9 ‘Reasons’ Why Older Men Go For Younger Women
The world of heterosexual dating and relationship wisdom is a fascinating, mysterious place, filled
with chimerical half-truths, blatant falsehoods, and things just strange enough to be true. One
of the later facts is the statistical age gap between men and the women they message and date.
Christian Rudder, a blogger for OKCupid, did a fascinating study in 2010 using the site’s data
on men and women’s age preferences. Rudder found that women’s desirability peaks at 21,
and that not only do men state their age preferences very young, they tend
to message younger women. They try to attract younger women when they are online, and even
usually prefer dating younger than their stated preferences. In other words, according to Rudder,
men in their 30’s spend as much time messaging teenage girls as women their own age. Yikes.
The article itself is a fascinating read on the raw data, but it doesn’t really get into
the reasons that the age gap might exist. So here are nine, um, reasons people have proposed
that men go for younger women. They are...to say the least, very interesting! Whether they
want to date younger women or simply just attract younger women, the reasons sure are interesting!
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Now, keep watching to find out some of the reasons why older men go for younger women!
1. Men don’t find older women as attractive as younger women:
That’s Rudder’s primary reason in the article. She actually says the phrase “Many of you are probably
scoffing at the idea that many 35 year-olds are as attractive as many 25 year-olds,”. The fact is,
men tend to be more attracted to younger women who have more youthful appearances, and prefer
to have younger women as girlfriends. Those this isn’t the truth for all men, it is certainly a
preference. The same can be said for men who like older women - it’s just a preference to them.
Certain men prefer women who are more youthful looking, while certain men prefer other types
of women - it’s all in the preferences, but this one should pretty much be a no brainer, right?
2. Because they’re afraid of death: In a recent interview on aging, Stacey London
of “What Not To Wear” fame said, “Maybe there’s a fear of mortality when men watch women age,
and that it’s just too much of a mirror.” See, I personally like that interpretation
because it implies that women are immortal and do not fear death. In an seriousness, though,
there could be something subconsciously going on in certain men’s minds that could explain why they
go for younger women. I think we can all agree that one of our biggest fears in life is death,
so it kind of would make sense if men choose younger women because subconsciously they are
scared of growing older and eventually dying, and would prefer a younger girlfriend because of this.
Don’t worry, we’ve still got 7 more reasons to show you why older men go for younger women!
Do you want to know how it works the other way around? We’ll also tell you about certain
reasons why younger women go for older men! Stay tuned until the end to find out!
3. Because younger women literally make them live longer: Okay, this sounds like a little outrageous
- does it not? Well, a study done by Sven Drefahl of the University of Stockholm found that men
(over fifty) with much younger spouses tended to live for longer. I mean, the study didn’t control
for health (which might affect both how much men are able to get younger women and how long they
live) but didn’t Hugh Hefner live until he was like 90 gazillion years old? Well, the truth is,
some studies do state that older men who are with younger women tend to live longer, so this
could be a valid reason (whether they even know it or not) that men go for the younger ladies!
4. Younger women are more permissive: In a recent article, the site “Meaww” suggested
that younger women can be “all right with things that older women would not be” and that older men
go for them to “achieve fantasies which they may not have lived with older women.” Well,
this could be true, but it all entirely depends on the person. Some younger women may or may
not be into certain “things”, while the same can be said for older women. The stereotype
is that younger women and girlfriends are usually more willing to have fun,
go on adventures, and do risky things - which could be a reason why older men go for them!
Keep watching as we continue to count down the top reasons why older men go for younger women!
5. Older men need ego massages all the time. Younger girlfriends are available to do that,
according to relationship experts. Relationship experts who give dating tips to both older and
younger women state that older men prefer dating girlfriends who are not only younger women, but
can also give them an ego boost. When an older man goes on a date with a younger woman, it gives him
an ego boost and not only makes him feel younger, but makes him feel superior to others as well.
6. Because women their age aren’t in their fertile crescent anymore: Professor Madeleine Fugere,
author of The Social Psychology of Attraction and Romantic Relationships,
echoes many evolutionary psychologists when she says that men dating younger women is all about
“ensuring that a prospective partner is fertile.” Well, if so, bad news for the dudes: your sperm’s
got an expiration date, too (starting around age 40). Time to grab a date and find a girlfriend!
7. Because women their age are Too Into Having Children: In a survey of responses on Whisper,
an anonymous confession site, a frequent theme was that men were tired of dating women
their age who kept nagging them to have children before the alarm on their biological clock goes
off. Seems that these older men are looking for all the wrong things in relationships!
8. Because of insecurity: Now-disgraced Male Feminist™ and academic Hugo Schwyzer wrote in
a 2011 article that middle-aged men go for younger women because they’re insecure and
“they don’t seem to value validation from women their own age as much as they value
it from women 10 to 25 years younger.” Well, here’s some dating advice for your next date,
older guys: both younger women and older women love confidence,
so ditch that insecurity, especially if you want to attract younger women!
9. Because younger women have lower self-esteem/lower confidence/lower
expectations: This reason is more anecdotal than scientifically tested, but many people
seem to agree about this one on the internet - particularly older men. Here’s a newsflash:
if you're getting into relationships with much younger women specifically because
you l feel like you have more power, it’s not a good thing. No matter who you’re dating,
no matter how old you both are, you have to be prepared to see your partner as an equal.
Now that you know the top reasons why older men tend to go for younger women,
here are some of the reasons why women tend to go for younger or older men!
Maturity: younger women like older men because not only are they more established and secure,
but they are also more wise and mature. They are done with their younger,
single ways and don’t tend to play as many games as most younger men do. So if
you are an older man and want to attract younger women, make sure that your maturity is in check!
They know how to treat a lady: younger women who go on dates with older men like the fact
that the man knows how to treat a lady - whether it be by holding the door for her
or just holding up a conversation that is both mature and stimulating. Older men are also more
old fashioned and traditional, and are more prone to treating younger women with respect
and traditional values, which is difficult to find in the dating world this day and age!
They know what they want: older men are more established and more sure of what they want.
If they want to have a relationship that is more serious, or are just looking for a casual date,
they will be upfront about it. Most older men avoid playing games and are more upfront and
honest when they are on a date with younger women. They are straightforward, honest,
and aren’t afraid to tell women what they want and what they are feeling. They don’t beat around
the bush and would much rather be honest about what they want than lead a younger woman on.
So, what do you think? Are you attracted to older or younger people, or do you tend to
go for people who are the same age as you? Let us know in the comments section below!
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