The ability to plan for the future is a cornerstone of our civilization.
The human race would never have flourished if we didn’t organize, arrange, design,
prepare, and delay gratification for greater causes.
Take, for example, this structure: the Kölner Dom, which is a massive cathedral in the German
city of Cologne.
The construction began in 1248 and was completed no earlier than 1880, taken into account that
the project was halted for about three-hundred years.
Nevertheless, this meant that generations of people have spent lifetimes building something
that they’d never see finished.
So, this displays how the human capacity for long term planning can lead to mind-blowing
achievements, like traveling to the moon, and, in all likelihood, a manned trip to Mars.
But there’s a fundamental difference between planning and worrying.
Planning is constructive and focuses on our own actions in a conceptual future, while
worrying is trying to control the uncontrollable by repeating possible and even unrealistic
scenarios over and over again.
Our worries can even consist of fantasies that are totally out of touch with reality.
Therefore, as opposed to planning, it’s destructive.
Nevertheless, we keep worrying because, for some reason, we think that this is going to
help us in one way or another.
Unfortunately, worrying generally does more harm than good.
This video lays out reasons to stop worrying.
(1 )The vast majority won’t happen
There’s one thing certain about the future, which is that the future is uncertain.
History has known numerous people that claimed to have the power of foresight, but their
predictions have mostly been vaguely true or downright false.
And sure, from a deterministic perspective, the future is already written in the stars.
But did someone ever succeed at reading them?
As long as we are constrained by time, we perceive the future as an empty canvas.
Anything can happen, which is a blessing and a curse at the same time.
Our minds, however, do not like uncertainty.
This is why religions that offer answers regarding human destiny can be so comforting, as they
feel secure because they fill the empty canvas with something substantial.
But even for a religious person, life can be extremely daunting: as they might have
knowledge about the afterlife; whether they’ll be sent to heaven or hell, or what life on
earth has in store for them is still a mystery.
Faced with an uncertain future, our minds tend to create possible scenarios.
When it comes to preparedness, this is actually a good thing.
Because thinking ahead gives us an advantage, as we calculate the possibilities, so we can
take the necessary measures based on speculations.
For example, knowing that financially difficult times are coming, we can prepare for them
by spending less and saving more.
But when we worry, our minds are mass-producing predictions, even about things that don’t
really matter, and, even worse, repeating them over and over again.
The problem is that in the present moment, a situation that we have created hundreds
of possible outcomes for unfolds only in one particular way.
Moreover, chances are that this situation won’t even happen!
We could figure out a million possibilities and still be wrong.
What’s the point of the impossible task of figuring out exactly what the future is
going to bring?
There’s no point.
As author Eckhart Tolle states: “worry pretends to be necessary but serves no useful purpose”.
(2) We can’t control the future
Trouble arises when we want to control the future.
To control the future, the mind tries to think about it as it were the present.
The mind somehow thinks that by calculating every possible option, it will gain control
in the end.
If we’d know what exactly would happen, then we’d indeed have an advantage in regards
to our own actions: we’d know, for example, when our relationships end, and what stocks
we need to buy to become rich.
But the future is still out of control; the only difference is that we already know what
happens, which makes it no different than the past.
And we can’t control the past, either.
The only thing we can control are our own actions in the here and now.
A cause for procrastination, for example, is the inability to retreat from past and
future, and focus on the task at hand instead.
In the present moment, we can create a new past, and influence the future, but this requires
us to keep our focus on what we can do right now.
By compartmentalizing a task, we can work on manageable pieces, which makes it much
easier to focus, as we forget the end result for a while, and only think in terms of hours,
sessions, or days.
This relieves us from the undermining weight of goals that seem almost impossible to reach,
while still working on them in the best possible ways.
Worrying only keeps us from acting.
And the more we live in the future, the more our anxiety sabotages our efforts to make
a change.
As it’s written in the Bible: “Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow
will worry about itself.
Each day has enough trouble of its own.”
End quote.
Or in Seneca’s On The Shortness of Life:
“You are arranging what lies in Fortune’s control, and abandoning what lies in yours.
What are you looking at?
To what goal are you straining?
The whole future lies in uncertainty: live immediately.”
End quote.
(3) We often don’t value certain events properly
A hallmark of chronic worriers is that they desire certain outcomes while being averse
to others.
For example, many people worry about social interaction because they want to be liked,
or about their jobs because they’re terrified of losing them.
By exploring many possible scenarios, the mind tries to prevent what it’s averse to
from happening and incur what it desires.
But, again, the future is uncertain.
And for that exact reason, we don’t know if the things that we want to happen are truly
good, and things that we don’t want to happen are truly bad.
There’s a Taoist story that portrays what happens to people who judge based on what
they don’t know.
This story tells about an old farmer, whose horse ran away.
After they heard the news, his neighbors came to visit and said:
“Such bad luck.”
“Maybe,” answered the farmer.
But the next morning the horse came back, accompanied by three wild horses.
“That’s so wonderful,” the neighbors exclaimed.
“Maybe,” replied the old man.
The next day, the farmer’s son tried to ride one of the wild horses, but he was thrown
and broke his leg.
“What a misfortune,” the neighbors said full of sympathy.
“Maybe,” answered the farmer.
The next day, military officials came to the village to draft the farmer’s son into the
army.
But when they noticed the broken leg, they passed him by.
Then, the neighbors congratulated the old farmer, telling him how lucky he is that his
son is spared from war.
The farmer replied: “maybe”.
This Taoist story shows that we can’t judge what’s desirable or undesirable when it
comes to present events, because we don’t know how things will turn out.
Things that seem bad, may turn out to be blessings and vice versa.
Thus there’s no point in desiring certain outcomes if we cannot judge their value.
Maybe, losing a job is the best thing that could happen to us.
Maybe, losing our money leads to us living a much happier life.
We just don’t know.
But it’s comforting to keep in mind that every cloud has a silver lining.
To conclude this video, it’s essential to mention that worrying is terrible for our
health.
Worrying comes from a place of fear, and only generates more fear, which makes it a vicious
downward spiral.
The chronic anxiety that comes from worrying affects the immune system and can lead to
physical illness.
And when we become more receptive to illness, we have given ourselves yet another thing
to worry about.
Being aware of the devastating consequences, combined with the knowledge that the majority
of the things we worry about won’t happen, and that we can’t correctly judge present
events, we might want to prioritize our mental hygiene over all those things that we can’t
control anyway.
Thank you for watching.