porn brain reboot i know it's hard but i know it can be done and this is how you can succeed
i'm dr trish lee with your monday motivation and today what i want you to know is that this can be
done someone commented asking for more motivation because it's so hard and i want you to know it is
hard but hard things can be done and it will make you stronger unfortunately the challenges in life
are when you can show up when you can have the strength that you don't need in the easier moments
so i'm going to give you the brain tip for today though but it goes back to i'm going to motivate
you and inspire you to do this and to stay the course this is the brain tip you have to succeed
find a way to succeed so if you are not succeeding at the levels that you want to right now
then you're gonna have to back it up and go down a level or two get some small wins under your
belt and i'll give you specifics in a second but the neuroscience behind it shows that when
you are winning you will continue to move towards that path if it's too hard and you have too many
perceived failures they're perceived in air quotes because if you slip up but you take the
opportunity to break it down and learn from it and you change something you have to change something
if you change something and move forward more successfully from the slip-up
you can keep the positive feedback loop of long-term change going so last week was a
rough week for me i had i'm training new people to work with me it was a wee bit of a rough one and i
talked with so many people that are struggling in this reboot journey that are not succeeding
and what i did and what i encourage you to do is to stop give yourself space and time to see what
isn't working and i had to do this after i vented to the hubs and one of my kids called down ma
you know mama they call me mama which is so cute what are you doing i'm like chilling with dad
and then i'm like not really chilling with dad i'm stressing with dad what do you need
because we were problem solving some of the issues that i had for the week and i was telling
the hubs i was breaking it down like okay this thing's stressing me out and this isn't working
and then i'm like okay i'm gonna change it this way and that's what i want you to do what isn't
so if you are struggling you have to make it an action step make it actionable and succeed so
we know from uh the reboot journey that the first couple cravings and urges and being able to run
not walk in the opposite direction to do something else that's usually the hardest part for people
getting that first win instead of giving in to the urge being able to succeed and i talked
with someone last week who told me i literally ran outside and started lifting heavy stuff and
doing yard work and before you know it the urge subsided that is a tip that i've given in another
video you have to run not walk in the opposite direction you have to change your physical and
mental environment when an urge comes on and when you do that you can succeed when you succeed the
first time you now are a person who can avoid the urges you've proven it to yourself you have to get
that first win under your belt so let's do that make action steps change your routine if you're at
risk on fridays when your family leaves and goes out for dinner go to dinner with them or go visit
a friend don't sit at home and put yourself at risk in that physical environment you're going to
make it harder on yourself figure out one action step that you can take this week to succeed
and then succeed and then pat yourself on the back or better yet get yourself a latte yep more coffee
get yourself something that feels good to you so that in fact next week is a better
one because you've proven to yourself through your action steps that you got this and you do
have it and that's exactly what i did after i was stressing with the hubs then i wasn't stressing
anymore because i know what i'm going to do i've actually already done a couple of them to change
those feelings inside of me so that i know i can do it next week you can do it too stay the
course what doesn't kill you makes you stronger and i know it doesn't feel good in the moment
but it feels good the next moment remember you're going for long term gain short term loss because
you're not going to get the dopamine hit that you want but if you run and not walk towards another
dopamine producing activity you're gonna get some dopamine and you're gonna prove to yourself that
you in fact can do this you can do it i'm here for you keep watching the videos i started a new
podcast go check it out because i wax and wayne a little bit more about my personal experiences
in this journey and in life and if you want support please reach out to me at drtrishleigh.com
because i would love to help you and remember control your brain or it'll control you