morning to you so uh yeah i am getting ready to leave i'm a little bit early today so i'm
getting ready to fly out um my uber gets here in about 30 minutes i don't know why i just checked
my bracelets to see what time it is but apparently that's gonna do me some favors so anyway you guys
um what we're gonna talk about today is how to be better
and this is very very simple it's gonna be a relatively short video but i would like to bring
everybody's attention to the fact that i look like i'm in some sort of old man smoking room
anybody imagine that there's like um you know rich mahogany in the room around me and
a library of leather-bound books i'm sorry my background just makes me
makes me think about that anyway okay so how to be better you guys um hey andrea i see you there i
how to be better here's what people don't realize um people don't realize that
what they see is what they're looking for let's just say it is as easily as that right and so if
we are looking for things to be upset about if we're looking for things to be disappointed in
if we're looking for things to and maybe maybe we're not looking at maybe we're not looking
for them with the goal in mind hey i want to be mad then and i i would say that that's probably
not most people i would say that they don't actively look for things hey i want to be mad
but again primal mind reptilian minds uh behind the scenes driver of the bus
is saying i don't feel good and i want to feel better
i don't feel good if there's something for me to low hanging fruit is if there's something
that i want if there's something that makes me upset that i can push back against that i
can gain superiority over okay we see this all the time guys that i can gain superiority over
then i in in turn by proxy can make myself feel better right now in this moment if you wonder why
people do the things that they do where they look like they're being maybe hateful or they
look like they're being um mean or they look like they're just trying to drudge up stuff
it's probably not because forefronts although there are trolls those
people exist right but it's probably not forefront in their minds i want to wake up and be a total
jerk today what's forefront in their mind is i have something stressing me out and i have
something making me feel really bad about myself and i need something else to counteract that
that then puts me in control or puts me in a higher level seat if that makes sense you guys
so now that we know why that stuff happens what we really need to understand is that
what we look for is what we're going to find and is what we're going to experience this can be
uh this can be explained many different ways like i had a student the other day that saw a yellow
corvette in i think they were at a restaurant or at a grocery store or something and they posted
it in one of my student groups and they were like i thought martha was i thought martha was here it
was crazy because i have a yellow corvette and uh and that's that's funny so now like
when my people see a yellow corvette they're gonna think of me like oh my gosh um and how
many times do you you know like maybe you go car shopping and you really want this red car
right and you just keep looking at all these red cars maybe you're online on carguru or whatever
and you're looking at all these red cars and man whenever you go out and you're driving gosh all
you seem to see are red cars you're training your brain because you're it's you're looking for red
cars and now your brain every time you see a red car is going to be like there's one too there's
one too there's one too because you literally are telling it that's what you're looking for
and so it's by no coincidence it's not like all of a sudden there are more red cars around you
it's that you're noticing more red cars okay so now let's apply that to just good or bad okay
so if you wake up and you watch the news and you do all the things um the news will put you in
a tone it'll put you in a place where it's gonna tell you all the bad things that are happening and
so your brain's like bad stuff bad stuff bad stuff and then you go out into the world you're like bad
stuff bad stuff bad stuff your brain is wired to look for the bad well what if you choose different
are you sensing a theme with my videos yet what if you choose different
what if instead you you decide okay let me look for some good stuff let me look for
what's happening good in the world let me look for opportunities
let me look for people to help let me look for um you know business opportunities or let me look for
uh places in the community that i could show up or that need me right what if you look for that
what if you train your brain to look for that instead of the negative what you find
is what you seek and i could say it the other way around which is true what you seek you will find
and so we have to be very responsible is the word with our minds and what we decide to seek
and a lot of us chaotically not right or wrong but chaotically we show up in our life every single
day and we kind of let other things dictate what we are seeking but what if we take responsibility
for what we seek what if we wake up in the morning you know that's why gratitude journaling
is fantastic is because it puts you in the mindset of looking for things to be grateful for
so it literally it sets your filter for the day so if anybody's ever like i wonder why gratitude
journaling is good that's why i mean it's also good to be thankful and all of that stuff but
you don't have anything to be thankful for if you're not looking for things to be thankful for
so that's it sets your your world view for that day which is great so my challenge to you guys
is to choose to to seek something today that you have chosen to seek not that you accidentally seek
and not that you just sloppily chaotically or kind of just made to seek but choose
you're going to see your world start changing and it happens
very very quickly and it can even be so micro as choosing to see your kids behaving well
choosing to see all of the good things your spouse does choosing to see all of that it's almost like
they know and start doing everything right right in your mind right i dare you to try it i dare you
because our world view is a sneaky thing that uncovers our own character the way that we see
the world is a direct testament to what we're looking for and a direct testament to our own
inner lives because it's what our brain is looking for okay and so when we change what we seek into
a positive thing there's a direct reflection and a direct change that happens inside of us
when we change what we decide to see on the outside so um that was it was a little deep it
was a little deep for a thursday morning and it was a little early for thursday mornings or all
of that i love you guys i'm gonna pop out of here i have to um head over to the airport but uh you
guys are the best have the best day i would love to if you want to share in the comments later what
this has done for you maybe later on tonight maybe tomorrow whenever i would love to see the stuff
that this is actually doing for you guys because i know it's powerful stuff so adios love you bye