An elegant woman can be beautiful, absolutely gorgeous.
However,
if this elegant woman doesn't have these 10 things that truly give away her
class, then she cannot call herself elegant.
Let's find out what those 10 things are. My dear elegant ladies,
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Let's jump straight into number one.
Elegant women are not desperate. Not only are we not desperate for men,
we do not run after men.
That is the golden rule if you are an elegant woman.
But we're also not desperate for people in general, meaning acquaintances,
friendships, et cetera.
Meaning that we do some boundaries and we work a lot with boundaries.
We understand our own value.
We therefore don't settle for less and we know how we should be treated.
We demand respect because after all, we respect others so at least,
people can respect us in return.
Point number two,
I just spoke about respect, but we also show others respect.
That's why we work so much with manners and etiquette.
Sometimes people think that, okay, well, these ladies,
they just think that they have to learn all these etiquette rules because
they think that that's what the affluent does so they have to do the same.
But in reality, it's actually not so much about that.
Certainly, you want to be able to navigate confidently in the
upper levels of society.
And sometimes, certain communities and groups of people,
they will have a stricter kind of code of conduct,
and they will perhaps apply stricter forms of etiquette. But actually,
the true reason why manners and etiquettes matter so much is because
that shows class. It doesn't show your wealth at all,
because class does not equal levels of wealth.
Not all wealthy people have class, unfortunately.
So that has nothing to do with the economic status of a person.
Class is something that has to do with respect. Again, how you treat others,
how you treat yourself, how compassionate you are,
how humble you are, et cetera.
Number three,
elegant women do not do any drama. And again,
this really shows a person's class as I just spoke about because women who
are constantly in battles, in fights,
having issues with people,
women who seem to be fighting with someone pretty much every single day.
Now that does not signal class,
that just signals that you're a drama queen and that
you're perhaps insecure and
that you have all kinds of issues going on with yourself. But elegant women,
they don't do drama. Okay? Yeah. I understand, life happens.
There might be an occasional feud here and there.
Not everything is picture perfect.
And this doesn't mean that you can never have any arguments or that you can
never feel upset, or anything like that. But elegant women,
they pick their battles,
stay away from reoccurring drama and dramatic people as well.
Number four, elegant women are not jealous.
So one thing that I really want you to know ladies is that when you upgrade in
your life on this level of journey, if you are in the beginning stage,
you're going to notice that, oh, nobody seems to be really jealous of me.
But the more you level up, the better your life becomes,
the more jealousy is going to occur in your life. Unfortunately,
ladies, this is unavoidable. It's part of life.
It's part of the game. And when I say jealousy,
I mean particularly female jealousy.
Men tend to be a little bit more aggressive when they're
jealous, however women,
they like to use psychology and become perhaps mean, passive-aggressive,
maybe start bullying or use all kinds of different tactics,
whenever they feel that uncomfortable feeling of jealousy.
They have to release that energy and that's when jealousy shows in the person.
Ladies, first I want you to know one thing is that there are two types of jealousy.
There is this one, very innocent, positive envy I call it.
Let's say, someone bought a new car and you don't have a car. I don't know.
Your car is maybe really awful,
uncomfortable to drive and really ugly on top of it.
And then your best friend comes in with this really beautiful,
Ferrari or something. And because you have this positive envy,
you would be looking at her and feel motivated to also work harder,
to also do better in your life so that you can afford getting a Ferrari,
just like she has. And then you have the maliciously jealous one,
the one who would look at her friend with that Ferrari and be maybe talking
behind this friend's back saying that,
she just slept with a bunch of guys in order to get that car. Or I don't know,
start inventing things that it's rented. It's not even hers. Or who knows,
maybe start saying that that color is hideous and who would on
earth get a cart in such color, how tacky?
But the thing is that elegant women, they are truly happy for one and another.
They don't feel ever really jealous.
If they feel some form of uncomfortable feelings that they start actually
questioning themselves. Why am I feeling like this? This has to do with me.
This has nothing to do with that person.
She has worked so hard to get that Ferrari. I should be happy for her,
but I cannot. Why can't I not be happy?
And then basically you start inquiring within yourselves. Elegant women,
they feel inspired by others' success because they know that then
it's even more possible and that maybe one day is going to then happen for them
as well.
Especially when you know that those people that you surround yourselves with,
you become like them.
So it is therefor so good to have people who do well in your life because their
success is going to transmit it to you.
And did you know actually that there are different types of elegant women?
So there isn't just one size fits all approach and that even an elegance.
Ladies,
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Number five, elegant ladies,
enjoy the finer things in life,
but they're never obsessed and they never really let that control their life.
So one of the stereotypes that I think a lot of us,
women who do enjoy the finer things in life,
or perhaps have chosen to live a more elegant refined life,
maybe enjoy nice luxuries in our everyday life of so on.
And oftentimes,
I feel like we do get quite misunderstood because a lot of the times people like
to point fingers and say that, oh,
you're just materialistic or you're so obsessed about the material things,
et cetera. And I feel like that is so far from the truth. It can be,
especially when I have really met a lot of elegant women
and also women in my community.
And you can actually see that elegance and the finer things in life for us has
nothing to do with being obsessed about materialistic things.
We don't let it rule our life.
We don't ever let it define our identity and we never ever
let it define our own personal value.
But what really gives us value is the value that comes from inside,
the confidence that we have worked on so long and the self-esteem,
the leveling of journey is really a self-empowerment journey.
And that's what I teach in my online finishing school in my signature program
called, Secrets Of The Elite Woman. If you want to join this program,
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Number six,
elegant women communicate clearly. Okay.
So I think you all know that when we are upgrading ourselves,
when we are leveling up, when we are refining ourselves,
the type of work that we do in my online finishing school,
we do work a lot with our communication, meaning that we stop swearing,
we stop using slang. We refine our vocabulary.
