you're a man of action you live life to the fullest embrace your fears and
boldly charge your own path when life knocks you down you get back up one more
time every time you are not easily deterred defeated rugged resilient
strong this is your life this is who you are this is who you will become at the
end of the day and after all is said and done you can call yourself a man
gentlemen what is going on today my name is Ryan Michler and I am the host and
founder of this podcast the order of man I want to welcome you today whether
you've been tuning in for months or years or this is your first episode guys
this is a show dedicated to helping you become a better man in every facet of
your life from family that business to community service to your health and
relationships wealth everywhere in between I've got some really interesting
thoughts for you today regarding a term that seems to be thrown around more and
more that frankly just isn't true and it ends up painting an inaccurate picture
about what's really going on with the state of masculinity in the world today
but before I get into that I do want to let you know the time is nearly here
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it my first book I have no intention of writing a second book right now after
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of men health IQ comm slash order of men no announcements other than that today I
do want to get into this message again there's a term that's being tossed
around these days that's really been bothering me the more and more I think
about it the term is toxic masculinity and the reason that this term bothers me
is because frankly it it just doesn't exist
it's not real and to perpetuate the term I think is to do injustice to what it
means to be a man in the first place which is probably why that's pushed with
such a heavy hand I think there's this growing movement to undermine
masculinity in the term toxic masculinity and others like it is just
one way to spread the propaganda that somehow masculinity is bad or evil or
toxic and it just isn't the case masculinity by its very nature is good
its strong its assertive its productive that's caring its compassionate its
charitable and I'd even go so far as to say it's loving look a situation or a
man can either be toxic or masculine not both the term toxic masculinity would be
like saying it's light outside but kind of dark or my boss is a really nice jerk
or that guy is really wealthy but in a poor kind of way these are polar
opposite terms and cannot possibly work in harmony or unison now sure all men
have the capacity to be both I've been an arrogant prideful a-hole at
times in my life and separately I've used masculine virtues to create
productive outcomes for myself and those around me but never once have I
displayed quote-unquote toxic behavior while simultaneously utilizing my
masculine virtues they don't work together
and besides toxicity is gender-neutral it's neither masculine or feminine if it
were the term toxic femininity would also be used but it isn't a woman who is
overly caring kind and compassionate to a fault
wouldn't be considered toxic she would most likely be considered naive not even
the behavior of third wave feminists is considered toxic femininity I would
consider many of the rants and ideologies as bitter and resentful and
angry but I would not categorize some of the behavior I've seen as feminine at
all I can hear the naysayers now Ryan what about these macho guys that go
around treating everyone like garbage and manipulating them to get what they
want yeah what about them that isn't masculine behavior it's
childish and potentially evil but certainly not masculine I've had other
people say I guess it depends on how you define masculinity and I suppose that's
true but no one in their right mind would define masculinity as bad and I
guess that's kind of the problem isn't it I mean many people believe that
masculinity by its very nature is not good for society to hammer the point
home these people are not in the right mind they're damaged I don't say that to
antagonize or belittle them but to paint the picture that these people have been
hurt physically mentally emotionally or they've seen others hurt and in order to
protect themselves from future pain they've created a false reality that all
men not just the ones who hurt them are bad but let me explain something that
many people seem to overlook correlation does not equal causation
just because an evil individual happens to be male does not make all males
inherently evil or only males evil that sounds absurd even when saying it but
there's thousands and thousands not millions of people who believe they
are so I hope by this point we're all on the same page here because it's critical
that we as men unite in an effort to share with the world all the good that
is masculinity we have allowed a few a few to damage the very idea of
masculinity for all of us so how do we do this very simply guys it starts with
you it starts with a way that you show up in your family in your business your
community the fact is there's people out there looking at you and watching you
they're modeling your behavior and then they're framing their opinions based on
how you as a man interact with the world the way we reclaim what it is to be a
man is to behave like the men that we're capable of being and to show our
families and our employees and our neighbors how righteous and honorable
men step up to serve others service is the foundation of what it means to be a
man protect provide preside all three
represent a level of service to others there's this growing movement to quote
unquote redefine masculinity that's not the problem at all
the problem is that it's already been redefined by those who have either been
damaged by men or for whatever reason have created a false reality about the
way we as men are designed to operate with our time here on this planet
masculinity does not need to be redefined it needs to be reclaimed it
won't be found in the boy who never learns what it meant to be a man it
won't be found in the women who try to teach us what they will never fully
understand it won't be found by the man who has created an unhealthy response to
his own life's circumstances it won't be found by the man who refuses to own his
thoughts and his behaviors and his actions it will be found by you and me
the men who work hard to provide for their families the man who wakes up
early and he stays up late to help his children do their homework now the man
who risked his livelihood to create a business that will bring a product or a
service and jobs to the marketplace the man who coaches his children's and
community sports teams the man who helps a neighbor mow their lawn the man who
loses himself in serving and lifting others
up that is what it means to be a man and that is what we need to reclaim from the
boys who disguised themselves as men and those who are out to undermine the value
that each and every one of us have the opportunity to provide in our families
our businesses and our communities gentlemen that's all I have for you
today please I ask that you share this message with the world I think it's a
message that represents the vast majority of the way most men and women
think and feel we've been silent for too long and allowed others to dictate what
makes us who we are so share this podcast episode on Instagram Twitter
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