man,
and it's really hard on the people around you as well.