We understand what topics are appropriate to talk about and so on.
But did you actually know that there's so much more
to communication than just that?
Elegant women communicate clearly because do you know what happens when
you don't communicate clearly with people? Drama, fights, issues,
problems, et cetera.
And we really need to take ownership for ourselves because none of us are
picture perfect. We all come with our own issues and so on.
And unfortunately, many people just end up neglecting their issues.
They think that they're fine just the way they are,
or they don't want to really take that ownership because sometimes taking
ownership is a painful process. But elegant women,
they work on themselves. They understand that, okay.
I have some bad habits that I want to improve.
I want to improve primarily for myself,
but also for the people that I love around me.
And what happens when you start communicating clearly
is that you end up making yourself heard,
making others feel heard in a non-judgmental way,
listening to other people with compassion, not jumping to conclusions,
really try to keep your mind open.
All of these traits are very elegant and something that
an elegant woman must master.
Number seven, elegant women,
they celebrate their personality.
So another stereotype that I feel a lot of us get is that when we are in this
elegant journey,
people start thinking that we are trying to become someone we're not.
This journey is about primarily to remove all of those things that are
holding us back, holding our potential back, those bad habits,
those things that I just spoke to you about.
So it's about working on yourself to become
a better version of yourself and us,
we have chosen to add more of an elegant touch to ourselves because
elegance is ultimately just like a sub-culture.
It's like a personal style.
And I think that's what's really important to take into account.
So for this reason, ladies, you might be a different type of elegant lady,
and you can actually find that out by going to.
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take that what type of elegant lady you are quiz.
And ladies, don't forget,
it's free to just hop on over there after this video and do the little quiz.
Number eight. Now this really goes hand in hand with the previous point,
because if we are able to celebrate our own uniqueness,
then we definitely should be celebrating other people's uniqueness and
differences. So number eight is therefore,
elegant ladies never look down on people who are different.
First and foremost,
there is nothing that signals more class and elegance than being
open-minded and non-judgmental.
Just because you have chosen to be more of an elegant woman,
you have to remember that you are just embarking in a
sub-culture. This doesn't mean that people who are not elegant,
that they are bad or that they are to look down on on some level.
I don't like when women use elegance to feel superior to others.
I think it's not elegant behavior whatsoever.
It signals a low class and it's just something that I don't support.
I think it's important that we do have people who are different to us in our own
network, in our social circle, et cetera.
And also I want to talk a little bit about the fact that on my platform,
we reference a lot to plain janes and average joes.
Plain janes and average joes are really just a metaphor to symbolize where
we come from ourselves.
So I have been a plain Jane myself and I have lived with a very average Joe life.
But I have worked very hard on upgrading myself and upgrading my lifestyle to
kind of move away from that, because that was not right for me.
However, there are many people out there who, you know,
might be living average Joe lives. And you know what,
just because it's not right for me, it doesn't mean it's not right for them.
Doesn't mean that they're doing something bad or that we should be looking down
on them now, not at all. It just means that it's not where we want to be.
And that's what this expression, plain Jane and average Joe really symbolizes.
It's only a metaphor here on this channel.
I think we really need to understand that for some people, living a very simple,
modest life, that's what makes them really happy.
The same way they have to also understand that for some other people,
they want to have more extravagance. They want to have more elegance,
more flare of some sorts and that's okay too.
And not one or the other is bad or wrong and never should we try and
impose our views onto someone else. And for me,
that's the ultimate elegance when you can really accept everyone in their shape,
sizes of forms and never impose your own beliefs onto someone else.
Number nine, elegant women,
they give back to society somehow.
And what that means it can be anything.
It can be giving money once per month, as an example to a charity.
It can be helping out in your community, somehow, maybe volunteering.
It could be other ways you help out in whatever format that might be.
It can be that you're into philanthropy.
It can be that you are active in certain organizations.
There are so many ways we can give back to society,
but an elegant woman or an elegant person in general, really has to give back,
no matter on what level of finances you are, no matter where you are in life.
And I also want to really emphasize that when we give back,
it's really, shouldn't be done in a show off where in the, oh,
look at me, I'm giving back. I mean to philanthropy, look how good I am.
A little gold star to me. No ladies,
we give back discreetly.
Some charitable work of course will not be done discreetly.
Maybe it is to be involved in some form of charity publicly,
or go to some events or travel to some country to help out, et cetera.
That's nothing wrong doing so. So it's not about dismissing that.
But it's about that primarily,
your charitable work should be done in privacy.
Elegance is discretion. Remember that.
Now last but not least number 10, true elegant women with class,
they work on themselves and I'm talking about their emotional self.
We need to take responsibility for our emotional self because our emotional self
oftentimes comes in the very damaged format,
no matter what upbringing you've had. Maybe you've had a fantastic upbringing,
but along the journey of becoming an adult, going through being a child,
a teenager, adulthood, everything,
we start damaging ourselves somehow.
And these damages reflect in our emotional selves,
meaning that we are not always,
maybe the kindest person that we could be or the most patient person,
or the person who acts with the best mindset.
Because we have accumulated things that are holding us back and these type of
things, we can work on, we can resolve,
there are issues within us that can actually be healed.
And all of this happens as you know,
I spoken about thanks to therapy or spiritual work or reading
self-help books, or just, I don't know,
consulting your friends or whatever it can be.
But it's about seeking out on wanting to heal and
understand that you need to take ownership for your own issues
because only then will we be able to live in a better place when marriages will be happier,
children will be happier, relationships with parents,
with friends at work.
It all goes full circle and becomes easier to navigate,
easier to be in if we take ownership for our own issues.
If you haven't watched my next video, signs that tell you are not upper-class,
go to that video because I will see you in that video.